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    Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
    I took an ESI (BD-her initials for my records) to The Black Pearl*, one of the nicest restaurants in town. The reservation happened to be the day before Valentines Day, which historically has been a very bad day for me in past years. Not just sequential disasters with women, but also in business dealings. The historical record has been two major, major breakups, some very bad days with women, and one house closing which has been a financial loss. The day is not my lucky day.

    This is our fourth or fifth date and she said once again that she only wants to be friends. She said that she can’t see herself ever being in a close relationship again, after her two previous husbands and some very crappy boyfriends. She said she was only on Match.com because her shrink told her she needed to get out of the house and meet new people. I seem to be getting nowhere with her, but I’m discovering a lot because she’s the first ESI I’ve ever been on “formal” dates with.
    For example, when I compare her to my two LSI girlfriends, with the ESI, I’ve managed to shake her hand. With the LSI’s, we were having hot sex at this point.

    Someone wrote that Mirage relationships (LIE-LSI) are relationships of increasing relaxation, and I completely agree with this, because I’ve been expecting this to happen with the ESI, as it did with the LSIs, and it is not happening. I feel comfortable around the ESI, but not relaxed. It’s more like I feel like I should be doing better in my life than I am.

    The ESI ordered white wine and I ordered black coffee and we both had the clam chowder and the trout. As we were eating, I was looking around. The theme was black and dark, with ghostly sails rotating over our heads and the only illumination coming from behind the wall of bottles over the bar. The effect was like being on a ghost ship in the dead of night, adrift off the coast with the lights of a city burning on the coast.

    The chowder was average, but the trout was excellent. As we ate, the ESI said
    ”My father choked to death on food.”
    I thought, “???????”
    ”He only halfway swallowed. His eyes got really big and he looked scared. I called for help but my brother ran out of the room. I guess he’d never seen a person die before.”


    So, another typical Valentines Day for me.



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    The Black Pearl is a fictional ship in the Pirates of the Caribbean film series. In the screenplay, the Black Pearl is easily recognized by her distinctive black hull and sails. Captained by Captain Jack Sparrow, she is said to be "nigh uncatchable". - Wikipedia
    it's cool psychologically when people share shit. yes, that's a lot for a dinner divulgement, and this person is only here for friendship, but....cool opportunity to connect

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    ESI-LIE Anime gayness count?

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    I know a gay ESI. We’ve known each other for ten years and have had many conversations. He even “defended” me against a group that was critical of how much I took from the company vs how much I contributed. Lol.

    He’s a good guy but he’s deep in the closet. I think he secretly wishes that I were gay, also.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moharu View Post


    ESI-LIE Anime gayness count?
    I rarely see our weirdness captured so well. I feel seen af


    rarely see our duality depicted so well, either

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    He’s a good guy but he’s deep in the closet. I think he secretly wishes that I were gay, also.
    Straight guys often think that but it's really doubtful. We really don't want you - although I know 'straight guy' fetish porn is popular it usually seems to me like some fringe thing for guys that can't come out yet. Straight male pheromones are a huge turn-off to real gay guys. Whenever I smell my sister's boyfriends
    I end up gagging. I don't even know how she can even do that.

    If we appear extra nice or friendly or even crush-y somewhat- it might be because certain str8 male logics can balance out gay male emotions or something I don't know lol. And we often deeply appreciate a nice straight guy that isn't a bully or douche (cuz its such a stereotype to encounter a str8 male asshole, it's kinda refreshing if he's tapped into his humanity or 'sensitive' side). But I doubt it's romantic at all.

    Or maybe I'm wrong and he really likes you. That probably would fade the more he comes out of the closet though.



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    Quote Originally Posted by BandD View Post


    Straight guys often think that but it's really doubtful. We really don't want you - although I know 'straight guy' fetish porn is popular it usually seems to me like some fringe thing for guys that can't come out yet. Straight male pheromones are a huge turn-off to real gay guys. Whenever I smell my sister's boyfriends
    I end up gagging. I don't even know how she can even do that.

    If we appear extra nice or friendly or even crush-y somewhat- it might be because certain str8 male logics can balance out gay male emotions or something I don't know lol. And we often deeply appreciate a nice straight guy that isn't a bully or douche (cuz its such a stereotype to encounter a str8 male asshole, it's kinda refreshing if he's tapped into his humanity or 'sensitive' side). But I doubt it's romantic at all.

    Or maybe I'm wrong and he really likes you. That probably would fade the more he comes out of the closet though.


    straight guy fetish porn. when i say quarantine has kinda messed me up i think people don't take me seriously

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    Quote Originally Posted by BandD View Post


    Straight guys often think that but it's really doubtful. We really don't want you - although I know 'straight guy' fetish porn is popular it usually seems to me like some fringe thing for guys that can't come out yet. Straight male pheromones are a huge turn-off to real gay guys. Whenever I smell my sister's boyfriends
    I end up gagging. I don't even know how she can even do that.

    If we appear extra nice or friendly or even crush-y somewhat- it might be because certain str8 male logics can balance out gay male emotions or something I don't know lol. And we often deeply appreciate a nice straight guy that isn't a bully or douche (cuz its such a stereotype to encounter a str8 male asshole, it's kinda refreshing if he's tapped into his humanity or 'sensitive' side). But I doubt it's romantic at all.

    Or maybe I'm wrong and he really likes you. That probably would fade the more he comes out of the closet though.


    @BandD, the ESI has never indicated in the slightest that he's sexually interested in me. Instead, we've known each other for ten years and we really just get along well. As in, we respect and support each other and depend on each other to some extent. I think he likes the ease with which we get along.

    I always thought that the ESI was just a loner, since he lives alone and doesn't date. I didn't know he was gay until about two years ago, when he took up with a gay male ILI. They started hanging out together which was normal enough and then they'd have these spats, which seemed weird for co-workers but kind of natural for sex partners. I got the impression that the ESI wanted a guy who was more extroverted, and the ILI wanted a guy who chased him harder. The ESI just seemed really frustrated sometimes when the ILI would put him off for no reason, even for little things like when they would go to lunch together.

    I think that the ESI was comparing his relationship with the ILI to his relationship with me, and that's why I said that I thought he wished I were gay. Not because he's lusting for me. I'd absolutely say that he is not. But rather because our interaction is smoother and more about what each of us is expecting from another person, while his relationship with the ILI is full of little jarring incidents.

    He has hinted at how he feels about his situation in conversations with me before. He's said that, everything considered, he's pretty happy with his choices.

    "Everything considered" is the important part.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ashlesha View Post
    straight guy fetish porn. when i say quarantine has kinda messed me up i think people don't take me seriously
    ESI to ESI, i take you seriously

    (and i've also felt that some haven't really understood what i meant when i've tried to describe how quarantine has affected me...:/ oh well, i let it pass. i get it and enough of my friends get it. found this article helpful for giving voice to some of it, most usefully the longer-term trends that even preceded quarantine life, that i wasnt necessarily aware of before quarantine began: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/19/m...n-culture.html)

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    ESI sp/sx (initials BD), to LIE: The last guy I went out with said he wanted to see my cat. That sounded strange. I asked my girlfriend what he meant by that. She said, "You know. Your cat."

    LIE: -_-

    LIE thinks, "I can't read this at all. Is she really this dumb? Why did she bring up sex? And why does this feel like a warning?"


    I think I'm having a problem with the ESI's ambiguity. I've had two long-term LSI GFs, and there was no ambiguity with them at all.
    It's exactly like what @Rebelondeck described here:


    Quote Originally Posted by Rebelondeck View Post
    LSIs are very literal. Only quantifiable things are acceptable and only quantifiable things are produced; there's very little ambiguity with them at all.
    ESIs prefer quantifiable input but often don't produce it for others; they can be quite ambiguous but hate it when someone else is. They seem to turn quantifiable information into the qualitative, which can make them rather inventive in an artistic sense.
    ESIs tend to have much thinner skins and seem less confident in themselves than LSIs, but this can be all for show. LSIs seem far more rigid, inflexible and or regimented while ESIs have a soft outer layer that covers an equally hard interior. To tell them apart, look for a soft coat, and if it's not there, think LSI......

    a.k.a. I/O
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    On 1D Fi vs. 4D Fi: Assholes vs. Emotional Nuance

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    ESI to LIE: “I’m not advancing in my work. Some of the other girls that hired in at the same time I did are making five, ten dollars an hour more than me. But when the bosses say, “Let’s go out for pizza and beer”, the other girls do that. I don’t. I just want to work.
    “I think my problem is that I’m just not willing to act like a prostitute to get ahead.”

    LIE to ESI: “You’re not wrong. You have to stick with who you are. Your problem is that you’re too faithful.
    “A better solution than trying to fit in where you are right now would be to simply apply to different places to work. Ask for a LOT more money. Most places will say No, but eventually you’ll find a place that likes you and is willing to pay you more.”

    ESI just looks at LIE: “That’s very black-and-white thinking.”

    LIE thinks, “It is?”




    #2 ESI tolerance of assholes:

    LIE to ESI: “I’ve never actually gone out with a woman like you before. I had drunk sex with one once and she was actually pretty great, but she lived too far away to keep doing that.
    “There is this one woman that I think is perfect, but she’s 26 and she likes women.”

    ESI to LIE: “The Artist? You told me about her before.”

    LIE: “Yes. I don't think that her sleeping with women is actually an impediment in my book. I’m not sure….”

    ESI: “You think she’s just young and is still making random choices?”

    LIE: “I don’t know.”

    ESI: “Maybe you should just ask her.”

    LIE thinks, “She’s amazingly tolerant of a guy talking about banging other women when she’s sitting across a restaurant table from him. Is this some kind of nuanced, complex ethical thinking which understands all things?”

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    On ESIs “Dealing a Blow”

    ESI Nurse, to LIE, over lunch: “I get along with most of the doctors, but some of them are just jerks. I once arrived at the hospital and two nurses came out of the operating room in tears. “He’s being so mean”, they said.
    “I told them that I’d take over. I went in and the doctor said, “Did you bring the (insert the name of some surgical instrument that I didn’t catch – ed.)?

    “I said (here the ESI shifts to a forceful, sarcastic, extremely critical voice) “No, because I’m a complete fucking idiot.”
    “He behaved himself for the rest of the day.

    “Sometimes, I think they think I’m Nurse Ratched, but I don’t care. He made those two nurses cry.”

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
    On ESIs “Dealing a Blow”

    ESI Nurse, to LIE, over lunch: “I get along with most of the doctors, but some of them are just jerks. I once arrived at the hospital and two nurses came out of the operating room in tears. “He’s being so mean”, they said.
    “I told them that I’d take over. I went in and the doctor said, “Did you bring the (insert the name of some surgical instrument that I didn’t catch – ed.)?

    “I said (here the ESI shifts to a forceful, sarcastic, extremely critical voice) “No, because I’m a complete fucking idiot.”
    “He behaved himself for the rest of the day.

    “Sometimes, I think they think I’m Nurse Ratched, but I don’t care. He made those two nurses cry.”
    I don't see how this was dealing a blow. Does it relate to low valued Fi? My spontaneous reaction to that would be "Well, go back and get it then, and lose the attitude"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Northstar View Post
    I don't see how this was dealing a blow. Does it relate to low valued Fi? My spontaneous reaction to that would be "Well, go back and get it then, and lose the attitude"
    I don't think she ever loses the attitude, to be honest. She seems to be unaffected by other people.

    As for "dealing a blow", she did make the surgeon change his behavior. I suspect that she had some sixth sense about what would work with him. If he had been an SLE, she might have directly criticized his moral behavior in front of the other doctors, IDK.

    I've never interacted with a female ESI for so long before. She's very different from other women. She dresses like a runway model and acts like she has to correct the world's morals. I've been taking her to lunch for months and she's never worn the same thing twice.

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    Male LIE, walking to a restaurant with a female ESI: "Do you notice that people look at you?"
    ESI, incredulously: "People look at me? No."
    LIE: "Well, I noticed. People look at you. Women look at you."
    ESI: "No, I never noticed that."
    LIE thinks: I'm jealous. Women never look at me.

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    Female ESI, to LIE: "When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a runway model."
    Male LIE thinks "Don't say anything. Don't say anything."
    Female ESI: "They walk like this." She walks in a straight line, putting one foot in line in front of the other with each step.
    Male LIE: "Uh huh."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Northstar View Post
    I don't see how this was dealing a blow. Does it relate to low valued Fi? My spontaneous reaction to that would be "Well, go back and get it then, and lose the attitude"
    actually that seems to be a SEE-ESI (Se subtyle, high neuroticism) interaction, when SEEs are mad ESIs can calm them down by threathening to act even more crazy than they do - usually works.

    SLEs are more low key...i haven't seen really ESIs and SLEs fight...
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    actually that seems to be a SEE-ESI (Se subtyle, high neuroticism) interaction, when SEEs are mad ESIs can calm them down by threathening to act even more crazy than they do - usually works.

    SLEs are more low key...i haven't seen really ESIs and SLEs fight...
    I've known an ESI-Se artist for about eight years (and been in limerance with her almost since Day One) who, at one time, had an SLE-Se GF. I didn't see them fight, but I did see the ESI give the SLE a look like "What the fuck do you think you're doing?" They broke up shortly after that.

    Just for the record, the ESI-Se Artist now has a new GF, and by VI, she's an ESI-Se.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
    I've known an ESI-Se artist for about eight years (and been in limerance with her almost since Day One) who, at one time, had an SLE-Se GF. I didn't see them fight, but I did see the ESI give the SLE a look like "What the fuck do you think you're doing?" They broke up shortly after that.

    Just for the record, the ESI-Se Artist now has a new GF, and by VI, she's an ESI-Se.
    Also consider that ESIs and SLEs have IxFx - ExTx temperament compatibility. One is feeler introvert the other one extroverted thinker there isn´t much overlap except when SLEs become to "sensing" and reach their Se apex

    Many adult SLEs have occupations where strong Te is required
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    Also consider that ESIs and SLEs have IxFx - ExTx temperament compatibility. One is feeler introvert the other one extroverted thinker there isn´t much overlap except when SLEs become to "sensing" and reach their Se apex

    Many adult SLEs have occupations where strong Te is required
    This particular woman is an ESI-Se artist who was raised by an SEE father (who constantly took pictures of her and posted them to his social media accounts. Take a look at what Stratiyevskaya, an ESI herself, says about ESI-SEE relationships) and an EIE mother who is a psychologist with cult-creation tendencies. (“Dissolve your own ego, give yourself up to my greater cause and follow me. Become me.”)

    If the woman is consistently choosing female Se-doms for partners, then she’s still at the personal development stage where she’s looking for personal validation of her own identity, rather than being at a stage where she is happy with who she is and confident in her strengths and is merely looking for someone (an LIE-Ni) to cover her own clear weaknesses.

    In my considered opinion.
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    I have some art in my house that was made by an ESI-Se artist. One of the pieces, made when the artist was eighteen and in my opinion one of my best commissions, is on the wall right next to the door, so you can see it when you leave.

    When I was dating an LSI, she stopped and examined it.
    “That’s not very good”, she said.

    The LSI is gone.

    I’m now dating an ESI occasionally. She saw it, paused, touched it, and said “This is beautiful. I really like it.”
    ”I like it, too”, I said.
    She stepped back. “I like the way the light reflects off the tiles, and the depth, and the colors....”
    ”Yes. Notice the dichotomy between the two sides of the picture, how they are represented as opposites, but joined into one single entity. Like Duality. She met me, we talked, and then she created this. When she was eighteen. I have more of her art in my room. Maybe I’ll show it to you sometime.”

    Finding your own tribe is half the battle.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
    I have some art in my house that was made by an ESI-Se artist. One of the pieces, made when the artist was eighteen and in my opinion one of my best commissions, is on the wall right next to the door, so you can see it when you leave.

    When I was dating an LSI, she stopped and examined it.
    “That’s not very good”, she said.

    The LSI is gone.

    I’m now dating an ESI occasionally. She saw it, paused, touched it, and said “This is beautiful. I really like it.”
    ”I like it, too”, I said.
    She stepped back. “I like the way the light reflects off the tiles, and the depth, and the colors....”
    ”Yes. Notice the dichotomy between the two sides of the picture, how they are represented as opposites, but joined into one single entity. Like Duality. She met me, we talked, and then she created this. When she was eighteen. I have more of her art in my room. Maybe I’ll show it to you sometime.”

    Finding your own tribe is half the battle.
    Glad you are occasionally dating an ESI. : )

    This art mention here is so interesting because it coincides exactly with what I was thinking about this morning.

    I spend time compiling N.C. Wyeth's illustrations and paintings for the Favorite Art thread (Here, starting with post #145) It took time but it was a labor of love because I LOVE N.C. Wyeth's work! It's ideal, perfect to me. I wondered why not a single person hit "like". Did everyone not-like? Now, reflecting on what you say here, it seems actually possible that a lot of people just are indifferent, for Socionics reasons.

    So I am reading a big think bio book on N.C. Wyeth now. I immediately realized Howard Pyle, his first teacher/mentor, was EIE, and that is based on what you said of EIE and cult-starting: “Dissolve your own ego, give yourself up to my greater cause and follow me. Become me.” - that could have been Pyle's motto. (Pyle was criticized for making his students into copies of himself, which also Wyeth later rebelled against). And Wyeth's wife was clearly SEI. But why hadn't I figured out Wyeth? Then I realized, I could not rule out IEE. But no, I must be flattering myself that such an amazing artist, that I so idealize, would be IEE.

    But now I do think IEE. For so many reasons. Yes, if I had been born a genius, I would probably paint like Wyeth. In fact, as I wrote this, I realized I did an illustration for a book (not published - but the author told me the publisher liked my illustrations) and it only now occurs to me it truly looks like an N.C. Wyeth-type illustration. I have never been able to post pics here from my computer files (only from internet) but if I can figure it out I will later) but the boy is in an action position, and with the landscape behind, and the big sky, with super fluffy clouds, and it's very its mindful of Wyeth's work, which I never thought of when I drew it - perhaps an unconscious association with a picture seen long-ago, before I studied his work? Or, maybe IEE minds think alike.

    Mark Twain, also an IEE. I absolutely LOVED his Joan of Arc, which he absolutely loved, too, considering it to be the pinnacle of his literary works.

    So the point is, it makes sense that art is not appreciated only for it's level of accomplishment and professionalism, but also for whether the artist's Socionics values speak to yours. Which you illustrate in the above example perfectly. The art by an 18 year old may not have been done at the pinnacle of her professionalism, but likely it was a very clear ESI expression, which did not resonate with the LSI, but did with the ESI. We are drawn to our tribe's values and expressions. : ) (Also literary works. Twain's Joan of Arc is one of the best reads of my life.)
    "A man with a definite belief always appears bizarre, because he does not change with the world; he has climbed into a fixed star, and the earth whizzes below him like a zoetrope."
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    ESI: you are a fascist robo pig

    LIE: hehe *sends ESI 1000 dollars*
    And I'm what you desire, like a siren in the night



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    I’ve been taking an ESI whom I met on Match.com out on dates for a few months and I’ve been learning a lot about ESIs. You can read about a type for years, but it doesn’t compare to (although it might slightly prepare you for) the real thing.

    The dates consist mainly of me providing her with positive Se experiences, like taking her somewhere that is outdoors and pleasant, or taking her to a nice restaurant where the food and ambiance are excellent. I expected her to want to spend time shopping, but when I suggested this, she said she doesn’t like to shop that much. Which is exactly what another ESI once told me. This is hard to believe, because both of them dress with great taste, but let’s assume it’s true. I’m postponing judgement on this question.

    She did, however, tell me that she was at a fair and they gave her a coupon worth $5 towards any purchase, so she impulse-bought a $30 jacket because she could get it for $25. I just shook my head. I had already read that ESIs can spend a lot to save a little.

    What she does on these dates is talk about her relationships. Mostly, her bad relationships.

    We were sitting on a stone terrace in front of an 1886 train station converted to a restaurant, having a light, late afternoon snack of scallops and clams and a dry white wine, and she was telling me about her life.

    She was married at 17 to an SEE who was in the Navy and sold drugs. She married him because he got her pregnant and she divorced him two years later because his drug habit was becoming dangerous for her and her son.

    She then moved in with an LSI who, she thought, would provide a father-figure for her son, married him, and then he moved them into a trailer next to a busy road and proceeded to cheat on her with his previous GF. But, perhaps because she lacks strong Ni, she stayed with him, maybe because she had a hard time imagining anything else.

    After many years, the LSI cleaned out their bank accounts, moved in with a younger woman, and told the ESI that he'd never been happy with her. The ESI got a divorce lawyer who was an alcoholic and a womanizer who managed to give the LSI all of the marriage’s savings in exchange for letting the ESI share his GM health insurance and only got a separation, not a divorce, because he filed the wrong papers. When the ESI complained about this, the lawyer asked her if she had a law degree? HE had a law degree! Because the ESI was extremely depressed after this, her divorce lawyer told her that she should see a psychiatrist, who happened to be a friend of his (and who accepted only cash as payments).

    The psychiatrist told her that she was too socially isolated, and that was causing her to be depressed (not the fact that his buddy, her divorce lawyer, was a terrible lawyer. Please don’t even think about suing the guy, because everything is YOUR fault), and she should go on Match.com and start dating again.

    I took a sip of water from the clear crystal glass, scraped the crab encrusted scallop out of the half shell with my fork and said, “Well, that seems to have worked out. It was through Match that I met you. As for the rest of that, you should just let it go. It’s over and done with.” One of the guys at a neighboring table was staring at her.

    She said, “After telling my psychiatrist all my experiences, he said there must be something wrong with me. Something is wrong with my man-radar.” And then she stared at me, flatly.

    Was this a challenge to me? Was she joking or being serious? Is she really dumb or really smart? Damn, I can’t tell. I can’t exactly read her when she says things like this, but I think it’s funny.
    Last edited by Adam Strange; 04-18-2021 at 05:15 PM.

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