Pearl, you'll need to interact with them for some time before you can actually notice the dynamics of the 'Benefit' relation.Originally Posted by Pearl Eighty
I'm the benefactor of my cousin and my friend (whom I'll call 'S').
I'm not close to my cousin so I really don't know what he thinks about our relationship.
But S is a long-time friend and I can tell you that as time passes by, our relationship worsens. It started of good. I notice then, that he was eager to please me and he held my words in esteem like I'm God or something. And when he mentioned something silly, he'd apologize like it's a big sin. It was amusing. Well our friendship is no longer like that. He's practically ignoring me now and we only do some small-talk whenever we bump into each other in social gatherings.
I also happen to be the beneficiary of another friend whom I'll call 'D'.
She was like a mother to me. I know this is going to sound lame but shortly after we knew each other, I began to perceive her as a 'caretaker'. I felt protected in her presence. I even thought to myself "I should get a man who's like D". It was all niceties in the beginning... but as time went by I started feeling sick of her presence. When she sat beside me in the class, a momentary dislike for her will surge in me. I wondered why I felt this way since there's no problem with our friendship at all. As if she could sense my unease, she would ask me "Are you okay?". I lied to her and said yes.
I told myself "You can't be feeling this way. D is a nice girl". But I just can't help it. Whenever I see her, I'd sometimes say in my head "You again". As with the case of S, I'm more of a hi-bye friend to D now. I don't blame her for being my Benefactor. It's just nature!
This is precisely why I believe in Socionics. It accurately describes the outcome of relationships.


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