Quote Originally Posted by lemontrees View Post
Does anyone else feel like their duals would consciously value someone much more like themselves than like you?
Hmm if you mean valuing in terms of a partner, then I think it probably has more to do with upbringing, self-perception and social roles than with a socionic type. There are a lot of material, social and spiritual expectations placed on partners in our (to a large degree) monogamous societies, which have nothing to do with psychology. Duality seems to be something that happens to you more than something you look out for because you value it(at least with non-socionists). It just means psychological compatibility, and I know a lot of people who value other aspects, like cultural background, status, intelligence or physical beauty above that in a partner. At the end of the day however, duality is the more comfortable relationship.....a dual is what you need more than what you value, I guess!

In addition, some socionics/enneagram related things I perceive could get into the way of duality:
- a lot of people that grew up with opposite quadra values will look for them to a certain extent in a partner
- sometimes people marry the person they want to be(they look for what they think they miss in themselves, like their Polr/supervisor) or search for IEs that they repress because of a very strong subtype, like Si-SLIs marrying Te-LSEs
- instinctual stackings are important