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    I used to know an ENFJ who i would regularly chit chat with, and i was surprised by the length to which she would try to help me, but then again my expectations may just be low. every time i asked she would give advice. or even if i didnt ask she would give advice, despite us not officially being friends, and she was nice to me while everyone else ignored me. i saw her later after she moved, and she was walking around in the lobby back and forth in front of me and i was trying to figure out if it was her, and i realized, so i lit up and started a conversation and she seemed so excited to see me again, and i opened up to her and she didn't mind. i told her "I missed you so much, oh my gosh" and she said, "really? i missed you too... (or at least i think she added that last part she was at least happy we were talking so fast) and i told her i saw on her moms social media she wanted to be a doctor and she said she changed her mindand told me what majors she was considering, and asked about what i was majoring, etc. and encouraged mewhen i said i felt bad it was low pay (i wanted to study translation). i asked if i could addheron social media and she said yes but that her "phone wasnt working" and when i saw her later with an INFp girl i said hi to she said she would add me later when i asked if her phone was working but she never did.
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    Why would an ENFJ/EIE be nice to you when no one else was?

    Well, it depends on who is around you.. What Quadra you are, what Quadra most pre-dominated the atmosphere.. If she was considering being a doctor, she wanted help others.. She probably with her Ni creative saw pattern of you being down or not being accepted by others, and being Fe base and concerning with emotional atmosphere and wanting regulate it, she wanted to regulate you, you being apart of the atmosphere.She sounds like a possible 2w3..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Braingel View Post
    Why would an ENFJ/EIE be nice to you when no one else was?

    Well, it depends on who is around you.. What Quadra you are, what Quadra most pre-dominated the atmosphere.. If she was considering being a doctor, she wanted help others.. She probably with her Ni creative saw pattern of you being down or not being accepted by others, and being Fe base and concerning with emotional atmosphere and wanting regulate it, she wanted to regulate you, you being apart of the atmosphere.She sounds like a possible 2w3..
    She's actually an enneagram 9, and to be clear the older adults liked me i just didnt know how to click with youth. i get along with old people surprisingly well for instance. EDIT: Actually youre right maybe she is a type 2.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Braingel View Post
    Why would an ENFJ/EIE be nice to you when no one else was?

    Well, it depends on who is around you.. What Quadra you are, what Quadra most pre-dominated the atmosphere.. If she was considering being a doctor, she wanted help others.. She probably with her Ni creative saw pattern of you being down or not being accepted by others, and being Fe base and concerning with emotional atmosphere and wanting regulate it, she wanted to regulate you, you being apart of the atmosphere.She sounds like a possible 2w3..
    and I'm an INTj

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    but i did have one main friend, and later some others.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Braingel View Post
    Why would an ENFJ/EIE be nice to you when no one else was?

    Well, it depends on who is around you.. What Quadra you are, what Quadra most pre-dominated the atmosphere.. If she was considering being a doctor, she wanted help others.. She probably with her Ni creative saw pattern of you being down or not being accepted by others, and being Fe base and concerning with emotional atmosphere and wanting regulate it, she wanted to regulate you, you being apart of the atmosphere.She sounds like a possible 2w3..
    what I'm trying to figure out is if she likes me as more than a friend tbh. EDIT: and im actually more popular now than when she lived in my city.

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    Your interactions in person >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> your interactions online..... try and hang out with her

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    Quote Originally Posted by rtht View Post
    Your interactions in person >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> your interactions online..... try and hang out with her
    thanks for the encouragement, means a lot.

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    Maybe they’re interested in you
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