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    Default Do ESFps have ANY redeeming qualities?!

    I am fed up with the duals in my life. I'm beginning to wonder whether duality is all it's cracked up to be because my ESFps seem to cause more headaches than they are worth. I have a dual parent, a dual friend, and a dual love interest and they are all looking like lost causes to me. I have had to deploy a ridiculous amount of forgiveness to tolerate them. No matter how much true love I display, it is never returned.

    My ESFp parent:
    -Abused me physically for the smallest things growing up
    -Could not tell when being manipulated by others and allowed those manipulations to lead to the abuse of others, especially me
    -I never truly felt loved by this parent unless something was up. I was supported financially, but it is routinely thrown in my face
    -Married to a mirage, miserable, perpetual cheater, and appears selfless to others but those closer to the circle witness the truth selfishness of their actions
    -Cares a lot about appearances, but underneath it all is an awful rolemodel
    -Never reaches out to me first but complains to others that I don't try hard enough to mend our relationship (because as the child that's obviously my job)

    My ESFp friend:
    -Great for partying or adventures, but has mood swings and becomes very emotionally manipulative
    ex: If I'm dating a guy and I'm happy but she isn't, she will try to manipulate my thoughts about the guy
    -Doesn't listen to sound advice, but when shit hits the fan, expects me to suffer with her
    -Nowhere to be found when I'm depressed or have mood swings of my own
    -Allows other friends of questionable morale to come between us
    -Uses everyone, has 0 interest in someone who doesn't apparently have something she can use (money or fame)
    -Won't tell anyone how she feels but expects them to "know", (My Fe polr won't tolerate this at all)
    -Randomly chooses to ignore me, abandon me, and give me the cold shoulder and is appalled when I don't run back to her
    -Will reject people's help if she didn't lie, swindle, or seduce them to get her way
    -Will be jealous of people who work for what they have, unlike her
    -Admittedly hates seeing people happy if she is not
    -The entire friendship gives me the feeling that she wishes I were a lesbian and in love with her, that way she could seduce me and take advantage of me
    -Will pretend she has no money so I'll pay for her
    -When I buy her food or something she needs, she never shows appreciation. She might say thank you once, but quickly makes a habit of becoming entitled to the good treatment. Continues to complain that no one cares about her.
    -I never know where I stand with her and am constantly walking on eggshells to keep her happy
    -Gives the impression that she could care less about our friendship even though it's obvious I am quite literally the only genuine friend she has.
    -Will run off when I try to stand up against her mistreatment then shit-talk me and tell a twisted version of what happened to whoever is willing to listen, one time she painted me as an awful person on social media.

    We are currently on an OFF stage and I've decided to let her go. She is in bad financial shape and deeply in need of someone and I've decided to leave her to the wolves. Why should I, the better friend (not to mention, the Victim), have to chase her?

    My ESFp love (interest?): I'll start this off by saying it has been extremely hard to find a straight, male ESFp. I'm starting to wonder if they even exist...
    -No solid career, no stable income and no concrete plan to have either
    -Easily spends what money he does have on useless things
    -Easily swindled into get rich quick schemes
    -No desire to "be a man" and work or take care of a woman
    -I once told him I was in a bad situation, he showed no concern ("Gotta go, you're being too negative")
    -Is taken care of by and living with his mother
    -Hypersexual Tinder addict whose admittedly slept with close to 200 girls
    -Keeps mentioning transwomen and gay men, being "mistaken" for gay, to the point of suspicion
    -Hard for me to tell when his compliments or anything he says is sincere, because...
    -He is constantly lying about even the smallest things, just for me to catch him in his lies because he never remembers them once they leave his mouth
    -Is also attracted to people with money and fame, leading me to wonder if I will be used for these things or left for someone with more of it
    -Tells me he likes me, has fun with me, but never texts me first or makes plans with me

    With duals, it's like I'm constantly trying to force them to see the value in me and in our pairing, no matter how much they are benefitting from it.
    The things they value are things I have but refuse to be used for like money. I instead would like to help them make money using their talents and dissuade them from making bad decisions or hanging around the wrong crowd. I do all this expecting nothing in return. And yet, they tend to hurt me more than any other type I have relationships with. And though we have good times together, I end up feeling like I get nothing out of the pairing. They have proven themselves to be selfish, self-serving, and willing to do anything with anyone to meet their needs.
    They don't seem to stand on any moral principles, can't tell which friends or love interests are worth their time and effort, and are constantly using me as an emotional punching bag if not just stringing me along. It has caused more damage to my trust and self esteem than growth in my opinion. I almost wish I was a different type so I wouldn't have such an awful dual type. No matter how much help you give them, they are a bottomless pit and will have you feeling like you put time and effort in for nothing. Then they happily move on to someone who treats them worse but is more loved and appreciated by them than you were.

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    Wait, you say you’re dating Donald Trump?

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    Do massive textwall posts have any redeeming qualities?

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    Quote Originally Posted by sbbds View Post
    Do massive textwall posts have any redeeming qualities?
    If you call that a massive post, I'm sorry about your reading habits and your attention span.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aramas View Post
    If you call that a massive post, I'm sorry about your reading habits and your attention span.
    I should have said wall of garbage. There, better?

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    In my experience ESFp are the best type at giving love. That's basically a main attribute.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smilex View Post
    In my experience ESFp are the best type at giving love. That's basically a main attribute.
    In my experience, they only give love to themselves and have no loyalty whatsoever. They are the best type at backstabbing.

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    this all sounds really bad, I have cut people out of my life for much less. Set boundaries and get rid of these ppl, if they won't leave, you leave...if they follow.. get a restraining order.



    ...wtf is wrong with this quadra holy fuck!?

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    They really know how to party and have sex..... like, a lot of sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xerxe View Post
    They really know how to party and have sex..... like, a lot of sex.
    With anything that moves, and probably things that don’t move. I find it repulsive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shotgunfingers View Post

    ...wtf is wrong with this quadra holy fuck!?
    OP doesn't seem to be of this quadra tho

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    Quote Originally Posted by voider View Post
    OP doesn't seem to be of this quadra tho
    q_q Voider, you are the only sane Gamma I know..

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    Yes!! I have manipulated everyone into liking me so I can have sex with them and steal their money! My white knights, defend me now!
    M'lady I have arriveth to defendeth thy honor!


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    Quote Originally Posted by shotgunfingers View Post
    q_q Voider, you are the only sane Gamma I know..



    M'lady I have arriveth to defendeth thy honor!

    I carry this whole quadra on my back like Atlas

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    Quote Originally Posted by Duschia View Post
    That's actually likely. OP, few things:
    a) have you considered another type for yourself?
    b) have you considered another type (or types) for them?
    c) most importantly, have you considered cutting them off (or even limiting contact with them) for being really problematic to you? Why you didn't? Boundaries, pal!
    OP seems ILI to me because he(?) seems very organized and methodical and Ni
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    Quote Originally Posted by Duschia View Post
    That's actually likely. OP, few things:
    a) have you considered another type for yourself?
    b) have you considered another type (or types) for them?
    c) most importantly, have you considered cutting them off (or even limiting contact with them) for being really problematic to you? Why you didn't? Boundaries, pal!
    a.) no, I always get INTJ, INTp, ILI, I don’t fit any other description.
    b.) I actually couldn’t believe they were SEEs based on how I was treated I thought for sure I was being supervised or something
    c.) because literally no one truly cares about them. They can gather a crowd around them because they’re jesters but when shit hits the fan and no ones laughing anymore, they are truly alone. And I felt bad before but not anymore.

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    Yes!! I have manipulated everyone into liking me so I can have sex with them and steal their money! My white knights, defend me now!

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    Quote Originally Posted by voider View Post
    Yes!! I have manipulated everyone into liking me so I can have sex with them and steal their money! My white knights, defend me now!
    I actually don’t need a lot of manipulation for that. What are you doing Friday night?


    .................................................. .................................................. ........................... I’m joking, in case there is any doubt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by voider View Post
    Yes!! I have manipulated everyone into liking me so I can have sex with them and steal their money! My white knights, defend me now!
    Only deep down we feel sorry for you airheads. Men toss esfp women around and never take them seriously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    Only deep down we feel sorry for you airheads. Men toss esfp women around and never take them seriously.
    Jeez chica. I guess you took my joke seriously.

    I do realize men will toss 'easy' women around if they lack the self respect/awareness to set proper boundaries and get too emotionally involved with who they call hookups. But you'd do well with thinking about how not every person with a type is a carbon copy of the one that damaged you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by voider View Post
    Jeez chica. I guess you took my joke seriously.
    Everything is a joke with you guys

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    SEEs are the best at enjoying their lives and not making useless complaining textwalls

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    To answer the OP’s question, I think that ESFp’s can be extremely good salespeople.

    Three of the four ESFp’s that I personally know IRL are salespeople. The fourth was also in sales when I met her, but I don’t know what she’s doing now.

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    Yes they have a few when some are not trying to cheat on your so lol
    They can have a lot of energy and get things done
    Be a good friend
    Help cheer you up
    Keep memories
    Help you dress nice
    Smart and thoughtful
    Help you do homework
    Help you walk it off
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    Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?


    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beautiful sky View Post
    Yes they have a few when some are not trying to cheat on your so lol
    They can have a lot of energy and get things done
    Be a good friend
    Help cheer you up
    Keep memories
    Help you dress nice
    Smart and thoughtful
    Help you do homework
    Help you walk it off
    I underlined the correct statement and bolded the most incorrect statement. They couldn’t help a kindergartner with their homework. They’re also great friends until they can’t fight their impulse to stab you in the back for their own personal gain. They will never resist doing that. And the “great friend” thing is all an act they play until they realize you aren’t coughing up any money or falling for it in the slightest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    I underlined the correct statement and bolded the most incorrect statement. They couldn’t help a kindergartner with their homework. They’re also great friends until they can’t fight their impulse to stab you in the back for their own personal gain. They will never resist doing that. And the “great friend” thing is all an act they play until they realize you aren’t coughing up any money or falling for it in the slightest.
    It’s understandable to be upset but let me assure you I know an ESFP who works for NASA as a physicist
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beautiful sky View Post
    It’s understandable to be upset but let me assure you I know an ESFP who works for NASA as a physicist
    Who did he/she sleep with to get there?

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    Who did he/she sleep with to get there?
    No one. He is a certified genius
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    It’s easy to feel bitter when you feel let down
    I hope my own story of love and patience proves that it’s out there for you if you too remain hopeful
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beautiful sky View Post
    It’s easy to feel bitter when you feel let down
    I hope my own story of love and patience proves that it’s out there for you if you too remain hopeful
    I appreciate the effort but I’m quickly learning that they are all the same.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    I appreciate the effort but I’m quickly learning that they are all the same.
    It feels that way now. When you are calmer I hope you will hear my voice within you when I say that I strongly feel that you are dating from the wrong society of SEE
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    In my experience my ESFp dual was wonderful. Too bad social media was just a place we didn't interact very well. Im worried if she is busy for reasons i can't specify on this forum for privacy and cant hang out with me for muslim reasons (she's a girl, im a guy, we live with parents anyway), and we attended different parts of the same school later (me the junior college sub section, her the main campus, until i dropped out to get a health care class pre-certification online), leaving me with no other option but to ask her to court her after her college (she wants to finish college first), but in some ways i dont feel ready to date her, i want to continue being friendly. either that or she got creeped out by one rant post about feeling neglected i cant remember the details of and is ignoring me.

    but to answer your question:
    good sides: tolerant, warm, easy going, states whats on her mind and gets straight to the point with sensory like style, something us intutive types have trouble with, like ILIs, (although, I may be LII, so I may be wrong about ILIs, i always heard they were blunt).
    bad sides: i dont want to gossip about my friend, so im not gonna look for fault in her, really i didn't notice much, but ill state what others have said: if they are irresponsible, know they dont like to be controlled. so approach gently. provide structure in a nonjudgemental way, because ILIs tend to crush other people's dreams when really we're just stating facts (even though said dreams may be brainstorming, or we may be pointing out what may be wrong, when we just dont know)
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    My ESFP dad never said “I love you “ or showed love either. He was very cold while I was very warm. It’s an attribute of some ESFP to be physically distant but they show love in cooking for you and maybe providing financially lol
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    I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beautiful sky View Post
    My ESFP dad never said “I love you “ or showed love either. He was very cold while I was very warm. It’s an attribute of some ESFP to be physically distant but they show love in cooking for you and maybe providing financially lol
    Gammas in general often feel like stone cold bitches but I feel like part of that comes from age and bitterness lol.

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    Sleeping with someone who's slept with 200 ppl is risky. condoms

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    Quote Originally Posted by nanashi View Post
    Sleeping with someone who's slept with 200 ppl is risky. condoms
    Never met an ESFP who didn’t sleep around. I find them so repulsive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    Never met an ESFP who didn’t sleep around. I find them so repulsive.
    Um. I have met several ESFPS who've had very few sexual partners. Humans choosing sex is their prerogative. They don't need nor deserve our shame.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nanashi View Post
    Um. I have met several ESFPS who've had very few sexual partners. Humans choosing sex is their prerogative. They don't need nor deserve our shame.
    They are liars so I wouldn’t be so quick to believe such a blatant lie like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    They are liars so I wouldn’t be so quick to believe such a blatant lie like that.
    Any type can lie though. I have an ISFp friend that's told some pretty bizarre lies before. I find ESFps to be pretty direct, myself. If I ask my ESFp friend for advice for example he doesn't sugar coat, which I like. Somehow even though he's direct it comes across better than say an ESTj giving advice would. Probably just because I know he's a cheery person even when being straightforward.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    They are liars so I wouldn’t be so quick to believe such a blatant lie like that.
    um, no. no type is a liar type

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    Your experience with your friend is not due to her being ESFp, but due to her being a women.
    Jokes aside, I have heard similar things about obvious SEE's, and I have seen similar but milder things personally with SEE's. They are sometimes the scum on earth and if one day we discover gene editing and the genetic base of personality types, they should be eliminated from society just to avoid the risk of having that version of SEE's. Whatever thing they might be decent at other types do better, if we talk about doing fucked up things SLE's are better, if it's about selling you something EIE's or even IEE's are better, and if it's about lifting spirits then most ethical types are superior to them, etc.
    We might have to avoid behavioral socionics and focus more on education, upbringing, genetics, culture, and the psychological composition of the person at hand (A.K.A Big 5, Psychosophy, psychoanalysis etc) as well as mental disorders (the things you mention seem common for people with malignant narcissistic personality disorder). Socionics is about how you process the information the outside world feeds you and how you organize it, create it yourself and use it to impact your inner world or your outside enviroment. There are workaholic SEI's and lazy LIE's, all kinds of people might share the same psychological skeleton (sociotype).
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