It's weird to me, even as an EIE, for people to suggest that you should have to go through all these charades and characters and acts to try and win over this EIE. I don't think people should have to act as different types or pretend to use different functions to try and woo others. EIE are pretty much about playing different characters, or different versions of themselves, but I wouldn't want that to seep over into my love life, if that makes sense. This would just lead to disillusionment from both sides and end up becoming tiring on the couple, regardless of who's doing it.
IMO. I don't know much about your situation. Are you friends with her? Are you close to her? You obviously don't have to answer, but if yes, then the chances are that she might already like you, and that you two probably already have common interests and ground. She's just a woman, after all. She can't really do much in the beginning except maybe bitch and moan. React accordingly to that as you see appropriate.
Good luck.
