As I lean INTj in socionics, ESFJ is my given duality partner. This type is basically the archetype for 'mother'. Given that finding a replacement for your mother is considered unhealthy, is this relationship particularly prone to producing unequal (thus unhealthy) partnerships?
I believe I've met such a well-balanced gal of said type and I'm wondering in what way (is it expected?) I can reciprocate the small things. An example: we both study late nights in the library. Sometimes she brings things like cookies and shares one or two with me. I appreciate this intensely but being the extraordinarily austere dude I am, naturally never have anything in which to give back. I guess the solution is just to be more giving..