yeah I think if they notice that you are being patient with them they will do it back and vice versa. So much better when both calm (I feel like I can explain myself better and we don’t get wires crossed and say accidentally hurtful
things) and instead have really nice, supportive and interesting chats which make the friendship ultimately an important one. You can achieve a certain level of respect and the friendship feels quite strong- it might not always be super fun and comfy but there will be good times and you’ll both make effort to check in and be caring (sorry so sappy haha)