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    Default EII - INFjs relation with people emotions

    So, tell me, do you ever considered yourself as a "mind reader" from the emotional states of others? How do you deal with others emotional states? And are all EIIs have that emotionless face like me?


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    uh, I think I can "heart read" because I always have an assumption of how other people feel/could feel, but it's not usually confirmed and alot of the times either I feel like I could be wrong or I actually am wrong. Sometimes I can feel people's potential emotions, like if I'm in a room with someone who is vegan, but another person who doesn't know they are vegan just starts bad mouthing vegans I can feel bad or offended for that person, because I think "if that was me this is how I would feel" and I think they feel that way but don't ever know for sure, I always leave a situation with a whole narrative of what people in the room could have potentially been feeling, but never know for sure. Yea I do have a pretty emotionless or angry looking face, but it's my normal face. I've either been told I look like I hate the world or I always look high.

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    I don’t know about reading other people’s minds but I tend to be emotionless externally
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    EIIs don't seem to be mind readers but given enough time, they do seem to be able to predict where peoples' emotional states are going and can be quite good at devising strategies to alter their trajectories. They don't seem to think well on their feet so can be caught off guard by unexpected outbursts of emotion, and often their defence is to detach (mentally step back) and not show emotion. Reaction to displays of emotion seems to be felt more when they're alone doing their analyses. Emotionless faces are signs of detachment from the environment and all Ijs can be accused of that....

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    I dont really think I can directly read minds, however I do immediatly get an idea what a new person is like (energy level, insecurities etc) after just speaking to them very shortly. I see this just by the look on their face, how they speak, what they wear etc. All in all I make a lot of assumptions. Also yes, people have told me to smile more often.

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    Well, recently I was out with a friend at an amazing event, and they were in a silent bad mood, and that affected my ability to enjoy the event, somehow their bad mood was taking my mood down, idk probably an Fe thing, but their emotions definitely affected mine. But it was a fight in me to ignore their emotions and just enjoy myself. A struggle to not get caught up in their mood and experience the mood I wanted to.

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    well it depends, some people wear their emotions on their sleeves and you can tell smth is off, others are super guarded and can hide their turmoils so that it's very hard to detect, but if you know the person, you can notice smth is off by small details... yeah I guess that if I know someone well I can tell how they're feeling even if they're not outspoken about it.

    in general I try to empathize, get in tune with what the other is feeling, make questions, and if it's a bad situation they're dealing with I try to help make them feel better somehow.. if it's a nice situation I tend to be energized by the atmosphere, unless I'm dealing with smth bad myself

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