Is the male aggressor romantic-style outdated?

[nanashi]

I feel like men are supposed to play it cool and let thirsty women do most of them work nowadays. It’s usually only unattractive, socially inept men who resort to chasing/“aggressor tactics”

Men aren't as a group supposed to do anything. We are each individual people. If you mean societies pressure groups to behave a certain way, well, yes, that can happen, but it's not a great trend to get in line with: you'll not draw people who genuinely fit you as well, and youll get people who don't fit you wondering if they do, and that is wasting your time. Women and men are all finding romance a personal challenge.

Gulenko did a craptastic job describing the romance styles. I'm not sure whether you're talking about those. If you are, disregard the creepy comparisons and just read for the dynamics and actual traits.

ALSO:
Confidence is the most attractive trait a woman can have according to a large study on men, and the same result was found about a trait men coud have when women were studied.

[The Reality Denialist]

ALSO:
Confidence is the most attractive trait a woman can have according to a large study on men, and the same result was found about a trait men coud have when women were studied.

So called dominant subtype characteristics. I actually view it turnoffish.

[nanashi]

So called dominant subtype characteristics. I actually view it turnoffish.

no. not dominance. confidence. they are discreet. I've met many a confident SEI, EII, IEI, ESI, etc

[Ave]

no. not dominance. confidence. they are discreet. I've met many a confident SEI, EII, IEI, ESI, etc

He's referring to DCNH subtype theory. There are introverted feelers with dominant subtypes, too.

But I agree with you that confidence and dominance are not the same thing.

[nanashi]

He's referring to DCNH subtype theory. There are introverted feelers with dominant subtypes, too.

But I agree with you that confidence and dominance are not the same thing.

thank you 4 explainijng

[Itsme]

So called dominant subtype characteristics. I actually view it turnoffish.

This tbh, it seems to seem that this is universally liked because most people (it seems that women are especially affected by this) tend to be normalizing sub-types.
There is no need to be a asshole or act like like a 'tough guy' it is not even needed to be competent.
Women are attracted to you for different reasons, some of them are Victimish or Childlike behavior depending on the ego functions.
Caregiver Women like to give care and will be endeared by Ne goofiness and helplesness in Practical matters while Se women like playful submission and weakness as long as you are able to keep up with her games.

ImE the most important things are Chemistry (depends a lot on Instincts) Looks and Ego Functions (and their Subtype accentuation). So typical Fatherly or Badass behavior is mostly mandatory to be attractive to Ne and Ni egos.

Creative Subtypes are best attracted by harmonizing behavior, and yes to pull a normalizer you should be the typical 'dominant' Douchebag that pop cutlure wants to turn everybody into by false common sense but otherwise it is not needed, not at all.
Be a good person, have matching instincts and ego functions, most of it really is compatibility and then, while being compatible being authentic.
Yes being successful helps but in my experience when there is a strong instinctual and Perceiving function attraction mostly in a sense of social desirability of you as a mate, not for the sake of raw attraction.

[Dr PissBender]

This tbh, it seems to seem that this is universally liked because most people (it seems that women are especially affected by this) tend to be normalizing sub-types.
There is no need to be a asshole or act like like a 'tough guy' it is not even needed to be competent.
Women are attracted to you for different reasons, some of them are Victimish or Childlike behavior depending on the ego functions.
Caregiver Women like to give care and will be endeared by Ne goofiness and helplesness in Practical matters while Se women like playful submission and weakness as long as you are able to keep up with her games.

ImE the most important things are Chemistry (depends a lot on Instincts) Looks and Ego Functions (and their Subtype accentuation). So typical Fatherly or Badass behavior is mostly mandatory to be attractive to Ne and Ni egos.

Creative Subtypes are best attracted by harmonizing behavior, and yes to pull a normalizer you should be the typical 'dominant' Douchebag that pop cutlure wants to turn everybody into by false common sense but otherwise it is not needed, not at all.
Be a good person, have matching instincts and ego functions, most of it really is compatibility and then, while being compatible being authentic.
Yes being successful helps but in my experience when there is a strong instinctual and Perceiving function attraction mostly in a sense of social desirability of you as a mate, not for the sake of raw attraction.

I agree. As a childlike NF type, I like women who take care of me. Mostly SLI women I've seen are very daddy.