A) both the generalization about women and the one about gay people are untrue and not just untrue but put both groups in the crosshairs of violent usually men. And that's not the only reason to not spread the myths. The other reason is ANYONE can be into a confident and unhealthy person (like for instance you have been into confident but unhealthy ppl) without (you) being a woman. And ANYONE can be a pedophile (without being gay). And another reason not to spread the myth--that these diverse groups of people (women and also gay ppl) are somehow monoliths that INHERENTLY have this one unhealthy behavior--is that there is so much research...so much...oodles of research....research for days...showing people start treating them DIFFERENTLY based on you spreading the myth---AND THEY TREAT THEMSELVES DIFFERENTLY BASED ON THESE NEGATIVE MYTHS.
B) Also, I'm the forum member who fucking deconstructed the bullshit argument and went and researched and hunted what I suspected could be there: a fucking mathematical analysis that clearly demonstrates that gay people are not more likely to be pedos and that it's been shitty misinterpretations (jumping to conclusions) and broad generalizations and fed with general homohate (analogous to systemic sexism and misogynystic culture) which TOGETHER have been perpetuating and propping up this myth that gay people are more likely to fucking molest kids. That has an impact on a gay person growing up to hear that.
And when I talk about having someone's back, this is the kind of thing I'm talking about: someone going and dispelling that and step in front of snowballing myths that are rolling around and disparaging someone who's gay, ats opposed to the other path: helping the unhealthy myth get spread.
And it's something you have done by taking your own self-admitted attraction to a few confident SLE who also were, regretably, not self-directed enough to make a good life with you instead of getting arrested and then you extrapolating that one pattern you USED TO HAVE and saying ALL WOMEN HAVE THIS PATTERN and not only that they exhibit it but that it's MAGICALLY inherent in women.
And the pause followed by a firm 'but the myth is there for a reason' is so far beneath you. You're more cognitively incisive than this. You're more interested in truth than this, and I am disappointed and feel let down. I'm not saying you're evil or something. I don't believe people are evil. That doesn't make sense. You are causing harm.
I am not expecting you to react like 'bow down to nanashi,' and I don't expect you to have my back. You didn't sign up for that, and it's unfair of me to expect someone to go to the lengths for me I would for them. You direct your own life, and I'm glad you do.
But I'm not going to stand here and not point out that you're spreading evil things about women that have serious consequences for real people right now. This has been my point all along...that you spreading this 'women are all this way and inherently so' myth has heinous consequences for a lot of them and shapes how they are seen and how society responds to them.



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