Quote Originally Posted by lemontrees View Post
Does anyone else feel like their duals would consciously value someone much more like themselves than like you?
I absolutely think this is true.

For years, because I was raised by thinkers, I rejected Feelers as potential partners because I had been taught that they were "dumb". All of my friends were thinkers, and so too have been most of my GF's, until the last one convinced me that Socionics' ITR's are actually true.
My Feeling, dual ESI HS buddy actually told me that he didn't think he was very smart, and then he went on to get a PhD in Astrophysics and a job at a leading University. And honestly, I loved the guy in HS and I also thought he was smart, but he wasn't super smart. (In retrospect, he didn't make leaps of intuition, but he made progress by being thorough.)

When I'm out and about in the city and I wear the non-work clothes that I normally wear (which my son has stated make me look like an oblivious homeless person - very NT-ish), my duals completely ignore me.
When I put on a black T and grey jeans and a leather jacket, they start to look at me. At these times, I'm doing what I call my SLE imitation, but Se is Se, and that's what they seem to notice.