I just want to know what the differences are between those types.
I just want to know what the differences are between those types.
Although both descriptors will apply to both types at times, each will normally remain on their respective sides:
LII vs SLI
planner vs observer
methodological vs reactionary
idealist vs realist
naive vs aware
detached vs interactive
often blind vs often with tunnel-vision
hesitant vs avoidant
doubtful vs convinced
over-the-horizon vs here-and-now
consequence vs reward
research vs practice
overkill vs sufficient
perfectionist vs expedient
solo think vs brainstorm
adapt information vs adapt thinking
visionary vs guarded
strategist vs protectionist
a.k.a. I/O
SLI: sends letter bombs due to broken heart
LII: hacker on the loose due to convictions
MOTTO: NEVER TRUST IN REALITY
Winning is for losers
Sincerely yours,
idiosyncratic type
Life is a joke but do you have a life?
LIIs and SLIs have a benefit relationship (LII benefactor, SLI beneficiary). This relationship can work smoothly or very awkwardly. A good childhood friend of mine happens to be my beneficiary. We get along famously, but hey, what do I know.
I couldn't help but notice the CEO at my previous job, who was also my beneficiary (and who hired me directly) was often visibly intimidated by me. Mind you I have one of the lowliest jobs and could hardly be viewed as menacing. Something as simple as a greeting would leave him stymied. Which always struck me as strange, given he's a really impressive executive. Things got better over time, but not really, because there was a lingering feeling he was trying way too hard to impress me.
Everything revolves around extraverted intuition in this relationship. The CEO announced a merger with a larger company, went through the trouble of lobbying the board and his employees, leading them to the brink with new policy handbooks and access cards, only to renege and pull back at the very last minute.
My benefactor is IEI. A childhood friend of mine, who couldn't be any nearer and dearer to me, at times seemed aloof, like my internal world wasn't of much concern to her. Fast-forward to another IEI at the aforementioned company. She couldn't help but make me question my competence. Every interaction felt like high stakes.
One is less annoying than the other.
Some differences in apparent similarities:
Both types can seem lazy/low-energy/work-avoidant. But SLIs seem to me to have different “modes:” a “working” mode and a “relaxed” mode. It seems relatively difficult for them to switch between these states and they may require some sort of ritual to do it. LIIs have a more constant tense energy and don’t mind switching between these states quickly, maybe because they never really throw themselves into either.
Both types can be cynical. LIIs’ cynicism goes a lot deeper in terms of how it affects them. SLIs seem to hold more a view of “well, the world may be dark but I can enjoy myself and find meaning regardless.” Cynical LIIs’ mentality seems to be more along the lines of Ted Kaczynski (probably LSI over LII, but those types are similar in this way). This also seems related to the fact that:
Though both types can be expressively muted, SLIs usually seem to get happier and higher-energy occasionally. LIIs generally have a more consistent outlook and emotional state. LIIs only seem to really get “happy” in terms of their demeanor changing or dropping the “tenseness” or forgetting their concerns when they’re exposed to Fe. At other times they can feel vaguely “content,” but this doesn’t seem to make much difference in terms of their outlook besides motivating them slightly more.
The two are both likely to come off as socially awkward when young. SLIs can outgrow this, but I’ve never seen a male LII of any age who didn’t come off noticeably awkwardly in social situations (women of any type are usually more socially capable, but many LII women also have this problem). Even a couple +65-y/o LIIs I’ve known come off this way.
Bio dad is SLI, bro is LII.
LII is always thinking. Always. Always thinking about something, if not everything. This is reflected on their expression. Their eyes are often big and round, even if half-closed. They look level, but not relaxed.
SLI is always existing. Becoming more deeply intertwined with their homeostasis. They might look like they aren’t paying attention to anything around them. Might not make direct eye contact, or might close their eyes while speaking to you.
It’s harder to perceive emotional shifts in LIIs than SLIs. You can often see an SLI becoming physically tense in response to becoming upset, but an LII may give no outward sign of distress before having an outburst - thus, their reactions may come off as sudden or sharp.
Last edited by PinKDiGiT18; 06-24-2021 at 04:00 PM.
LIIs really enjoy light-hearted Fe banter. SLIs enjoy more serious and somber Fi discussions. That isn't to say LIIs are frilly clouds with no substance to them and SLIs won't like a light-hearted atmosphere (4D Fe IEE is their dual after all)- but Fe vs. Fi valuing is pretty evident I think. SLIs can often times be so serious and genuine they are really socially awkward, a LII will break the ice more by being witty/charming/Fe-ish.
Imo, from the outside: SLIs, like all sensors, have a much "heavier" presence usually, especially if logics is emphasized. LIIs come off less grounded, for example in their bodies. They respond well to emotional expression and lighthearted banter.
Last edited by ipbanned; 06-25-2021 at 03:06 PM.
L'âme a ses raisons que la raison ne connaît point
SLIs are better at surviving and LIIs are more abstract.