Originally Posted by
Adam Strange
Hi, Trevor.
It's never too late to find a great match.
As for the woman you are planning to meet soon, be aware that many, many people are mis-typed, and only you can decide if she is right for you.
I've had dates with both Conflictors and with Duals. In my case, my Conflictor was smart, attractive, super-nice, and just a wonderful woman, and I was internally climbing the walls after an hour. The date lasted three hours and it about killed me.
The dates with the Duals have gone better. Not perfectly, because you are talking to someone that you've never met before and you really have no idea about who they are as a person, and what kind of baggage they brought with them, so cut them a lot of slack, and if you feel nothing towards them (and nothing means no downside), there's a pretty good chance that they are a Dual. My dates with Duals last eight hours and we don't get tired and we don't get bored. Mainly, we don't get on each other's nerves.
Now, having said that, I have an ENFJ (IEE) bookkeeper who just started dating again at age 48 or so, and she is looking for an ISTp (SLI) Dual. With my help, she found one and they dated and she said he was the best in bed, but he wasn't smart enough for her so she ended it and now she's back in the pool. What I'm saying is that Duality is a great feature for your date to have, but Duality alone is not a guarantee of happiness.
So one thing you might want to be aware of, because it took me by surprise when I first encountered Socionics after knowing MBTI, is the introverted J/P switch. In other words, an MBTI extrovert xxxP is a Socionics xxxp (no switch, lower case, but not everyone follows this convention), but an MBTI introvert xxxP is a Socionics xxxj. Some people say that the switch isn't perfect, but I'd say it works most of the time.
The way I discovered this was by giving an MBTI test to a woman I work with, and she got ISFJ, which I interpreted as ISFj (my Dual), and I said to her, "Guess who's your Dual?" (When she was my Conflictor).
She replied, her voice dripping with disdain, as if I were suggesting something disgusting to her, "You?"
Duals can be slow to show themselves, but Conflictors are apparent pretty quickly.