this is a socionics satire
this is a socionics satire
Why? I am being 100% serious and definitely not joking or trolling, I am just a very weird SEI
Besides my lame reaction to me and my boyfriend breaking up is because we do it all the time...
I haven’t noticed much, if any, intuitive bias on this forum, and I haven’t seen anyone here talking about SEIs like you say you’ve seen in your OP. It looks to me like you’re comparing yourself to other people too much, instead of just being yourself. It’s easier said than done, but why not just try to focus on doing what you like, and try to ignore whatever you think strangers think about you?
No one is perfect, and no one can do everything. If you don’t like to or can’t paint well, for instance, just focus on doing what you can do well. And if you don’t think you can do anything well, so what? The only person you have to prove anything to is yourself. There’s no need to do anything to justify your existence. If you’d just like to sit in the sun in all your free time, that’s just as valid a lifestyle as composing poetry or whatever. Just try to do whatever you’d like to do, and when you don’t feel like doing anything, don’t! There’s no need to feel guilty or inferior to anyone for living as you’d like to live.
Ah no it wasn't on this forum but elsewhere and I wrote it in a particularly unhealthy state because I haven't been sleeping well and I have headaches and can't figure out why. I can end up saying dramatic things in such a state quite easily and it always sounds strange after I magically feel better. Such an inconvenience... And I am being myself in the way I write and everything and not trying to pretend, I am just being 100% with my feelings even if it sounds quite cringe and stupid to others because I feel like no one understands me very well, even my own self. And after some thought I realized that socionics doesn't help me in any way and makes things worse because now I feel the tendency to overanalyze every interaction and action I ever make. I have gained 0 useful insights on anything, and I realized that even if two people are of the same type they can have some major differences. For me it is important to justify my existence but I realized religion helps, otherwise it seems quite strange to exist and I always find myself going into the thought that nothing really matters and all of our actions are inconsequential. I do not feel guilty or inferior to anyone but myself because I simply do not care what most people say, except for those that are close to me. It has nothing to do with strangers as their actions and words do not affect me, I can only absorb some criticism but I don't think an internet forum is necessarily where I would get any real help. If I did nothing when I did not feel like doing anything I would become lazy and as a consequence end up getting nothing in life and then I know I would cry over it because I wish to make my dreams into reality and that takes hard work and perseverance. So I should only take advice as it pertains to me becoming a better person and growing into a healthy state of affairs. If my boyfriend and I get back together I have to convince him that socionics doesn't align with reality and that he should stop taking it so seriously.
I rarely feel alone. I rarely talk to anyone, yet in my head i have the most amazing, the most fantastic discussions with the people in my life. In real life, what most people talk about is several orders of magnitude lesser than their inner experiences. Most people never reveal the singularity of their subjective experience.
Maybe I should learn to explore other people's consciousness. Maybe I should aim for a real space between me and others. Instead of cultivating monologues and fantasies. It's hard, but the alternative to this seems to be madness. ~ lkdhf qkb
Life is soup. I'm fork
This sadly is how our relationship goes sometimes, fast changing... And now we are together... It must have something to do with stress and immaturity and not our types... I hate it so much and it is just socionics fault and mine for making it worse.
Nope my boyfriend is 100% ILE and I am a very weird SEI... Well maybe I will return to make posts that are actually supposed to be funny and maybe as I grow older I can sound more serious. No we really did break up because he called me in the middle of this... I am almost having a little too much fun with this but it's sadly serious come on...
Do ILEs even grow up
ILEs do not care about such things as maturity as it doesn't help them in their goals at all. Seriousness is not something they need much of because to them life is about possibilities and enjoying it as it is away from harshness and brutality. To an ILE, at least the way I see it, they think gammas are too serious and self centered. Also they suck at Fi so they won't sound mature when they talk about their feelings or relationships at all and will misunderstand them often. They do not care about improving it though too much and they don't like all this talk of morals. Hierarchy, struggle, those things are not important either. Life is simply for enjoyment and pleasure. Life is too short to always be serious for them. And they have bad Si and need it greatly, so it can seem like they can't take care of themselves much, but for all they lack in Si they have a good mind for things that require Ne and Ti. Every type is different in their understanding of maturity, so mature for ILI is different from ILE is different from SEI. A 13 year old ILE is very different from 40 year old ILE in terms of their worldview.
ILE wouldn't just take those cookies and leave true, he would also take the milk too... Also I have the feeling he wouldn't reject the opportunity to talk about his projects and then I imagine SEI giggles and then cut to the breast milk and cookies.
Side note cuz I relate. My IEE friend basically makes it sound like his dream of the future is him working hard at his manager job while his girl stays home with a couple kids, some pets, & cleans. I told him I'm not sure on wanting kids for various reasons & I'd definitely want to work cuz I get bored too easily being home. I also said I'm a good cook & fairly neat in general, but I don't really like or don't like to consistently cook & clean. He said if his girl wants to work or not is up to her & he wants to be able to provide for her either way. We had been friends for a year & knowing what I want for myself, he still asked me out.
I'd say, just lay it out straight to him. Maybe compromise cuz if I ever lived with someone & they worked 60 hours but I worked 40, on my days off is when I'd probably surprise them & tidy things up or whatever it is that they'd appreciate & basically even out our work hours. Working days would be a different story though. Lol
Ok reading more of your replies, your bf seems to be killing your self esteem. I'd say try dating around some more. It's fine imo to have preferences, but he seems patronizing. & the fact that he knows socionics & brings it up in the ways he does to you, is different imo then people not into socionics where you might just have to clear up some misunderstandings with them. Typology seems like a tool he's using to make you into his little puppet almost. I say cut the strings. Lol
I'd say that socionics, unlike mbti, actually has a sensor bias. I think socionics people are easily impressed by Se egos.
Socionics points out flaws in the types unlike MBTI so there is more stereotyping and judging of others. Every type gets hate but I have noticed some get more than others. People don't usually talk about SEIs as the majority of people this forum aren't really alpha types. I think socionics people are impressed by SEI egos because there are a lot more Se valuers on this forum than Se devaluing types. So if there were more Deltas and Alphas on this forum that would look different.
Well that is inefficient, you must look at all functions and understand that there can't just be 14 neat little boxes to put people in, functions are on a spectrum. Not a limitation, but rather trying to assign expectations of people based on their type. Not every member of a certain type will fit the description and stereotypes 100%.
Edit: I forgot to mention that I don't like people who don't offer constructive criticism and just say "Well you suck", or people who are overly judgmental of the actions of others.
Last edited by MidnightWilderness; 03-21-2021 at 10:10 PM.
Yes because people can have different levels of abilities in their functions, it's mostly about preference of using them.
Well I do feel like I need a sense of purpose in life, otherwise I think about how it is meaningless to live and that no matter what you do, time will pass as usual and that we are all going to die and turn into other forms of matter. I get depressed when I feel my actions can't change anything and I feel useless. But I averted falling into such a pit and wallowing in self-pity by becoming a Christian and making goals for myself. My purpose is to get to heaven, help others on their way through the test of life as much as possible and entertain and heal through art. But sense of purpose is not grounds enough to say that I am a Ni user.
The best thing in life though is to make as many good memories as possible so you can look at old photos and cry bittersweet tears before succumbing to death.
Or just reflecting back on your life in general doesn't have to be old photos. I just imagine lying in my deathbed looking at photographs of my family and friends and crying, mulling over all my actions and feeling grateful for all the wonderful people in my life before I take one last gasp. But enough morbidity, I am still a teenager and I still hopefully have decades before I croak! If you feel stuck in a rut, try doing all the things that make you feel motivated, or rethink your goals, or maybe just do something different sometimes. But I don't know if that helps I'm not you.
Oh I have already music for my mortality blues but I try not to focus on this too much as it will harm me. Best of all is just to be yourself, as I now just thought, no one can be like you. And try to make good use of your time and stop wallowing in self pity... If you do too much self-flagellation it will harm you and you will end up in a void of nothingness and emptiness. Just justify your actions in life with something already, develop a spirituality, and if you look back at all your mistakes you should say "Well it's bad that I made a mistake but at least I can learn from it and try not to do it again in the future". It's better to do self-reconstruction and see positives instead of negatives. At least I am not poor, at least I am not x, y, z. Better to stop thinking and start doing, then go back to thinking. If you can surround your self with positives and build a scaffold on which to live life, everything will be better.