SLE young adult male, living at the house of his ESE Dad (his Benefactee) and his dad's girlfriend, who is his dad's age, ESI, his Supervisor.
It was ESI's lovely home, perfectly decorated, and well-taken care of many years while she raised her two children in the home, till they were college and almost done with high school, when she took up with my husband after kicking hers out first. My husband moved right in taking her husband's place with not much else changed. My son was finishing 3rd grade at the time and lived with me and his Dad had visitation.
It seems a pretty peaceable house, but I am wondering what the undercurrent dynamics might be, especially because my son is very motivated to be independent, and he'd just started his first post-college career job, 7 months in, when covid hit and they laid most everyone off - right when he had almost put money down on his own apartment. Good thing he didn't, without work.
But I know ESI's like command of their private space, so, I wonder how this long-term thing might be working out, or if there could be tensions brewing under the surface. All those years growing up my son would visit there for limited times, like a week or two in summer, and an occasional holiday all those years. He did spend a couple college summers there, but then he was working, and out with friends all the time, and when home was busy helping with yard work (and there's always plenty of that). But now suddenly he is there a lot. Last time he was here he mentioned that any time of the day he could predict exactly what part of he house she would be in and what she would be doing. I said, "Oh, that is interesting. A person of routine, like [my ISTp}. A routines can be comforting." My son answered, "I think that is the most boring, lame existence possible!" LOL, it's the only negative thing he has ever said of her. (he has never said much)
Then I realized that they are all together, a LOT, and that was not my son's choice but because of covid. I looked up their relationship type - I don't know why I never did before, or if I did, I forgot, because it didn't seem important, with him seeing so little of her. But now I see she is his Supervisor/Auditor. So I am wondering, with this particular pair, in much daily close contact, what might you expect? I felt bad for my son when I remembered that one always feels like their Supervisor is watching them... And his faults would be glaring to her, and his strengths ignored...