My turn to change or add some stuff!1!1!
1. I agree
2. I agree (make it offensive and/or sarcastic! then I might join in with a joke sometimes)
3. I agree, this is probably the second biggest one IMO (Not only logical help, practical help is much appreciated also! Reciprocal help is just perfection in a relationship!)
4. I HIGHLY disagree. Si is NOT about caretaking, food, dress, or health... I'm trying to work on reversing the stereotypes and stop people from thinking that it is about "pleasurable sensations" or "caretaking" or "homeostasis". I hate being asked to fuss over food, health, dress, when I can't even do those things properly for myself at all, it stresses me out on so many levels.. I'd much rather the other person take care of that themselves.
5. I agree, except I don't think it's the biggest one... I don't like undeserved praise and people being overly appreciative for what was really nothing to me.
6. The other person doesn't have to give spontaneous fun at all, like... I disagree that Alpha SFs need a shake up or that they have a hard time doing it... I feel pretty sufficient in the shakeup area even though my life isn't totally chaotic and shooken up. Be yourself and offer whatever kind of activity and I will offer whatever kind of activity... and naturally so on.
Additions to the list:
1. Be supportive of each other's ambitions - This is the biggest one IMO - In the first stage of a relationship, obviously, you aren't going to offer them serious help. I mean you should both admire and appreciate each other's life long goals and if you conflict there, it's best to leave each other peacefully.
Anything else might just be personal preference
For some reason my ILE boyfriend wants to talk about physical "sensory" (if you want to call it that) stuff and he can do it for hours straight with SEIs that are more physically, sensorically inclined than me whilst I get bored to tears listening to it, but I suck it up... I don't really know how to respond or even talk to someone about physical stuff like that without accidentally brushing it off or simplifying it... Thank goodness he understood my pain and told me he wouldn't talk about it anymore. Fortunately he also likes to crack jokes and talk about his ideas although I don't know what is meant by theory or "up in the air" concepts...
I would say that if you are the kind of person that wants to settle and relax and you find an ILE that doesn't want to, don't force him to do what he does not want to do at all. You shouldn't act like you know what is best for someone else, but only yourself. The best thing SEIs can do is encourage (but not force!!!) ILEs to go for the more ambitious options that will really further them in their dreams. In a relationship, some compromises must be made so you can both achieve your goals without obstruction.
Personally I don't mind moving around a lot, but I need to at least be in the same country where my goals can still work out. Somehow my ILE is more about settling and relaxing than me, but we have different ideas of where to go that sometimes conflict, through proper communication and trying to understand each other we figured it out. Lol and a LII told me to calm down recently...