Quote Originally Posted by nanashi View Post
yeah, you can confront people about the stereotypes. that's fine to do. It's also backed by research as useful and important to not just go along with stereotypes being uttered. You'd think stereotyping wouldn't affect ppl who understand it's just stereotyping..but the research shows the opposite. Sadly, it constantly affects people and decreases their interest in actions they wanted to do before the stereotyping.
Maybe I'm just weird, but if I didn't fit a stereotype I've never felt like I was being included in the group. As in, it never felt directed AT me. And it didn't stop me from doing anything. I think some people internalize those stereotypes a lot more than I ever have. I'm not really sure what causes that internalization . . . but to get all socionics about it, a friend of mine suggested that Fi is tied to identity, and that's an interesting concept to consider. As in the need to identify with something in particular, with a kind of attachment to that identity. So, anything said about that identity is an attack on the self. I don't have that. I get offended by stuff sure, and angry, and whatever, but for different reasons, usually by things I consider character attacks I guess?? I don't know if feminism and identity politics and all of that actually are tied to Fi, but it's something that some people are far more affected by than others for whatever reason. I just can't find anything to be bothered by in it, because it doesn't really seem to have anything to do with me if that makes any sense? He's talking about some women, he's not talking about me. And yes, I'm a woman, but that doesn't mean anything because I'm not one of the ones he's talking about.