Type 6 and Type 8 Relationship

[MissDucki]

Type 8's are probably one of my favored type for romantic relationship beside 3's. I understand type 3's very well but the 8's can be a mystery to me at times and I was wondering how to possibly navigate relationships with type 8 easier and gain their trust. Type 8's tend to end up with either type 2's or 6's for long term partners. Type 2 and 8 relationship I have often been discussed but not 8 and 6.

I know 8 and 6 can be rocky for the first little bit but when trust is gained, I hear it is one of the most solid relationships ever. Just want other thoughts on this kind of pairing too.

[Beautiful sky]

I’m a 2 and I get on quite well with the intense 1 and 8s

[Fluffy Princess Unicorn]

Assuming I'm typed correctly finally, which is possible, since Enneagram does a horrible job at covering counterphobic 6's...I have a love/hate thing with 8s. A lot of shared values, but sometimes butt heads over "RESPECT MUH AUTONOMY" issues.



Funny enough, 8s usually actually like that, as they respect those who share their values of standing up for themselves/their independence, and they like those who challenge them.

It can make for some pretty intense sexual tension if you're both into power dynamics in bed. I have a feeling I'm not the only counterphobic 6 who is a "bratty sub"...outside of the bedroom, though, good luck with that sub part.

[WVW]

For me, 6s anxiety can be attractive in some people and incredibly annoying in others. For the most part, I like their company. I think 6s may like 8s because they are in their head worrying over some problem, 8s don't like to think and ruminate and they want to shake them out of this state and bring 6s to action.

I knew a 6 who was up for a promotion to a new position. They had a hard time seeing themselves in the role, suffered from imposter syndrome badly. An 8 would be stupid enough to take a leadership role just because. 8s don't always make the best leaders, but they usually end up being the leader for this reason.

[Fluffy Princess Unicorn]

One of my best friends is a a lot like 6. There's not much to say about it, it's kind of just a natural friendship.

The answer to your question probably comes down to shared values more than Enneagram. 8s value being straightforward, direct, a bit ballsy, suspicious of subtlety or beating around the bush. My 6-ish friend is a bit like that, but it partly comes from her culture. The Dutch are that way.

There's a limit. I usually butt heads with other 8's because we go head to head. IRL and on here both, but the self-typed ones in the typology community are usually just half-witted egotistical try-hards that act more like they have some sort of machiavellian-related disorder (one of the Cluster B's) and less like actual 8's (they show none of the strengths of 8's, are not triggered by injustices, don't have a thing for innocence, etc). There are a few exceptions.

Typology aside, the key in just about any relationship compatibility matter is having enough in common to relate with each other, but enough differences to compliment each other and spice things up a bit.

[Pookie]

8s most of the time are bad friends, because they kind of act like bullies.

6s most of the time came from trauma, and need a monster friend.