What attracts and repels you in a person?

[lkdhf qkb]

Attract:
Funny
Kindness & smiles without expecting anything back
Practical knowledge & skills
Calls my bullshit but with tact and style
Genuine interest in other people
Puts interests of their relatives on the same level as theirs
Equanimity & reliableness
Nonviolent communication
Takes care of themselves & grounded
Vulnerability & able to talk about their feelings
Sense of adventure & independent
Not afraid to "push back" when I'm too pushy

Repel:
Too principled
Too emotional
Doesn't know how and when to relax
Invasive physical contact
Know-it-alls
No sense of reciprocity, takes but never gives
Aloofness, standoffishness, unresponsiveness, too many boundaries
Dependency on others to solve their problems
Talking behind my back to make themselves feel better
Ambivalence(hot and cold, not knowing what one wants)
Aggressiveness & Anger issues
Victim mentality
People pleasers
Controlling and power hungry people
Impulsive and impatient people; good things come to those who wait
Dishonesty and liars
People who agress those who don't conform to their ideologies
People who can't connect the dots or become paranoid

[gone]

1. Doesn't have a long list of what attracts and repels them

[sbbds]

1. Doesn't have a long list of what attracts and repels them

Does this attract you or repel you????? Or neither because it’s just self-referential??? D33p

[Dr PissBender]

Repels: -people who like alphas

-alphas

[gone]

Does this attract you or repel you????? Or neither because it’s just self-referential??? D33p

It attracts me

[myresearch]

Same thing can attract and repel me depending on time and its form.

[Hope]

Same thing can attract and repel me depending on time and its form.

The form of time?

[myresearch]

The form of time?

I meant the form of the behavior/characteristic/trait that attracted me at first, then can change its form in the time and transform into something that repels me or vice versa.

For example, I can be attracted to someone who is socially harmonious, adaptable to other people. However, after some time, the same person may not show where s/he stands or defend or fight for important things even s/he has nothing to lose besides social harmony, then glacier wind blows in my heart.

[ashlesha]

Repels: controlling, vindictive, materialistic, short sighted

Attracts: harmonious, laid-back, cheerful, selfless, playful

This is like me at my best & at my worst lol. 🤯❤

I wanna reply to this thread, but putting vibes to words is a process, I'll think about it later

[Kalinoche buenanoche]

This is like me at my best & at my worst lol. ��❤

I think that's everyone's best and worst

[Tzuyu]

Kindness.

There was a half-blind girl who was painfully shy, awkward, mousy, had a weird walk, ugly clothes, disorganized, messy hair and was very clumsy and kind of terrible at everything she did, frankly. But something about her made her shine far more than most people... patient, gentle, soft, tactful. In fact, I kept wondering why she didn’t have many friends, because she definitely had something most people didn’t, it was like finding gold. A beautiful soul. I probably sound deluded.

[ashlesha]

For me, the most prominently attractive quality is a sort of transparent frankness that evokes trust, but I don't think my own recognition of the je ne sais quoi that I speak of would be universal or anything. Mb when I'm attracted to someone I project it idk lol
But it's a specific feeling... literal obliviousness (uh mb autism-ish or sth), not aw shucks politician or owning the libs type frank honesty
I feel like I'm talking bs and making no sense, but I'm lazy here u go

[Lolita]

Hard to know unless I interact with them. I don’t think people are easy to get to know by just surface.

[daybyday]

What is your type and makes you want to open up with someone?
What makes you want to ignore or avoid someone?

Attractive: someone who is kind, humorous, approachable, easy-going, emotion balance and non-judgmental
Repel: pretentious, fake niceness (for appearance), self-absorbed, worrier, and nitpicking