I probably said this in another post: All the IEIs that I've known have expressed this exact same sentiment. However, the people that they all seem to have chosen were people who didn't; they seemed to have fallen for romantic images; it was the humour, intellect, strength and or power on which they focused. None seemed to have taken much time to look for the people behind the images. They also seemed to be the ones who got disillusioned first and those that could were of course the first to leave the relationships. IEIs who are rather astute at reading people in general can become blind to certain individuals; it's as if tunnel vision kicks in much too early when libido takes the lead. None of them ever listened to what friends had to say - perhaps they tend to judge others as much more socially inept than they are; even I could predict the eventual outcomes.
a.k.a. I/O