Differences in polarity (masculine vs feminine) creates attraction:

Masculine energy directs/leads, Feminine energy reacts/follows.


Compatibility between informational elements creates different erotic styles

Aggressors have Se in their ego block, Victims have Ni.

Caregivers have Si in their ego block, Infantiles have Ne.


In your case, as a caregiver, you want masculine energy + Ne, but were surprised with masculine energy +Se