Temperaments: Ep, Ej, Ij, Ip

[Stray Cat]

I've made no secret I'm not attached to my activity, ENFj. They're cool I just find the temperament kinda incompatible. Also got INFp & ISFp friends who have intraquadra relations with those with the Ij temperament. They experience difficulties. I'm guessing it's ultimately related to temperament. What's y'alls experience, even within same quadra?

[Stray Cat]

Unsurprisingly, I have the most trouble with EJ temperaments even ESEs. They’re just go go go and i cant/refuse to always keep up with that.

IJ temperaments I don’t mind at all but I think they kinda make me insecure because they’re so steady, move perfectly and can keep moving like the EJs lol. Not as intensely tho.

I loved almost every EP temperament I’ve come across, they’re a refreshing breath of air and I don’t have much experience with IPs except ILIs who are chill.

Well put & useful

In my experience, Ij temperaments get very "by the book". Working with Ij sometimes I'm like, "relax, dude no need to be wound that tight.". Course it ain't their fault. Just an example of how differing temperaments might interact

[PinKDiGiT18]

Being Ij...

Upon meeting a rational subtype Ej for the first time, they are most likely of all to annoy me immediately. If I get past my initial annoyance, they can become lasting friendships. Irrational subtype Ejs are relaxing and enjoyable to be around for long periods of time.

Ips are cool. I find them unique and perceptive, and most make good friends. However, after a while they will do something completely unexpected and my rational mind perceives it as a breach of trust instead of curiosity-inducing charm (as would an Ep), and it often leads to conflict/dissolution of the relationship. It often makes me wish I were more irrational, but eventually my ethics snap back like an overstretched rubber band when I ignore them in favor of perceiving functions for too long.

Most Eps drive me up the wall. We hit it off fast and usually when we find out just how diametrically opposed our life rhythms are, we've gotten too close and the separation is ghastly and culminates in mutual resentment. This has been the case with IEE and SLE especially, likely because they are negativists and more inclined to focus on our irreconcilable differences - whereas SEE and ILE try to minimize them and emphasize the promising aspects of our interaction. Overall, I think Eps bring a needed sense of novelty to the world - they just need an Ip to support them in that, and I am not equipped to do so.

I love Ijs. Unhealthy ones can be a true nightmare, but with healthy ones there is mutual regard and a comforting sense of commonality that allows us to be understanding towards one another's quirks even when we have conflict.

[Stray Cat]

Being Ij...

Upon meeting a rational subtype Ej for the first time, they are most likely of all to annoy me immediately. If I get past my initial annoyance, they can become lasting friendships. Irrational subtype Ejs are relaxing and enjoyable to be around for long periods of time.

Ips are cool. I find them unique and perceptive, and most make good friends. However, after a while they will do something completely unexpected and my rational mind perceives it as a breach of trust instead of curiosity-inducing charm (as would an Ep), and it often leads to conflict/dissolution of the relationship. It often makes me wish I were more irrational, but eventually my ethics snap back like an overstretched rubber band when I ignore them in favor of perceiving functions for too long.

Most Eps drive me up the wall. We hit it off fast and usually when we find out just how diametrically opposed our life rhythms are, we've gotten too close and the separation is ghastly and culminates in mutual resentment. This has been the case with IEE and SLE especially, likely because they are negativists and more inclined to focus on our irreconcilable differences - whereas SEE and ILE try to minimize them and emphasize the promising aspects of our interaction. Overall, I think Eps bring a needed sense of novelty to the world - they just need an Ip to support them in that, and I am not equipped to do so.

I love Ijs. Unhealthy ones can be a true nightmare, but with healthy ones there is mutual regard and a comforting sense of commonality that allows us to be understanding towards one another's quirks even when we have conflict.

Good points. Being an EP, I can appreciate the criticism in this thread. Seems genuine to me.

Pinkdigit described the interaction between temperaments over time. Interesting. Psychological distance is a real thing. People might wear a mask or "go with the flow" to adjust socially. Basically the closer two people get, the more their true personality allows itself to make an impression. My take, anyway

[rose]

I see three kinds of Ej.
The first reminds me of cracked earth from driness, geysers, and volcanoes erruptions. Those are the unhealthy ones and won't be discussing here.
The second are red. Red paint on a wall, all reds are possible, red brick too sometimes, the meterial bricks that are red. Those are the rational to balanced ones. They are okay people, I tend to like them from afar much more than close up. Trying to have a lasting relationships with them means giving them control over too many things I don't want being controled by exterior parties. They are great if needed, but tend to act as if needed even when not needed and that's weird to me.
The third kind are fluffy. They are the irrational subtypes. I don't know much about them yet so I don't have anything to say here.

Ep are like the wind. The unhealthy ones are tornadoes that destroy all in their wake. Let's leave them out too.
They are either sharper or more breezy depending on subtype. Their worst traits are to me like the wind displacing objects in their wake, a little annoying but easy to deal with in general, unless you're trying to keep a feather in strong winds. I tend to see them as a nice refreshing breeze in summer, and even the sharp cold gusts of winter tend to make me smile. They move stuff, makes things seem alive, agitates leaves, throw away the dust. It can get tiring, but they are more chill about not being needed so it goes easier and feels more natural to take time away and get back in touch.

Ij seem bland and sharp to me, bland because of the lack of extroversion and sharp because of judging function. The more rational, the sharper. I tend to feel confused around them and we grow apart easily. I'd say they remind me of geometrical forms, can be colorful and fun.

Ip are also bland but softer. I don't click with them much. I can like them for their perceptions but beyond that, there's nothing to make us stick together. Their inner world is rich and fascinating, shimmery. They are more squiggly lines or blurred lines, and glitters.

[The Banana King]

Yeah, activity relations are no good imo. But depending on subtypes either pseudo-duality or pseudo-benefit can occur which can improve or worsen relations. I get along better with irrational subtype EJ in general. But most EJ I find annoying with all that tension and excess energy.

I get along well with EP, except too strong irrational ones lol. ILE-Ti and ILE-Ne are like night and day. I don't have any complaints about SEE even though they're my super ego. Maybe they confuse me with ILI lol. Irrational EPs have so much energy that they're the ones dragging me around

With IJ I get along fine except EII and ESI for obvious reasons lol. Works better with irrational subtypes. I've had quite a few LII-Ne and even EII-Ne friends at school. Mostly cause Ne egos were the outcasts so we had to look out for each other lol

Then with IP I get along even with ILI. My closest friend is SLI-Si. Works better with rational subtypes. Irrational subtypes are too relaxed and sluggish imo, they never really want to do anything. Rational subtypes are easier to get moving and generally receptive to my random activity ideas lol

My problem with EJ is that they are so planned and undeliberate that you can never tell them "hey wanna hang out today" and expect them to say yes. Everything they do needs to be scheduled days in advance and by that time I'm interested in doing something else. With IP it's more like "hey wanna hang out?" "sure" "ok, be there in 5" and that's it, no scheduling or excuses.

[SlytherinPower]

As in relationships or friendships?

Out of people I'm friends with (thru high school, college, & currently) their types have been IEE, SEE, ESE, EIE, ILI, IEI, & SEI. I get along with almost everyone tho besides some rare introverts that seem to just be bothered by my existence & nothing else. I can't quite place their type tho. Also I told off 2 xSE (I wanna say LSEs more likely) bosses in the past for being just over the top, ridiculously rude. One of their crazy asses really had the nerve to have a full attitude with me over nothing while saying with a huge, fake smile "I neeeeever yelled at you. Do I look like I'm yelling?" Like nahhhh but you look psychotic. Lmfao I got along the best with my former LIE boss tho. He was awesome.

[Stray Cat]

Yeah, activity relations are no good imo. But depending on subtypes either pseudo-duality or pseudo-benefit can occur which can improve or worsen relations. I get along better with irrational subtype EJ in general. But most EJ I find annoying with all that tension and excess energy.

I get along well with EP, except too strong irrational ones lol. ILE-Ti and ILE-Ne are like night and day. I don't have any complaints about SEE even though they're my super ego. Maybe they confuse me with ILI lol. Irrational EPs have so much energy that they're the ones dragging me around

With IJ I get along fine except EII and ESI for obvious reasons lol. Works better with irrational subtypes. I've had quite a few LII-Ne and even EII-Ne friends at school. Mostly cause Ne egos were the outcasts so we had to look out for each other lol

Then with IP I get along even with ILI. My closest friend is SLI-Si. Works better with rational subtypes. Irrational subtypes are too relaxed and sluggish imo, they never really want to do anything. Rational subtypes are easier to get moving and generally receptive to my random activity ideas lol

My problem with EJ is that they are so planned and undeliberate that you can never tell them "hey wanna hang out today" and expect them to say yes. Everything they do needs to be scheduled days in advance and by that time I'm interested in doing something else. With IP it's more like "hey wanna hang out?" "sure" "ok, be there in 5" and that's it, no scheduling or excuses.

Yeah, subtypes are a thing. Not a fan of folk leaning too heavy on one function. Even with an inert subtype like SLI-Si, it be a shame of they suppressed their Te creative.

Good that you know what you freaking like though. No doubt

I see three kinds of Ej.
The first reminds me of cracked earth from driness, geysers, and volcanoes erruptions. Those are the unhealthy ones and won't be discussing here.
The second are red. Red paint on a wall, all reds are possible, red brick too sometimes, the meterial bricks that are red. Those are the rational to balanced ones. They are okay people, I tend to like them from afar much more than close up. Trying to have a lasting relationships with them means giving them control over too many things I don't want being controled by exterior parties. They are great if needed, but tend to act as if needed even when not needed and that's weird to me.
The third kind are fluffy. They are the irrational subtypes. I don't know much about them yet so I don't have anything to say here.

Ep are like the wind. The unhealthy ones are tornadoes that destroy all in their wake. Let's leave them out too.
They are either sharper or more breezy depending on subtype. Their worst traits are to me like the wind displacing objects in their wake, a little annoying but easy to deal with in general, unless you're trying to keep a feather in strong winds. I tend to see them as a nice refreshing breeze in summer, and even the sharp cold gusts of winter tend to make me smile. They move stuff, makes things seem alive, agitates leaves, throw away the dust. It can get tiring, but they are more chill about not being needed so it goes easier and feels more natural to take time away and get back in touch.

Ij seem bland and sharp to me, bland because of the lack of extroversion and sharp because of judging function. The more rational, the sharper. I tend to feel confused around them and we grow apart easily. I'd say they remind me of geometrical forms, can be colorful and fun.

Ip are also bland but softer. I don't click with them much. I can like them for their perceptions but beyond that, there's nothing to make us stick together. Their inner world is rich and fascinating, shimmery. They are more squiggly lines or blurred lines, and glitters.

Thanks. Enjoyed reading.

As in relationships or friendships?

Out of people I'm friends with (thru high school, college, & currently) their types have been IEE, SEE, ESE, EIE, ILI, IEI, & SEI. I get along with almost everyone tho besides some rare introverts that seem to just be bothered by my existence & nothing else. I can't quite place their type tho. Also I told off 2 xSE (I wanna see LSEs more likely) bosses in the past for being just over the top, ridiculously rude. One of their crazy asses really had the nerve to have a full attitude with me over nothing while saying with a huge, fake smile "I neeeeever yelled at you. Do I look like I'm yelling?" Like nahhhh but you look psychotic. Lmfao I got along the best with my former LIE boss tho. He was awesome.

Mostly talking about being close with others, in general. Work is a good example of people you see everyday but not necessarily personal with. Your story about your bosses is a decent example of what I was getting at.

[eiemo]

I think that I am most likely Ej temperament. I lack the stable energy levels of an Ij (I tend to have bursts of energy), and I have this task-oriented drive and high energy levels (so Ip is probably inaccurate). I do tend to be pretty focused on my own thoughts, however.

My relationships with EJs vary, but I get along decently with them. I find that Te leads are more stereotypically Ej than Fe leads.

[Beautiful sky]

Ij- I am stable, reliable, steady, calm however moody if certain things claim empathy over me like something someone said or did or I said it bothers me (it shouldn’t have gone that way)! I show up to work at the same time consistently and able to put a lot of myself away to be reliable to others.

[Bethanyclaire]

http://www.socionics.com/articles/behavetemp.html

by forum user @Rebelondeck

[necrosebud]

I think I prob generally like Js but I also seem to be drawn to Ps...so idk