ISTp-ENFp conversation and Asking/Taciturn Reinin trait

[Slacker]

OK here's a conversation my husband and I had last night. Introductory info - he bought a new welder recently.

Husband sits down. "My new welder isn't working right." (Implied but not stated question is 'what's wrong with my welder?')

I ask, "what isn't it doing?"

He says something like "It doesn't make enough of an arc." Or something. I know nothing about welders. Something about an arc.

I ask, "What would cause it to not do that? Not enough power? Didn't you say something about this welder being 'dual-power' or something?"

*silence* He goes into the garage. I hear welding sounds.

He comes in looking content and sits down. "It doesn't work as well on 110. It works better on 220."

OK so he doesn't ask a single actual question - although he has implied questions. And I sit and ask question after question. How does this fit with him being taciturn and me being a narrator? I just don't get it. I think I do fit "narrator" generally but not so much with him.

Also, why does he ask for my help about stuff like welders and carburators? He has an NeTi friend who actually knows how to weld.

[Smilingeyes]

OK here's a conversation my husband and I had last night. Introductory info - he bought a new welder recently.

Husband sits down. "My new welder isn't working right." (Implied but not stated question is 'what's wrong with my welder?')

I ask, "what isn't it doing?"

He says something like "It doesn't make enough of an arc." Or something. I know nothing about welders. Something about an arc.

I ask, "What would cause it to not do that? Not enough power? Didn't you say something about this welder being 'dual-power' or something?"

*silence* He goes into the garage. I hear welding sounds.

He comes in looking content and sits down. "It doesn't work as well on 110. It works better on 220."

OK so he doesn't ask a single actual question - although he has implied questions. And I sit and ask question after question. How does this fit with him being taciturn and me being a narrator? I just don't get it. I think I do fit "narrator" generally but not so much with him.

Also, why does he ask for my help about stuff like welders and carburators? He has an NeTi friend who actually knows how to weld.

That's exactly how taciturn people operate. But he's not asking you for help, he's just stating facts. It's you who provides the meaning, the narrative, of what do those facts mean. Taciturn = statement of concrete external issues and wondering their meaning. Narrator = providing a concrete internalized frame of reference and pondering the abstract external facts about how it all applies, how to make the story work.

[Mea]

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[Slacker]

OK here's a conversation my husband and I had last night. Introductory info - he bought a new welder recently.

Husband sits down. "My new welder isn't working right." (Implied but not stated question is 'what's wrong with my welder?')

I ask, "what isn't it doing?"

He says something like "It doesn't make enough of an arc." Or something. I know nothing about welders. Something about an arc.

I ask, "What would cause it to not do that? Not enough power? Didn't you say something about this welder being 'dual-power' or something?"

*silence* He goes into the garage. I hear welding sounds.

He comes in looking content and sits down. "It doesn't work as well on 110. It works better on 220."

OK so he doesn't ask a single actual question - although he has implied questions. And I sit and ask question after question. How does this fit with him being taciturn and me being a narrator? I just don't get it. I think I do fit "narrator" generally but not so much with him.

Also, why does he ask for my help about stuff like welders and carburators? He has an NeTi friend who actually knows how to weld.

That's exactly how taciturn people operate. But he's not asking you for help, he's just stating facts. It's you who provides the meaning, the narrative, of what do those facts mean. Taciturn = statement of concrete external issues and wondering their meaning. Narrator = providing a concrete internalized frame of reference and pondering the abstract external facts about how it all applies, how to make the story work.

Thank you!! You rock <3

[cracka]

Oooo... This whole illustration just made it clearer for me as to how taciturn and narratives think.

all I could think of when I saw this reply was the need for a lightbulb going on over your head.

[aestrivex]

That's exactly how taciturn people operate. But he's not asking you for help, he's just stating facts. It's you who provides the meaning, the narrative, of what do those facts mean. Taciturn = statement of concrete external issues and wondering their meaning. Narrator = providing a concrete internalized frame of reference and pondering the abstract external facts about how it all applies, how to make the story work.

why aren't all dichotomic descriptions that concise and comprehensible?

[cracka]

That's exactly how taciturn people operate. But he's not asking you for help, he's just stating facts. It's you who provides the meaning, the narrative, of what do those facts mean. Taciturn = statement of concrete external issues and wondering their meaning. Narrator = providing a concrete internalized frame of reference and pondering the abstract external facts about how it all applies, how to make the story work.

why aren't all dichotomic descriptions that concise and comprehensible?

cuz they all weren't written by an ESTJ...lol

[Slacker]

That's exactly how taciturn people operate. But he's not asking you for help, he's just stating facts. It's you who provides the meaning, the narrative, of what do those facts mean. Taciturn = statement of concrete external issues and wondering their meaning. Narrator = providing a concrete internalized frame of reference and pondering the abstract external facts about how it all applies, how to make the story work.

why aren't all dichotomic descriptions that concise and comprehensible?

cuz they all weren't written by an ESTJ...lol

<3

[Creepy-Diana]

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[Tov]

I also perfer this story over the christmas story no one can understand. Do you know live in the U.S, because it seems to me that he switched it from 110v to 220v which could damage it if you used it like that in the U.S. Michigan I see, did not pay any attention.

[Slacker]

Some of my husband's equipment requires 220, so our garage is wired for both. The welder is made to work on either 110 or 220, but apparently it works better on 220.

[olduser]

My dad is an ISTp, and he's often in the same sitution as your husband. It always comes down to one factor: He doesn't read the goddamn instructions! And it's always his very last resort.