
Originally Posted by
Braingel
My benefit has saved me, but me tuning him out with my Ni from his Ne and PolR Se, it took far longer to in me, seep. He influenced me to stop fixating on the closest to what I had as a friend leaving. I was suicidal over her for 2 years.. And he just kept throwing it back at me, that she is not real anymore, she now is a concept since the old her is not the now her.. And eventually it just clicked into me, but my Fe did not want agree, the emotional state.
He is too soft, which it in a way is good since that is delicacy, but sometimes I need a bit more pressure (but not overly harsh) to actually snap into place, but my emotion always must be validated in that so doing. Apart of what makes SLE is great is that they validate as they push, and they seeking the Ni also aim to look at grander scheme, despite not being in its greatness. I need just the right balance of harsh and gentle, I need it simultaneously, but maybe a little less pressure than would expect for normal IEI, since of my being a 4 core and also highly sensitive. I need like 45% harsh, 55% gentle. That is right on money for me to be pushed well by others and to get through to. People are either way too on me, soft, or way too overly harsh. There is no balance and it is an extremity.
I can see how identical can save you from pain with passing on wisdom learned.