Also I wanted to say that "confidence" is often just a genetic fixed Ti thing and yelling at somebody to 'just be confident!' is just silly and doesn't work. Just because *you* want them to be more confident...

It would be like yelling at somebody with brown eyes and telling them they should have blue eyes already. Or even 'Just be straight!' Or in my case - 'Just be gay!' And true the person could just purchase blue contacts and wear them but anybody who has ever had contacts can tell you that they fall out sometimes and it can be revealed with enough insight that the person isn't wearing them anymore anyway. Not a perfect example but you get it.

People can try and get over things & some and face fears but some males are just naturally more fearless than others. Yes, the genetically fearless males have an unfair advantage but no need to get upset about that or jealous because that's life. When has life ever been fair or equal? It clearly never has been. It just doesn't work that way. The incel community calls this 'coping' because they REALLY REALLY want to get laid... sex can be great but it's often overrated really.

I don't feel like screaming at an incel/omega male to 'be confident!' To be honest I'd rather just chill with them and play Magic: The Gathering with them or whatever and just ... let things be.