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    I read this article a while ago and agree with a lot of what the IEI writer says in it: https://www.the16types.info/vbulleti...gram-Dual-quot

    Have a read!

    Btw my ‘ideal’ SLE would be a 739..then 729/748. 712 and 749 sound fine too SLE 3s or 8s would be ok if we share one number in our tritype. (Or if they are my enneagram ‘dual’ according to her theory, e.g 826..I actually know loads of people of this tritype!)

    I used to think about enneagram instincts in terms of ‘the stacks e.g so/sx’ (still kinda do) but I think it’d be easier (and more accurate typing?) for people to learn how to identify people’s tritype plus main instinct (social, sexual or self preservation). This is how Katherine Fauvre does it. Btw she discovered the tritype idea when she noticed that in her research, people kept telling her they related to 3 e-types rather than only 1.

    But if we do use the stacks theory..so/sx, sp/so, sx/so and maybe sx/sp are fine for me (so/sx) and I think sp/sx and so/sp wouldn’t be so good, especially so/sp. All are ok as friends though.

    There are not many resources on tritype but I will share the ones I know of a bit later in the enneagram section. I love tritype..
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bethany View Post
    I read this article a while ago and agree with a lot of what the IEI writer says in it: https://www.the16types.info/vbulleti...gram-Dual-quot

    Have a read!

    Btw my ‘ideal’ SLE would be a 739..then 729/748. 712 and 749 sound fine too SLE 3s or 8s would be ok if we share one number in our tritype. (Or if they are my enneagram ‘dual’ according to her theory, e.g 826..I actually know loads of people of this tritype!)

    I used to think about enneagram instincts in terms of ‘the stacks e.g so/sx’ (still kinda do) but I think it’d be easier (and more accurate typing?) for people to learn how to identify people’s tritype plus main instinct (social, sexual or self preservation). This is how Katherine Fauvre does it. Btw she discovered the tritype idea when she noticed that in her research, people kept telling her they related to 3 e-types rather than only 1.

    But if we do use the stacks theory..so/sx, sp/so, sx/so and maybe sx/sp are fine for me (so/sx) and I think sp/sx and so/sp wouldn’t be so good, especially so/sp. All are ok as friends though.

    There are not many resources on tritype but I will share the ones I know of a bit later in the enneagram section. I love tritype..
    Yep, I knew that.
    That actually explains why I'm always attracted to LSI.
    I have a 5 in my tritype. 835. And most LSI's are enneagram 5. That's how we're attracted to each other, because we have similarity.
    To quote Olimpia "Psychological studies usually conclude that Similarity is very important when it comes to people matching up; similarity in attractiveness, in background, in values, and so forth. Sharing one type in the Tritype creates an added sense of Similarity. People who share one type in the tritype usually have more similar interests, goals, and even childhoods or upbringings." That is so true.

    Now, how many ESI's have a 5 in their tritype? None. You know what I mean. I'm not gonna go with the other type in my tritype, like 8 or 3, for an ESI? HAHA.

    So, yeah, that is why, based on my experience, most of people whom I'm attracted to (or have dated): LSI, ILI, and even LII, and guess what, they're all enneagram 5. It's like a textbook, isn't it?


    About the stacks theory,
    If you're So/Sx, yes I agree So/Sx, Sx/So, and Sx/Sp are good match for you

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett View Post
    Yep, I knew that.
    That actually explains why I'm always attracted to LSI.
    I have a 5 in my tritype. 835. And most LSI's are enneagram 5. That's how we're attracted to each other, because we have similarity.
    To quote Olimpia "Psychological studies usually conclude that Similarity is very important when it comes to people matching up; similarity in attractiveness, in background, in values, and so forth. Sharing one type in the Tritype creates an added sense of Similarity. People who share one type in the tritype usually have more similar interests, goals, and even childhoods or upbringings." That is so true.

    Now, how many ESI's have a 5 in their tritype? None. You know what I mean. I'm not gonna go with the other type in my tritype, like 8 or 3, for an ESI? HAHA.

    So, yeah, that is why, based on my experience, most of people whom I'm attracted to (or have dated): LSI, ILI, and even LII, and guess what, they're all enneagram 5. It's like a textbook, isn't it?


    About the stacks theory,
    If you're So/Sx, yes I agree So/Sx, Sx/So, and Sx/Sp are good match for you
    Yes, I am e-9 and my tritype is 946. I am often attracted to guys with 4 or 6 in their tritype. But I have become more open-minded to e-7s..I suppose it is unlikely that Estps would have 4 or 6 in their tritype. Not impossible but there would only be a few possible tritypes (846, 826, 749, 369?) Because I have only seen Estp 3s, 8s and 7s..I don't think they come in other e-types lol. Haha I feel like such a nerd with all the numbers.

    For ESI I have seen ennegaram type 1,2,4,6 and 9. And I'm sure some of these would have a 5 in their tritype.

    (I think e-2 is uncommon for men though..?)

    In the article it says that 8 is the enneagram dual for '459', '359', '145' or '135'. These types might like you if you found one lol.
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    Btw I actually think that sometimes 'sharing a number or especially MORE than one number in the tritype' can actually lead to an unhealthy relationship (but maybe a high amount of initial attraction!)..you can be 'too' similar'. I think this depends on your socionics type and your enneagram instincts.

    It could be a good thing or a bad thing!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett View Post
    Hahah, of course, don't worry. There's so many things matter more than personality types.

    Anyway.

    I also see in a dual couple, usually the male is a T, and the female is an F.
    Kinda like those traditional pairings with traditional gender stereotypes, you know.
    There you go again, male LIE and female ESI.


    If the female is a T, they usually go for their semi-dual or mirage partner.
    I know of three female LIEs who are in relationships.

    The first is a woman about 60 who used to run a division of GE. Her first husband called her “Sledge”, short for sledgehammer. I like her, but I can understand why she might get a nickname like that. Her second husband is LSI and she seems happier with him, but if she has any reservations, she wouldn’t share them with me. She might not admit them to herself.

    The second is my niece and she is ex-military, and she and her partner have adopted two kids. I don’t know what her partner’s type is, but I don’t think she is her Dual.

    The third is a woman who manages a hotel. She has two kids by a common-law SEE husband whom she met when she was 17. She is now 36 and she wants nothing to do with him and kicked him out because all he does is party and he contributes nothing to the family except empty promises.
    She has a terrific relationship with the owner of the hotel, who is a female ESI-Fi, married to a male ILI. I showed the female LIE some pictures of male ESIs, and she said, “Ewww. Not them.”


    Relationships are hard.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bethany View Post
    Yes, I am e-9 and my tritype is 946. I am often attracted to guys with 4 or 6 in their tritype. But I have become more open-minded to e-7s..I suppose it is unlikely that Estps would have 4 or 6 in their tritype. Not impossible but there would only be a few possible tritypes (846, 826, 369?) Because I have only seen estp 3s, 8s and 7s..I don't think they come in other e-types lol. Haha I feel like such a nerd with all the numbers.

    For ESI I have seen ennegaram type 1,2,4,6 and 9. And I'm sure some of these would have a 5 in their tritype.

    In the article it says that 8 is the enneagram dual for '459', '359', '145' or '135'. These types might like you if you found one lol.
    Lol. The problem is, I might not like them.

    I'm serious though. Let's go with 145 and 135 first. Both are enneagram 1. I dislike e-1.
    Seems like when you're e-8 you're someone who likes to be in charge and loves challenges, you would hate a perfectionist e-1. It's just they contradict with each other. Sooner or later you will realise it's not gonna work.

    The 459? Hell to the no.
    This is tripple withdrawn. The most socially withdrawn tritype I believe. They have the least amount of energy, easily drained by external environment.

    And the 359? This. Is. Actually "my type". My LSI and LII ex's they're all this tritype. The LSI that I told you I'm often attracted to, they're mostly e5, tritype 593.

    Anyway.

    If we're talking about socionic dual, in my case an ESI, I don't think I can ever find an e-8, e-3, or e-5 ESI (if we want to share 1 type in tritype). The e-5 is possible but that would be tritype 459 which is a very withdrawn type, can't handle it, not my forte.
    Anyway I always, always love e-7, but tbh I admire e-2.

    And you know what, I was thinking,
    If someone actually has a 2 and 7 in their tritype and the next number is the type that we actually share in our tritype, which is 8, that would be perfect!
    In my case, dual is not possible, so I think I would go for my activation partner, SEE 278 Sx/So!

    Haha.

    So. You're 946 and you like guys with e-4 and e-6, that makes sense. Like dissolves like. We tend to like people who are like us. Again, similarity.
    I'm an 835, and when I was young, I was often attracted to e-8 and e-3. My first boyfriend ever was actually an ESTP 738.
    And I agree, most ESTP (SLE) they're all 7, 3, or 8. E-7s are FUN!

    SLE with 4 or 6 in their tritype? Seems not possible. A dom-Se like SLE will most likely to have 7 instead of 6 in their tritype. And 3 instead of 4.
    I also think e-8 is glued to their tritype. Can't imagine e-9 or e-1 in their tritype.

    But if you're a 9 and you prefer to share 1 type in your tritype, your activator LSI would be perfect, because most of them I believe will have 9 in their tritype. That what makes them very laid back and easy going.
    The 593.
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    When I asked an ESI "what's your idea man", she described an imaginative man look like EIE. But she has never knowns an EIE in person, so she end up dating SLE, SEE all the time... She knowns some LIEs, but feels neutral towards them. She doesn't like someone who focus too much on business and money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moharu View Post
    When I asked an ESI "what's your idea man", she described an imaginative man look like EIE. But she has never knowns an EIE in person, so she end up dating SLE, SEE all the time... She knowns some LIEs, but feels neutral towards them. She doesn't like someone who focus too much on business and money.
    It's like asking me a question, what my ideal man, and I would definitely answer an LSI.
    But I end up dating an ILI and SLI.

    Translates:
    the ideal man is your mirage, but end up dating your mirror and supervisor instead.

    Oh yeah, true story though. I completely agree. When you're young you will never appreciate your dual. Ever.
    It takes time, experience, and high level of maturity for an ESI to finally see that LIE is more than just someone who focus too much on business and money.

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    @Scarlett Thanks for your comments, again

    Can I just say..that a 145 tritype doesn’t have to be e1? They could be e4 or e5..(but ESI don’t come in 5 pretty sure)


    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett View Post

    If we're talking about socionic dual, in my case an ESI, I don't think I can ever find an e-8, e-3, or e-5 ESI (if we want to share 1 type in tritype). The e-5 is possible but that would be tritype 459 which is a very withdrawn type, can't handle it, not my forte.
    Anyway I always, always love e-7, but tbh I admire e-2.
    I don’t know what you mean by this, soz! If you are 835 tritype (order of numbers doesn’t matter btw) then according to the article your enneagram dual is a 6. I know you said you don’t like them..But just pointing it out in case you haven’t noticed it in the article. Soz if I’m reverse supervising you!

    In the article she suggests two things:


    1. It is good to share one number in your tritype. E.g me -964 with let’s say a..631. We would share the number 6. (She is not saying that I'm suited to 9s,4s and 6s.
    2. She has worked out the enneagram duals for each tritype using a ‘formula’..she doesn’t explain her workings out clearly and I had to figure out what she meant. It will hurt my brain to explain it- I might do it, but later haha. If one person in the couple, is the enneagram dual of another…it creates a sort of ‘glue’ she says.


    Yes, it’s a shame that there aren’t many e2 males..I haven’t been looking but I can’t think of any I know?? Yes, SEEs can be e2 or have tritype 728. My sis is SEE e7 (tritype 728).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bethany View Post
    @Scarlett

    Thanks for your comments, again

    Can I just say..that a 145 tritype doesn’t have to be e1? They could be e4 or e5..(but ESI don’t come in 5 pretty sure)

    ‘If we're talking about socionic dual, in my case an ESI, I don't think I can ever find an e-8, e-3, or e-5 ESI (if we want to share 1 type in tritype). The e-5 is possible but that would be tritype 459 which is a very withdrawn type, can't handle it, not my forte.
    Anyway I always, always love e-7, but tbh I admire e-2.’

    I don’t know what you mean by this, soz! If you are 835 tritype (order of numbers doesn’t matter btw) then according to the article your enneagram dual is a 6. I know you said you don’t like them..But just pointing it out in case you haven’t noticed it in the article. Soz if I’m reverse supervising you!

    In the article she suggests two things:


    1. It is good to share one number in your tritype. E.g me -964 with let’s say a..631. We would share the number 6. (She is not saying that I'm suited to 9s,4s and 6s.
    2. She has worked out the enneagram duals for each tritype using a ‘formula’..she doesn’t explain her workings out clearly and I had to figure out what she meant. It will hurt my brain to explain it- I might do it, but later haha. If one person in the couple, is the enneagram dual of another…it creates a sort of ‘glue’ she says.


    Yes, it’s a shame that there aren’t many e2 males..I haven’t been looking but I can’t think of any I know?? Yes, SEEs can be e2 or have tritype 728. My sis is SEE 728.

    Haha no problem!
    I noticed that, and reject that haha. Not for me. I dislike someone with e-1 and e-6. Like ever.
    Don't get me wrong, I have lots of friends who have 6 and 1 in their tritype, I'm ok with all types as friends/colleagues, but not as dates. Anyway. It's not possible though, I'm not naturally attracted to someone with e6, and e1 always constantly contradicts me.

    I've rejected an ESI e6 in the past, I'm just not into him. And I've dated my supervisor an SLI who's an e1 and broke up not long after that.
    Anyway it's not just because of that, somehow I always knew, it's just not for me. Anything but a 1 or 6.

    So what I was saying, if could choose between the head centre, e5 or e6 or e7, I would choose either e5 or e7 in someone but never e6.
    And the body centre, e8 or e9 or e1, I would choose either e8 or e9 but never e1.
    And the heart centre, well, anything, I don't mind, but somehow I'm not too interested in dom-Fi with e4, too much feeling for me I guess.

    Hahah

    I have quite a few SEE friends, some of them are e2, most of them are e7. And they're all amazing. They're all female though.

    Can I just add, when people actually have both 2 and 7 in their tritype, seems like they have sort of very pleasant, seductive air about them.
    I actually just met a client, who, I suspect, had this combination, and boy did he have that charisma around him!
    He's definitely an Se-dom.
    I can't see a 1 in him (of course not), he must be either SEE 728 or SEE 729.
    He's extremely magnetic, fun and sociable. And we get to know each other extremely quickly.

    Anyway, 2 and 7 tend to be very enthusiastic types.
    I find enthusiasm to be very attractive myself.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett View Post

    So what I was saying, if could choose between the head centre, e5 or e6 or e7, I would choose either e5 or e7 in someone but never e6.
    And the body centre, e8 or e9 or e1, I would choose either e8 or e9 but never e1.
    And the heart centre, well, anything, I don't mind, but somehow I'm not too interested in dom-Fi with e4, too much feeling for me I guess.

    Hahah

    I have quite a few SEE friends, some of them are e2, most of them are e7. And they're all amazing. They're all female though.

    Can I just add, when people actually have both 2 and 7 in their tritype, seems like they have sort of very pleasant, seductive air about them.
    I actually just met a client, who, I suspect, had this combination, and boy did he have that charisma around him!
    He's definitely an Se-dom.
    I can't see a 1 in him (of course not), he must be either SEE 728 or SEE 729.
    He's extremely magnetic, fun and sociable. And we get to know each other extremely quickly.

    Anyway, 2 and 7 tend to be very enthusiastic types.
    I find enthusiasm to be very attractive myself.
    Ok, I get you about choosing between the different head centres..coool.

    For me, I have basically learnt to type people's tritypes in the same way I learnt to type their sociotype. I began by figuring out a few people's and then compared and contrasted until I now have a 'catalogue' of people of varying tritypes in my mind lol. Now I can sort of 'feel' out people's tritypes, but it's not easy. Need to read a bit more.

    Um, my point is.. I don't think about it in terms of what 'heart, head and body centre' I like. Although maybe I do a bit..for example I have noticed I don't mind it if they have 1 in the tritype, if it also has a 2 lol.

    So yeah, I sort of 'know' what tritypes I think I could date, basing it on my experience of that tritype in general. I suppose never say never to the other ones..yet it's also good to feel informed.

    It's funny, I like people with 7 and 2 in the tritype too I get on well with tritype 127s as well as 278s, but then I generally get on well with e-7s and e-2s. You are correct, 'pleasant and seductive' they are. People with 3 or 6 in the tritype can also be seductive for me lol. But not in such a good way!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bethany View Post
    Ok, I get you about choosing between the different head centres..coool.

    For me, I have basically learnt to type people's tritypes in the same way I learnt to type their sociotype. I began by figuring out a few people's and then compared and contrasted until I now have a 'catalogue' of people of varying tritypes in my mind lol. Now I can sort of 'feel' out people's tritypes, but it's not easy. Need to read a bit more.

    Um, my point is.. I don't think about it in terms of what 'heart, head and body centre' I like. Although maybe I do a bit..for example I have noticed I don't mind it if they have 1 in the tritype, if it also has a 2 lol.

    So yeah, I sort of 'know' what tritypes I think I could date, basing it on my experience of that tritype in general. I suppose never say never to the other ones..yet it's also good to feel informed.

    It's funny, I like people with 7 and 2 in the tritype too I get on well with tritype 127s as well as 278s, but then I generally get on well with e-7s and e-2s. You are correct, 'pleasant and seductive' they are. People with 3 or 6 in the tritype can also be seductive for me lol. But not in such a good way!

    I know right!

    Oh by the way, I just figured this out, if I still wanna pursue a dual, lol, the best tritype is ESI 295!
    They got the e-2, you know, e-2 with Fi, I would be instantly admiring them. And we share 1 type in the tritype which is a 5, perfect.
    I think for an ESI they most likely to have e-9 so it's tritype 952 instead of 295,
    but I do hope they have e-2, so tritype 295, the e-2 would make them appear a little extroverted I guess, well, I prefer ESI-Se to ESI-Fi anyway.

    Or, just go for their extroverted cousins, my activity partner, the SEE e-2, tritype 278, I love 2 and 7 in someone tritype's and we share an 8, awesome.

    Lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
    I know of three female LIEs who are in relationships.

    The first is a woman about 60 who used to run a division of GE. Her first husband called her “Sledge”, short for sledgehammer. I like her, but I can understand why she might get a nickname like that. Her second husband is LSI and she seems happier with him, but if she has any reservations, she wouldn’t share them with me. She might not admit them to herself.

    The second is my niece and she is ex-military, and she and her partner have adopted two kids. I don’t know what her partner’s type is, but I don’t think she is her Dual.

    The third is a woman who manages a hotel. She has two kids by a common-law SEE husband whom she met when she was 17. She is now 36 and she wants nothing to do with him and kicked him out because all he does is party and he contributes nothing to the family except empty promises.
    She has a terrific relationship with the owner of the hotel, who is a female ESI-Fi, married to a male ILI. I showed the female LIE some pictures of male ESIs, and she said, “Ewww. Not them.”


    Relationships are hard.

    I used to say "Yikes. Nope." whenever I saw male ESI's.

    Somehow I notice if a dual/activity couple get together quite young, like late teens or early 20s, they end up divorcing anyway. And they will say "we're too different, we're really opposite, bla bla"
    Like I said, it takes time, experience, and high level of maturity.

    When you're young I think you should be dating your semidual/mirage/mirror/contrary/kindred, for experience. They easy to form anyway. You get along with your mirror really well.

    I don't know if anyone notice, but in my case, when I was in school, and then college, and then early years of work, my circle or best friends were mostly other NT's and NF's. And a few ST's. So the quadra thingy, it doesn't really apply at the beginning.

    Not until the later years of work, and then I went travelling, and back to grad school and work again THEN I realised my close friends now are mostly SP's, especially those in the same quadra with me. It's funny if I think about it.

    When I was in school/college I didn't like interacting with ESI/SEE, seems like they're not mature enough, or I wasn't mature enough, that makes us too different.
    But now after grad school if I meet an ESI/SEE they somehow impress me. And they said they admire me as well, "how can you be so knowledgeable, bla bla.." a mature ESI/SEE really wants to learn and hardworking actually. But I believe, when they were young, they weren't like that.

    The point is, I think you have to grow yourself first to be able to appreciate your dual.
    So after those experience interacting with all different people, you might end up with the one you date, you might not, you might separate, but later in life you grow and are mature enough to see "the other side of the coin".
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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett View Post
    I know right!

    Oh by the way, I just figured this out, if I still wanna pursue a dual, lol, the best tritype is ESI 295!
    They got the e-2, you know, e-2 with Fi, I would be instantly admiring them. And we share 1 type in the tritype which is a 5, perfect.
    I think for an ESI they most likely to have e-9 so it's tritype 952 instead of 295,
    but I do hope they have e-2, so tritype 295, the e-2 would make them appear a little extroverted I guess, well, I prefer ESI-Se to ESI-Fi anyway.

    Or, just go for their extroverted cousins, my activity partner, the SEE e-2, tritype 278, I love 2 and 7 in someone tritype's and we share an 8, awesome.

    Lol.
    Ohhh nice...I have a EII 925 friend..she is very very lovely. Very gentle and smart. And hey, makes me think that an Estp 825 could work for me. I tend to get on well with this tritype..(my mother’s tritype?!)


    I had some more thoughts! This kinda connects to you saying you’re not attracted to your enneagram ‘dual’ according to the article...and I was also thinking about how I don’t go for 8s or 3s.


    I started thinking about this SLE/IEI couple I know of. I know he’s a sexual 738 and I thought she was a sexual 936. But I just realised that’ she’s probs a sexual 639..coz she looks like a wannabe supermodel and sexual 6s are associated with wanting to look good. So before I was thinking ‘oh what a perfect, romantic 7 + 9 couple’...but nope she’s probs a 6.


    It makes me idealise Estp 7s less..in fact, though a 9 and a 7 get on really well...actually my relationships with 7s in general are not my most stable relationships. My most stable relationships are with 5s...who integrate to 8, so maybe an Estp 8 would be nice.


    Similar to how I’m usually attracted to 6s, but actually I get on better with 5s.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bethany View Post
    Ohhh nice...I have a EII 925 friend..she is very very lovely. Very gentle and smart. And hey, makes me think that an Estp 825 could work for me. I tend to get on well with this tritype..(my mother’s tritype?!)


    I had some more thoughts! This kinda connects to you saying you’re not attracted to your enneagram ‘dual’ according to the article...and I was also thinking about how I don’t go for 8s or 3s.


    I started thinking about this SLE/IEI couple I know of. I know he’s a sexual 738 and I thought she was a sexual 936. But I just realised that’ she’s probs a sexual 639..coz she looks like a wannabe supermodel and sexual 6s are associated with wanting to look good. So before I was thinking ‘oh what a perfect, romantic 7 + 9 couple’...but nope she’s probs a 6.


    It makes me idealise Estp 7s less..in fact, though a 9 and a 7 get on really well...actually my relationships with 7s in general are not my most stable relationships. My most stable relationships are with 5s...who integrate to 8, so maybe an Estp 8 would be nice.


    Similar to how I’m usually attracted to 6s, but actually I get on better with 5s.


    Oh My God.
    Very gentle and smart.
    My IEI bestfriend not long ago mentioned the same thing!

    You know in the past I've mostly dated NT/ST guys, logical and strongwilled, I kept saying that.
    But nowadays, I don't know how I started admiring more F guys, until at one point my IEI friend shouted "Oh wow, I didn't know Scarlett's type was a very very gentle and smart kind of gentleman like XXX" I did not actually realise that.

    Now that I think about it, I don't go for all ESI's, but I think when I can pick up the 2-ish in them, then that's it.
    Then the 5, it's like a must in the tritype, that's the one that we share anyway, that's how I feel attracted, the similarity, the logical "smart" thing.
    And I'm aware most of ESI's are e9. So yeah, 925. Which I believe quite rare.

    It's funny they call 925 The Problem Solver. Because 835 is The Solution Master. Lol


    So, you don't go for 8s and 3s?
    Remember I told you that when you're an e8, seems like e1 constantly contradicts you.
    The same thing I think happens with e3, it kinda contradicts e6. Seems like if you have a high 3 in your tritype, you usually don't go for 6, unless if you have it both 3 and 6 in your tritype.
    Maybe you're not into 3s because you have a high 6 in your tritype. Or you're so attracted to 6s, or something like that.

    But 8s?
    I think an 8 and 9 get on fine.
    They say the best partner for e-8 is e-2, but many female 8s are usually with male 9s.
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    Hahaha tritypes are fascinating aren’t they..

    I have read a few comments on the forum made by people with the same tritype as me and it feels kinda spooky coz they talk in a way that feels familiar.

    Yeah similarly to what you said I have gone for soft, sensitive types in the past..I usually go for people who I feel a ‘magical’ connection with- they often have a similar tritype to me (e.g too similar- 639/549). Didn’t work!

    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett View Post
    So, you don't go for 8s and 3s?
    Remember I told you that when you're an e8, seems like e1 constantly contradicts you.
    The same thing I think happens with e3, it kinda contradicts e6. Seems like if you have a high 3 in your tritype, you usually don't go for 6, unless if you have it both 3 and 6 in your tritype.
    Maybe you're not into 3s because you have a high 6 in your tritype. Or you're so attracted to 6s, or something like that.

    But 8s?
    I think an 8 and 9 get on fine.

    They say the best partner for e-8 is e-2, but many female 8s are usually with male 9s.
    Interesting!!! I will have to mull this over..I think you are correct though.
    Yeah I think I didn’t usually go for 8s for a few reasons..(kinda personal things) But one of them is that I just haven’t been around them much. I didn’t know what an Estp 8 looked like. I can think of one I ‘unmatched’ a while ago which is lame!

    Nvm..one good thing I have realised is that 8s often like going to clubs, which I like, so I can at least look out for them there (I'm not that young but I still like clubs ) I think my ideal 8 tritype would be 826 or 846 and actually I know people of these tritypes..and an Esfp 826 seemed interested in me recently. Uh there is hope! I think I’d maybe prefer an Espf 8 to a 7 somehow.

    I think I am also learning how to spot someone’s tritype from their facial features a bit?? Like I swear I just found an 836 online.

    The thing that confuses me is…the instincts/ stacks.

    So, I do believe you can roughly sort people into the 6 stacks. (At least I think people could put their own preferences of the instincts in an order??)

    I can think of two Estps I have known with the same tritype (739). I would have said one guy was sp/sx (incompatible to my so/sx) and one guy was so/sx.
    The sp/sx 739 was nearly 10 years younger than me and unbelievably cool and good looking (high 3sx??) with a bit of bad boy image. At the time when I met him, I didn’t know about socionics but even then I thought ‘nahhh wouldn’t have worked’ even if he was older…'

    So I’m kinda worried now, if you meet someone who isn’t the right stack (for me sp/sx or so/sp) what are you supposed to think? That it’s doomed to fail?
    Maybe it isn’t though and the ‘stacks’ are just kind of in ‘our head’?

    Orrrr maybe certain tritypes are less likely to feel ‘clashy’ to us and be an incompatible stack.

    Or maybe you do just have to trust your gut a bit when you first meet them. It’s hard because you won’t know if it is just normal duality friction at the start or if you really aren’t compatible?

    Maybe like you said before about having 'high 6'..it's all just about compatibility within compatibility..so people came up with the idea of 'stacks' to roughly explain it. The strength of the numbers/ functions need to match up? (Or you just need to be on a similar 'wave length’ or something..be from similar backgrounds etc) Maybe DNCH can be used at this point, which I've never thought much about before..

    ALSO I swear that a guy I know is an Estp 835 (he could be e3 though..) It’s funny..we get on..but he does kinda feel a bit like a conflictor sometimes :s

    Btw..

    Sometimes I feel like I’m in a dream when I talk about this stuff..it’s just all so weird..still! Haha

    Reading over this I can see my tritype all over it. So much seeking and doubting like a typical 946
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bethany View Post
    The thing that confuses me is…the instincts/ stacks.

    So, I do believe you can roughly sort people into the 6 stacks. (At least I think people could put their own preferences of the instincts in an order??)

    I can think of two Estps I have known with the same tritype (739). I would have said one guy was sp/sx (incompatible to my so/sx) and one guy was so/sx.
    The sp/sx 739 was nearly 10 years younger than me and unbelievably cool and good looking (high 3sx??) with a bit of bad boy image. At the time when I met him, I didn’t know about socionics but even then I thought ‘nahhh wouldn’t have worked’ even if he was older…'

    So I’m kinda worried now, if you meet someone who isn’t the right stack (for me sp/sx or so/sp) what are you supposed to think? That it’s doomed to fail?
    Maybe it isn’t though and the ‘stacks’ are just kind of in ‘our head’?

    Orrrr maybe certain tritypes are less likely to feel ‘clashy’ to us and be an incompatible stack.

    Or maybe you do just have to trust your gut a bit when you first meet them. It’s hard because you won’t know if it is just normal duality friction at the start or if you really aren’t compatible?

    Maybe like you said before about having 'high 6'..it's all just about compatibility within compatibility..so people came up with the idea of 'stacks' to roughly explain it. The strength of the numbers/ functions need to match up? (Or you just need to be on a similar 'wave length’ or something..be from similar backgrounds etc) Maybe DNCH can be used at this point, which I've never thought much about before..

    ALSO I swear that a guy I know is an Estp 835 (he could be e3 though..) It’s funny..we get on..but he does kinda feel a bit like a conflictor sometimes :s

    Btw..

    Sometimes I feel like I’m in a dream when I talk about this stuff..it’s just all so weird..still! Haha

    Reading over this I can see my tritype all over it. So much seeking and doubting like a typical 946
    "If you meet someone who isn’t the right stack what are you supposed to think? That it’s doomed to fail?"
    I'm an Sp/Sx, if I meet a Social person, So/Sx or So/Sp, I will notice right away and they actually kinda turn me off.
    They make good friends, for sure, but I'm not interested in So/Sx or So/Sp in a romantic way.

    For example, you know "my type" is an LSI right, and I have a close friend here an LSI, but I'm not attracted to him in a romantic way, ever.
    He's personally such a true LSI, which is strange how I'm not into him at all. Then I realised he's an So/Sp. I need Sx for connection! Lol.

    "Maybe like you said before about having 'high 6'..it's all just about compatibility within compatibility..so people came up with the idea of 'stacks' to roughly explain it."
    Haha interesting.
    Now that I think about it, I remember long time ago I rejected an ESI e-6, I just couldn't, I wasn't into him at all, like at all.
    He's a social too! He's So/Sx.
    Maybe that's why I can't with e-6. Most of them are So/Sx or So/Sp.

    All of my previous relationship always with Sexual (Sx/Sp and Sx/Sp) or with other Sp/Sx like me.
    And yes, I believe I'm naturally attracted to Sx/So, Sx/Sp and Sp/Sx only.

    Haha.

    It's amazing how two intuitives seem to immediately connect the dots between such disparate subjects.
    IEI's are always pleasant to be with. I'm often fascinated by the mix between powerful emotions and cold logic.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett View Post

    It's amazing how two intuitives seem to immediately connect the dots between such disparate subjects.
    IEI's are always pleasant to be with. I'm often fascinated by the mix between powerful emotions and cold logic.
    aww yes it's been a helpful discussion. My brain needs a lil rest now HA I love your description of IEI. I also like hanging out with LIE!

    It's interesting to think that there are some cool, attractive triytpes that exist in non dual-types..

    You know I also think that the instinct I'm attracted to can vary depending on the type. So that's something to think about too! E.g I think sx/so can be nice in a semi-dual and quite special. Where as I'd prefer same stack for duals I guess.
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    I mentioned above somewhere that an Esfp 8 (social) seemed into me a while ago. You know what? I think he may have actually been a dual. I remember meeting him on a night out and his friend pointing out- ‘you guys are talking like you’ve known each other for years’. The next time I saw him I even spoke to him all about my ongoing romance troubles. He messaged me a bit and I think he was interested but I wasn’t in the right head space, also he’s younger and physically not really my type. But what did it feel like being around him? Like he was a really good mate, someone I would have hung out with as a child or something. Maybe that’s how 8s are for me, compared to 7s who feel exciting and 3s who intimidate me a bit.
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