Se PoLR and Social Anxiety
The interest in topic was sparked as I've seen some xII forum members with self professed social anxiety. There's also been other connections to disorders and type with the most popular one being Ne leads being the most likely to be misdiagnosed with ADHD if not more susceptible to, because some common traits which happen to line up. Similar symptoms with different causes; which can also happen to overlap. SA is different because of it's more cyclic nature stemming mostly from mindset/treatment by society rather than some inner biological defect. So SA has the possibility to affect everyone but certain mindsets and habits (which can be changed) causes one to be more disposed to it. I propose Se PoLR is one of many traits that is indirectly disposed by being more prone to those mindsets and habits than others.
I think it's related to Ne creative's ability to generate lots of possibilities while remaining relatively immobile, compared to Ne leads who cannot help but create chaos and splash damage others from their impulsive, energetic nature. They also have to learn how to speak up and dominate as opposed to the skill being bourne naturally. Combined with passiveness and an open mind, unless someone close is being harmed or they are being directly attacked, where there is only one objective and correct fight-or-flight decision, the multiple realities which are equally fair and real in Ne-creative's mind (where confrontation is not necessary) causes a perpetual frozen state of indecision and inaction. xII is easily overwhelmed when their cocoon of safety (Si) is not fulfilled. One cannot combat SA by passive means, it's impossible. Some xII men probably struggle with the "confident macho aggressor" aspect of masculinity more than any other type, and those kinds of people would find it easier to overlap into SA through an already negative/"reject" attitude towards society. SA is also a slow and destructive cycle where the fall is gradual, not immediate. Not that Se PoLRs have weak will, but Se leads are generally better at finding whatever the current stopping point is and going from there, instead of waiting for an ultimative "make or break" point.
Ni demonstrative can also easily be used as a risk-avoidant function, some xII people I know use foresight to step themselves out of every possible uncomfortable/confrontational situation that can be predicted, and are rather good at it, but don't go further with it as part of some "Grand Ambition." They are typically the kind of people who want to enjoy a comfortable life with a little bit of everything, being only fanatic in the workplace when it pertains to advancing some interest of theirs for advancement/hobbyist sake only, or if the comfort (income) is threatened. Even Si leads I know who are comfort seeking and struggle with confrontation are still marginally better at "defending their territory" immediately because they don't see as much room for what-ifs. Instead, their comfort threshold has a higher bar than 2D Si, and is more easy to recover from when damaged I imagine in most cases. However, the habit of avoiding risk, while a human trait, but especially prominent if manifested in Si Hidden Agenda because they can benefit more than any other type from it, is extremely detrimental when it comes to overcoming SA. Also, constant prediction can easily be toxic when there is an internalized pessimism. xIIs are characterized by a self sustaining system of moral and logical "rules" derived from experience which are examined and reexamined constantly, exacerbating the cyclic nature of SA when a "streak" of social failures and ostracism occurs, instead of just brushing it off as an unexplainable, unlucky occurrence.
As someone with severe anxiety, that is slowly getting better, I wonder what current perspectives of Ne creative w/ similar situations have, and any helpful tips beyond the general ones? Just curious, not necessarily looking for a therapy session.
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Originally Posted by coda
