I realize this is an old post, but if
ANYONE OF
ANY "TYPE" is sadistic and enjoys hurting others, that is a huge red flag and you should stay the hell away from them. If you find that seductive, you probably have some psychological things going on in yourself from prior life experiences, and you should seek help in some way; counseling/therapy, thorough research, whatever resources for improvement you prefer to use.
This is coming from an ESI-Se, by the way. That shit is not type related, nor is that what "aggressor" in Socionics means.
I realize ESI's are described as being "eye for an eye," and that description does suit me, but even when I am giving someone a taste of their own medicine, it isn't that I just want revenge or I enjoy inflicting harm on them. Even when I'm angry, I still don't have the heart to derive pleasure from harming others--although I am capable of that when the situation involves sex trafficking children, raping and murdering children, abusing and torturing animals, or basically being sadistic and twisted enough to be cruel to the innocent and defenseless things in this world. Outside of that, though...in the more commonplace and general situations, when I inflict damage in recompense for something that someone has said or done (regardless of whether that is to defend myself or others), I'm doing it to make them feel the harm and consequences of their own actions so that they will potentially change their shitty ways. That is my way of "giving them a chance, an opportunity, to become a better person." So, even while I inflict harm, my intentions aren't to tear down, but rather, to build them up. Sometimes you have to get rough with others in order to stimulate their growth, and other times, honey works better than vinegar. Whether or not this is going to be the most effective method to use on someone is a matter of judgment; the decision on what approach to take entails discerning what amount of force/"Se" that each individual is likely to respond to, based on how their personality is and other factors. Inflicting damage is not a sadistic pleasure. Far from it. It is trying to reach through to someone because you care about others and there is a motivation to improve the world around you. For ESI, "stimulating growth and improvement in the world around you" specifically revolves around human dynamics and personal relationships, as opposed to something such as developing traffic systems, coming up with strategies to reduce pollution, or whateverthefuck else other people do to improve the world around them.
There are also times when you know the other person will not change, nor be receptive, no matter how you approach them. I tend to ignore their existence as much as I possibly can. I don't want to mirror their actions back to them or use the "eye for an eye" approach with them, because then I'm just getting caught up in the conflict and BECOMING the very monster that I cannot stand. I don't want to deviate from my own values for no reason that way. If I stray from my own values, it is a temporary thing I do for the specific purpose of stimulating positive behavior modifications in someone. It is specifically motivated by the hopes that, if they experience what it feels like, they will increase in empathy for those on the receiving end of their own behaviors. I'm deliberately mirroring someone with the intention of giving them a chance to correct their own values. (Thus, the disciplinarian ESI shit.)
The «relationships» element
Fi can be described by the following terms: good, kind, evil, delicate, polite, tolerant, quarrelsome, sympathy, antipathy, cruel, bad, hatred, conflict, offence, love (as a relationship), etc.
http://en.socionicasys.org/teorija/d...ichkov/aspekty
Fi: like/dislike, decency and niceness, morals, good/bad, etiquette, humanism, attraction/repulsion, empathy, compassion, attitude towards other human beings, how others are treated, think about other's humanity "let's hear his side," judgements determined by people doing things
https://www.sociotype.com/socionics/...tion_elements/
Fi is the base information metabolism element in ESI's, which means the
Se is used in a way that serves the
Fi agendas...which is precisely what I have described throughout my anecdotal personal experiences as an ESI myself. The
Se force is used to "discipline,"
Fi wrong/bad/immoral behaviors in others so they will improve by holding to higher standards and better values.
The point I am trying to make by saying all of this, is that neither
Se, nor "aggressor," entail being some kind of antisocial (not to be mistaken with asocial--people commonly misuse the word antisocial, but it means having no concern or empathy for others), sociopathic, sadistic, personality. That is not in Socionics, that is in the psychological concept described in dark triad or machaevellian traits. That concept describes a spectrum; on said spectrum, not everyone who possesses some of those traits will be disordered, but when it's on the extreme end and a person possesses a certain number of that classification of traits, that shit is categorized as having a Cluster B personality disorder of some kind...and Borderline Personality Disorder is presently the only curable Cluster B disorder.
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Surreal If you find the sadism "seductive," as you described here, you are extremely vulnerable and you should seek some type of treatment so you can get to the bottom of why you're attracted to this, and how to change the types of people you're "seduced" by, so that you won't potentially end up in (a) relationship(s) with some type of psychopath, serial killer, sociopath, narcissist, or basically just any toxic and abusive people in general. Finding that type of sadism "seductive" is deeply concerning and very serious. (Sex is a different topic, but sadism outside of sex is a huge red flag.)