This is what has happened to me with what I consider to be the process of dualization and its consequences.
Phase 1. You see them from a distance. You get curious. You feel that they have something unique that catches your attention, but you don't know what it is. They seem like an ideal person from a distance and they bring you nostalgic feelings from childhood (maybe?).
Phase 2. You talk to them. You get disappointed.
Case 1: You think: is this person dumb or retarded?
Case 2: You think: this person is too boring and mentally delayed.
Case 1: You watch them (from a distance) deal with things you can't and it's shocking and scary. You hear about them, and they have done things you have dreamed about but have failed in the past.
Case 2: You ask for their help unconsciously and they help you as though it was effortless for them.
Phase 5: You start to understand their importance for you and how capable they can be. Your interest gets ignited once again
Phase 6: You reach out to them and start asking for their help and offer some help too. Then It becomes a cycle of getting help and helping.
Phase 7: After spending a lot of time with them and exchanging information with them you start to think about how good are these moments, and you have a strange feeling of peace and ease when you think about them. You realize there's some unusual connection between you two.
Phase 8: You lose them for some reason (They die, move to another city or stop going to where you both used to meet, or another reason). You start to feel dead inside with their absence. Life was so easy with them! Now you have no motivation to keep things going on on your own. It feels that you have lost part of your own body/soul.
Phase 9: You start to look for people like them everywhere. You start seeing a lot of people similar to them, but with a very different body and life.
Phase 10: You approach them treating them like they're your old friend, and they back off. You need to be patient!! You realize they do not feel as close to them as you do. You try to be friends with them, but getting close artificially is too hard.
11. 1: You start to offer help to them (just like before) and they may be slow about letting you in but eventually they give in.
11. 2: You learn to give signals to your duals wherever you meet them about who you are, and they respond instantly with interest.
Phase 12: Now you know how to approach them and you start making friendship with many of them, but you can't have a relationship with most of them due to incompatibility in other aspects not related to Socionics.
Phase 13: Some of them start falling for you. Now you don't know what to do with so many little love affairs
Phase 14: **about to happen**