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    Okay, so I'm an SEE ESFp (prolly Se subtype) 748 sx/so and all I see are threads here about people moaning about ESI and LIE threads. I hardly see any discussion threads about ESFp (even in fifteen years, yeash that's a long time). Okay, I get it that ESFps are outside and doing things, but we need at least one thread dedicated to them. This is it. Come discuss ESFPs and everything about them.

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    Give it a little narrative context. A pull...

    How about SEE at work or in dual encounters or developing their strengths and managing their challenges while in a non gamma environment, etc
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    Quote Originally Posted by nanashi View Post
    Give it a little narrative context. A pull...

    How about SEE at work or in dual encounters or developing their strengths and managing their challenges while in a non gamma environment, etc

    - In work, I try to cope with my ESE Mum. She's a bit loopy and crazy. I think I ground her more. She has all these ideas, but she needs them to be realistic first but she's really fun sometimes.

    - I like dual encounters and Gamma environments, especially being with my boy @falk and you. Irl, it's harder to find Gammas, to be honest. It's mostly Betas, Deltas and some Alphas. Deltas are fine, since we share the Fi-Te. Betas can be fun, but dramatic. Alphas are just crazy. I don't get them and they don't get me.

    - The best way to manage a non-Gamma environment is just to do things. Distract yourself and get through the chaos. Just talk to people, get to know them better. Open up a bit. Try and manage the people, try and keep things going. Maybe be a bit entertaining?

    - Honestly? I think that my strength is just being there, making things get done. Talking to people, keeping the flow going. I think that I need to wotk on bring less impulsive, but I'm never gonna lose my directness. If you don't like it, too bad.

    What else?

    (Probably a rubbish answer, but I tried).

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    Question Just some random thoughts (oh dear).

    I think that because SEE have 4D Fe, they expect me to be emotionally expressive all the time, but I only ramp it up when I need to. I can be very "friendly" and "outgoing" when I'm scoping the area, testing the waters or am in an "emotionally expressive" background. Other than that, I'm pretty much the human equivalent of squidward when I'm alone at home, shut away and making music with my grumpy pile of Fi creative and critical opinions on society. Something like this anyway:



    It's insane like how different I come off when people are out of the equation, which is actually kinda funny and ironic to me. I got typed SLI before because I'm "critical of society and aren't overly expressive all the time" on some place. Well, it's was like four in the morning. What did you expect? I'm not gonna be at my peak, am I? That's like sleeping time. REM time or something.

    This mightn't make much sense because it's like one in the afternoon and I haven't slept for like twenty-two hours because I just tidied up some place and am tired as heck. Oh, and also good choice if you weren't a rapper, Salmo:



    It's sorta like this, though. It's weird the difference that people make in regards to the demonstrative functions and environments. And the people you choose as your company. I went through a stage where I literally hated a lot of people in my year and thought of some sort of "revenge" plan for them. But then I realised, it was inly for two years but it was the longest two years of my life. Maybe there wasn't a lot of Gammas there. Or a lot of people who weren't from those specific estates [not like I am/was rich or anything. Growing up, I was pretty much the epitome of "broke and famous" because of my Mum]. Well, there were a lot of Alphas and Betas anyway. I got fed up with them (especially the Alphas) there and it almost pushed me to breaking point, but didn't give up because I fought with them. They tried to ruin my reputation. Especially the troll gypsy kids (not saying they all are, these two were especially). Anyway, I'm glad to be out of that place.

    Anyway, that's just something I wanted to write because I was thinking about how vastly different people can be in company. I sort of thought about it because of Salmo (I was discussing this earlier and then boom, the video came into my suggestions and I clicked on it). He's really different in his interviews and his music videos, which is kinda like how I am in real life too. Vastly different depending on the scope and the current environment and what I need to do to accomplish things, you know? Yeah, this was random but who really cares. We're on here to learn about the different types and this is my contribution to the community.

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    Question ESFpart III

    So, recently, I have been thinking a lot more about Socionics than I usually have and I notice a lot of misconceptions about how "Gammas" and Se Base types as a whole, as they aren't overly represented within the community overall (I want to say fairly, but equally will suffice). They seem to get a bit of a misunderstood (or even bad rap) for being "bullies" or forceful people.

    Yes, it's true that I myself can be quite forceful at times, but I'm never forceful when it the situation doesn't call for me to be. I, myself know what situations call for forcefulness, and I also know that not everyone appreciates forcefulness for the sake of it within the given moment.

    I can also come across as quite a friendly, relaxed person when the situation calls for it (but that's more so to do with the F side of things, rather than the Se side of things). I am a doer, and I do enjoy doing things in the moment and I also enjoy occupying my free time with a lot of pursuits (no, not just physical ones). I like the sense of completion and fulfilment that keeping busy in the moment gives me (and working towards goals, sometimes). I like to impact things around me, and I also like to talk to people. Yeah, sometimes I'm lazy (but all types are, all people are) and demotivated, and I have good days and bad days, but the present moment is the best place to be for me.

    I'm a pretty decisive person usually too. Except for when I don't care, and the moment takes me away and I'm listening to music too. I can react fast or slow. It just all depends for me what's going on around me.

    Daydreaming even happens sometimes, but when it does, it's very realistic. Concrete. And sometimes even in the form of a dream (well, almost always). I barely dream too. But that's another common misconception. That extroverted sensors NEVER have fantasies. Or never think about things they desire. That's called human nature. I just prefer to act those desires out if and when I can, rather than drool over them in my mind.

    Seriousness is another thing. Everyone (who stereotypes Gammas) seems to think we're always serious, Tony Stark, stick up the butt, crass types. I can be that, but I like to be friendly (not necessarily inclusive, but more in an "I'm scanning and scoping the environment" relationship kind of way). Relationships are important to an extent, but they're also a business transaction in a sense (working ones, gaining things from relationships). The business of emotion, life, work, yadda yadda. Speaking of emotion, I like raw, intense, genuine unfiltered emotions. Genuineness. I can sense bs usually, unless someone is doing an amazing job.

    And also, some SEE can seem like ESE until you dig under the surface of the demonstrative Fe. You'll find that they're two completely different kettles of fish. One is very positive, the other much more darker, realistic. Doesn't care about social norms or society half as much. Very raw and gritty. I mean, I can "pretend" to be Fe heavy for a while, but then the novelty wears off when the scanning is complete. The task is done. I know the absolutes. Alpha (especially Ne and Fe) values can be so saccharin sometimes that I'm pretty sure they're the number one cause of diabetes in the Socionics community. They're just not realistic to me, or how a lot of people outside of that realm function.

    Also, since I'm musical, I'll leave you all with this song that's been grinding through my mind all night. Enjoy:





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    PEOPLE ARE SO FRUSTRATING SOMETIMES.

    I'm not gonna lie, they're also pretty gullible. They buy into the whole public outrage thing and don't look at the facts. They don't look at the situation and take a step back. They don't see the end goal. They don't see how it causes more division. They're very sheeple, the people as a collective and a whole. And they wonder why they're being criticised when they can't even think for themselves, which is alarming. They can't see past themselves. They can't see anything. It's worrying, isn't it? Like, find the facts of the situation and then react to those? In the moment, when you hear about the news, let it sink in. Then take a step back and evaluate it. I've had to learn how to do that and not get carried away. It's the best way to be, in terms of how society is right now. It feeds off people's reactions, like a leech. Distractions swarm the news. People take it too seriously.


    Also, here's some bonus content. Just replace 'Milan' with the place of your choice. This is how I am feeling today:


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    Well it's no secret that I've been having a hard time with SEEs lately so it would be great if you could change my mind about them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    Well it's no secret that I've been having a hard time with SEEs lately so it would be great if you could change my mind about them.
    It might be better to change your expectations about SEE's, @calm.

    SEE's are going to be providing you with fun and variety, and you are going to be providing them with advice on how to stay out of trouble. Anything else and you are trying to get blood out of a rock.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    Well it's no secret that I've been having a hard time with SEEs lately so it would be great if you could change my mind about them.
    The problem is the kinds of SEEs (or possible mistypes as ESFj, which would make perfect sense since ILI are PoLR Fe and conflictors of ESE) which you've been associating yourself with. (Also, don't forget that ESE can come across like ESFp because of 4D Demonstrative Se, like how SEE can come across as ESE because of their strong 4D Fe Demonstrative). If you're sure that they're not mistyped, then they're assholes. You just haven't met a good one yet because of those ones. And they're ruining your experiences with SEE. The environment they were raised in and gender can also impact people. Culture too. And I'd be more than happy to change your mind about SEE (I'm a cool one) here Ask away, learn away.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
    It might be better to change your expectations about SEE's, @calm.

    SEE's are going to be providing you with fun and variety, and you are going to be providing them with advice on how to stay out of trouble. Anything else and you are trying to get blood out of a rock.
    Well thatís depending on the individual person. I know that in general, SEE are seen as hedonistic. And forceful. And into ďjust funĒ and ďvarietyĒ. I think that those are surface level generalisations. Ages and enneagram also influence those people. I think that as Iíve grown, Iíve matured a lot as a person and have a lot more insight and knowledge as Iíve gained more experience in the real world. Yes, Iím still pretty impulsive, lack limits and like to push/prod people but Iíve learned to relax and pull back more. Iím starting not to be as troublesome as I once was.

    It also depends on the ILI, but all in all, I think duality is very overrated as a whole. I just connect and click with people in the real world and in real time as opposed to on paper. Thatís also the problem. The theory is a guide and it can help you understand things, but people take the theory too seriously and think that the principles inside the overall theory are the end all and be all when they arenít. The theory is flexible. So are the principles inside it. Not everything is written in stone.


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