'Fi' or 'Fe'

[jason_m]

I have realized that I value Fe in the MBTI. Fi in the MBTI is about having a strong moral code. When someone violates this code, an Fi-user gets upset. I am partial vegetarian. I will not eat pork. If I was Fi in the MBTI, it would bother me to see someone eat pork. However, I do not care. Why? This is because I value logical consistency and social harmony more than internal values. It bothers me more to upset the social equilibrium and complain than to see someone eat pork. Therefore, I don't complain. Fi users in this system seem to value authenticity over social harmony again. This is also not me. I will often tell people things to pacify the situation over dictating my true values. Logical consistency is more important.

In the MBTI, I am something like Fe-tertiary: I don't want to have disharmony with people, but I don't go to great lengths to connect with people. The notion of 'being at one' with someone is not offensive, but almost sounds 'Eastern' to me - something like 'Yin and Yang.' Too much of this function is just overwhelming as well. But I respect the function enough to not violate other people's beliefs, and I never step on such people - maintaining some social equilibrium again.

My internal values, however, I want to debate. I more than welcome debates about: Christianity (even though I'm Christian), Theism (even though I believe in God), vegetarianism (even though I'm flexitarian). I am a logical type, and I am therefore aiming for consistent beliefs. Thus, I welcome debate about any of this stuff. As a Christian, I have even read books by Daniel Dennett. If he changes my mind, then so be it. I am a more logical man for it...

Even as something like Fe-tertiary, people who cause great disharmony and discord and therefore upset the social balance bother me. A little bit of this is tolerable, but too much is repellant. And this is as true even as what I swear is Fe-tertiary: there is no real desire on my part to seek out friends or harmonize with others. Some people just go way too far to step on others and I cannot stand them...

Please keep all of this in mind when looking at my socionics type. What is like MBTI Fi-role to some here, is more like MBTI Fe-tertiary; my problems are not about upsetting my moral code as much as it is about someone causing great distress and disharmony...

Fe-suggestive is more for me about silliness and raising people's spirits than about MBTI Fe...

Therefore, I must ask you: which MBTI function do you value: MBTI 'Fe' or MBTI 'Fi'?

[jason_m]

With Si, it can be the same. I can enjoy the most succulent food, but if there is something like gristle in it, then I can't stand it. I remember going to my local casino. They had just the best blue cheeseburgers. I would often go there, place a bet on a game and get one of those burgers. Last time I went, there was a big piece of gristle in the burger and it was just nasty. It completely ruined my taste for the restaurant and I couldn't go back - and I have limited access to Si and I still feel this way...

[jason_m]

Even more:

- I like baseball. Someone else doesn't. My response: "So?"
- I like classic hockey. Someone else doesn't. "So What? It's all very subjective."
- I eat vegetarian. Someone else doesn't: "So?"
- I'm a Notre Dame fan, but my friend is a Michigan fan. "So? It's their choice..."
- Someone doesn't like me. Now it bothers me...

[jason_m]

The type I identify with the most is ILE, *but* I'm not technically Fi-PoLR. I identify with IEE descriptions to the nth degree as well, but I'm not Ti-PoLR. There are also a lot of EIIs I like socially, but I'm not Te-suggestive and I don't identify with Fi-leading as much as the other functions. Hence, why I type myself the way I do...