Reposting here, because.
It happened again yesterday with the latest ESI I met. Dinner at a nice restaurant (bill was $106 for two, or nice enough), and then "I'm pretty busy with work. I guess I filled my time with work and other things, like volunteering, etc. I guess I didn't want to have any free time for relationship distraction. Don't take this personally."
WTF? Of course it's personal. It doesn't get any more personal than this.
"Don't take anything personally about relationship distractions. Everyone has their personal focus and timeline."
Evidently, her timeline is forever while she waits for evidence that I'm a "monster" and a menace to society.
TBH, 2D Ni without an emergency to galvanize them is a pain in the ass.