EII Change My Mind
Figure it'd be interesting to see what people here think. To start off, I just want to say that I won’t be making any videos.
What do you study or do for a living? How did you come to do that? What do you like or dislike about it?
I’m a student and I study film. Writing, directing, sometimes working cinematography. I’ve been doing it since I was 12. Before that I was always known for writing and telling stories. Self-expression is really important in life. There’s nothing I really dislike about it. It can just be time-consuming and stressful at times.
What are your values, and why?
Modesty, gratitude, humility, integrity, honesty, respect, individuality. I think it’s important to live with principles in life.
What else do you do on a daily basis? What are your interests and hobbies? Why do you do them?
Typology, music, writing, researching topics. I’ve been learning piano more recently. I do everything because I'm curious. I’ve always had a strong fascination with life and I’ve often questioned different constructs and looked to get away from social norms.
Describe your relations with family and friends. What do you like and dislike about them?
I spend most of my time alone. I’m very close with my parents and speak extensively with both of them. My mother is (Dominant) IEI-Fe and my father is (Normalizing) LSE-Te. With my mom, we can talk about pretty much anything. The only thing that tends to bother me is that she’s always trying to turn my studies and interests into something useful and goal-driven. This bothers me because I feel that it can sometimes take away from fully absorbing what I have to say. With my dad, we can also talk about pretty much anything but tend to talk a bit less. I appreciate his fascination in topics without the need to turn them into something but he tends to have much less to say than my mom. My mom also tends to have more enthusiasm than him which can be much more encouraging in dialogue. I tend to play the more encouraging role for my dad and she tends to play the more encouraging role for me. In regards to friends, I don’t have much of a need for them. I have a few close ones but nobody that really knows me beyond a surface level. This is mainly due to the fact that I’m so closed off and I really only want to open up to someone that will always be in my life(for instance with family). Most people tend to open up to me and the people I do let into my life I tend to have close engaging relations with. Everyone else will often see me as cold and aloof until I show a smile or something. I tend to need to mediate my energy with people to avoid coming on too strong.
What do you look for in friends? In romantic relationships?
Really just someone to share thoughts, time, and energy with on different levels.
What conflicts have you encountered recently with other people? Why did they happen? Which kinds seem to happen on a regular basis?
I haven’t gotten into any conflict lately or that I can remember. I’m normally resolving other people's conflict. There’s not many issues I encounter nowadays. I think we should always look at ourselves first and take full responsibility for our actions before pointing blame or getting frustrated. I’m fairly self-critical.
How would your friends describe you?
I figure everyone I know would probably say something different but I asked a few people.
Female SEI-Fe (2w1): “One of the smartest people I know, understanding, patient, compassionate, introverted, attentive, sincere, funny, creative, honest, really intuitive, reserved, quiet, straightforward, coffee addict, insomniac, kind hearted, polite, HUMBLE.”
Male SLE-Se (7w6): “Steadfast, diligent, caring.”
Female SEI-Fe (9w1): “Smart, mysterious, and funny as hell. You always make me laugh, even if you’re saying something silly.”
Female IEE-Fi (2w3): “Reserved, passionate, helpful to others, honest, you love learning and spreading your knowledge. I did see you as mysterious but that's slowly changing in my point of view after talking to you more. Easy to talk to, good listener. I feel like I can talk to you all day actually. Sincere, compassionate, kind, friendly, caring too. You're different from others which I really like, I guess that's because you're staying true to yourself and sticking to what your values and beliefs are. Not quick to judge, approachable. Overall, amazing in my eyes.”
Male LIE-Te (3w2): "Smart, a bit up your own ass sometimes, big thinker, I think you like to try to help people but sometimes gives up on them when you feel like you can't help them which is fair. If you can't help someone you might just make them worse. I'd also add that maybe you look into things a bit too deeply sometimes but that's something I like about you because I do it too."
Female SLI-Si (9w8): "Mellow, loyal friend, intelligent, creative, hard working."
What do people generally see as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
People normally come to me with relationship trouble or mental health issues. I think they see me as insightful, patient, and considerate. Personally, what I like most about myself is my contented nature with life. My ability to not worry too much about anything related to my personal needs.
What are your weaknesses? What criticism do you often face from others? What do you dislike about yourself?
On a surface level, people will say I’m not attentive enough to my environment and community. I’m not active enough or what not. Personally, I tend to feel more guilty about not showing the people closest to me that I care about them enough. I’ll include at the end how I described this in a previous thread.
In what areas of life can you manage well on your own? In what areas of your life would you like help?
I’m perfectly capable of doing anything on my own. I can procrastinate quite a lot and I don’t always manage my time well but I always tend to get done whatever I set my mind to.
What things do you dislike doing? What things do you enjoy more than others?
I don’t inherently dislike doing anything. Normally if I’m in the middle of something, it can feel like a chore to do anything else. I like routine. It’s harder for me to get started on something new but once when I’m doing it, I tend to have few issues.
What goals, aspirations, or plans do you have for the future? How did you come to have them?
Anything is possible. Right now I’m focused on film and building my career and portfolio in that world but I would love to get into music too. I don’t care about fame or fortune. I just want to be able to support and maintain my lifestyle.
If you had enough money to live comfortably for the rest of your life without working, what would you do with your time?
I would do exactly what I’m doing right now.
What traits do you find endearing that others might dislike? What traits are considered positive/neutral by others but tend to annoy you?
Moral principles are something I find endearing. I’m attracted to innocence and purity. At the same time, I’m also fascinated by evil and darkness. I've read into and analyzed murderers and rapists. I want to humanize and understand everyone. Most of the people I’ve been interested in have lived through trauma and suffering. At the same time, I’m annoyed by chaotic behavior, lawlessness, and irresponsibility.
What kinds of things do you do to manage and/or beautify your environment (your room, your house, etc.)? What do you think of daily chores?
I don’t spend much time on this. If I clean, I clean everything. If I decorate, I decorate everything. I'm all or nothing. My style is dark. Black clothes, black sheets, black everything. I pay attention to my sense of smell the most. I’ll often burn incense or run essential oils in my humidifier.
How do you behave around strangers?
Quiet, reserved. I’m either friendly and warm or totally closed off.
How do you react to conflict? What do you do if somebody insults or attacks you?
I’ll look to see where their anger is coming from. It’s never the case that I would walk away from conflict. I always handle it to the best of my ability. It’s incredibly rare that I would be pushed as far as to lash out. I despise power games and would take no pride in shaming anyone or insulting them. For me, it’s usually assumed that unless I’ve made a promise and broken it or gone against my word in some way; the anger directed at me is usually a projection of the aggressors insecurities or fear. Their motivation for insulting or attacking me is most often entirely self-oriented.
What is your biggest accomplishment?
I don’t care much about accomplishments but I won a couple student emmy’s when I was younger and got into some festivals and screenings. That was cool.
What is something you regret?
Anything and everything but I often redirect my attention to the moment in order to keep my mind from going into that place. I’ll deliberately keep myself from looking at old photos or home videos because I’m very sentimental
Who do you admire, and why?
I’m not one to admire people but I respect my parents and those closest to me. I appreciate styles of filmmakers like Terrence Malick or David Lynch.
What's been on your mind? Has anything been worrying or concerning you? What problems have you encountered lately?
Being grateful is really important to me. Whenever I start to worry I’ll count my blessings and find peace with what I have. In spite of anything we want in life, what we do on a daily basis is really all that matters. I want to maintain my lifestyle above all else and if I am to worry, it’s only as a means for that. Sometimes I’ll also feel that I want to do certain things in life for my previous self. The child who dreamed big. I don’t want to let him down. He tends to offer me direction and push me forward in life.
What are your religious or spiritual beliefs and why do you hold them?
My ideas about reality are always changing. Life is a mystery. We should stay open and curious to the possibilities. I think to believe or subscribe to any specific ideology is to close the door for that. That said, the closest I’d come to describing my view is through Camus’s or Kiekegaard’s absurdism/leap of faith.
What are your political beliefs, and why? To what extent do you care about politics?
Don’t care about politics (at all) but if I was to set myself on the scale I’d be center, right-leaning. The reason I’d put myself there is that I have a lot of traditional values despite being indifferent towards making people comply to anything. My views are my views and I'm not going to judge other people or project them onto others. I recognize my morality and politics as entirely subjective and thus they shouldn't be made as policy. I think policy should be made to accommodate the majority, that's the only way to sustain culture. If we as a society start accommodating the beliefs of every individual, we're sure to fall into chaos.
Would you ever be interested in starting a business? Why or why not? What role would you play in it? What kind of business would it be?
I’d open a film production company. It would be fun to write sketches, short romantics or dark satire for YouTube. Ideally I’d like to be able to create real films though as a writer, director, cinematographer. I’m a very visual person.
What kind of work environment do you prefer? What do you look for in a job?
Flexibility with time and a good amount of space away from people. I would love to work from home. Preferably doing creative work.
What is or was your favorite school subject and why?
English because I love writing and all the teachers loved me.
How do you approach responsibility? What do you tend to expect of others?
Part of my philosophy is to not expect anything from others. For my films, I’ll often take on every role in the project. It’s rare that I trust others to do a job the way I’d like it to be done. Personal responsibility is really important to me. I think expectation is the root of all conflict.
What were you like as a kid? How have you changed since you were a child?
At the end of this questionnaire I included a short blurb on this but I was a huge idealist and I’ve become a lot more pragmatic nowadays but I still have that heart in me.
What was your high school experience like?
I went to three different schools in high school. Throughout my life I’ve always felt like I was outside. Small group of friends.
Talk about a significant event from your life.
Leaving the house I grew up in was probably one of the most significant events in my life. At least in my eyes. I wrote this after leaving if it helps:
Do you like kids? Why or why not?
Sure. The innocence and curiosity of childhood shares a special place in my heart.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
To my understanding, trauma is inevitable. My main concern would just be showing the child that they’re loved and supported, giving them adequate attention. It’s a huge responsibility to raise a life into this world. I just want to be sure their upbringing doesn’t rule their life.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
I’ll often sleep early when I feel stuck. My body will strain. It's normally because I haven't been active enough or something happened that I can't fix.
How do you see other people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
I think people need to be more grateful for what they have and how things are. People get so focused on the future and the problems in the world that they tend to spend very little time in the present or showing compassion towards their neighbors. Sometimes I’ll look around and see how trashy everything is and how self-focused people can be. The other day in class, someone shamed a classmate for calling native americans what they deemed to be a derogatory term. The person they shamed was from a totally different country and they had no consideration for the reasoning behind her presupposition.
What do you do if you're not getting what you want? What approach do you use?
If I’m not getting something I want, I’ll find ways to get it. I always look for alternatives. A lot of people are quick to think it’s impossible to get something or do something. I can be very ambitious, especially with my films. I’m not the type to give up easily or let something go.
Are you comfortable taking leadership roles? In what areas? Why or why not?
I’m perfectly capable of managing others and organizing a team. As a director, I do this all the time. I tend to handle stress better than most in these situations. I’ll only lead for my own projects which I’ve planned meticulously. I don’t tend to take on spontaneous leadership roles and I wouldn’t if I wasn’t versed enough in the field to be leading on it.
How often do you get angry? What kinds of things make you angry?
I don’t tend to get angry at others, mainly I get frustrated with myself or I start feeling guilty about something and I’ll really beat myself up about it. Otherwise, I tend to find anger quite silly. I’ll likely make a satire some day of all the silly things people get angry about.
What is the purpose of life? What do you find personally meaningful in life?
To experience, to love, to learn, to suffer, to try and fail, to try again, to do everything and nothing until you die. Seeking for meaning in life is superfluous. Meaning is written within everything we do.
How do you dress or manage your appearance?
I dress conservatively. Dark clothing. My color scheme is black and grey with occasion of burgundy or indigo. I don’t try to get people's attention with what I wear, nothing eye catching.
Do you like surprises?
When I was younger I’d try to see what my parents got for Christmas because I was too anxious to wait. I remember finding a present once and pretending on Christmas day like it was the first time I saw it. To answer, I’m not a fan of surprises at all but I wouldn't mind if someone was to surprise me.
I write mainly about romance and existentialism with a psychological bent. Interest in using symbolism and metaphors to express things more objectively. Focused on bringing people back to the individual and their own personal responsibilities rather than that of society or their expectations on others. I'm mostly quiet but when approached I know how to handle conversation. I'm sensitive but not moody. Tend to moments of uncertainty when given too many options but when I do make up my mind, I follow what I want with passion and a strong sense of knowing. When I was younger I was treated like a prodigy filmmaker but I've grown to find that label pretentious and arrogant. I feel it's also instilled in me this feeling like I'm not living up to my full potential. On a personal level, I tend to have a hard time knowing how others perceive me which has made me less conscious of my physical attraction and consequently I don't tend to approach people but rather wait for them to approach me. I've gotten better at this over the years but it's still something I need to work on. I think a part of my intellectualism is a subconscious desire to see my value in some arcane way.
Most of my time I spend listening to music or researching different topics. When I write or create anything, it takes years to come to fruition and sometimes it'll never even see the light. I'm sure you can assume but I'm very reserved. I tend to regret saying certain things or not saying certain things but my energy is mostly focused in the present. I'm a contented person for the most part, at least I preach to be.
I'll also add that I'm interested in spirituality, philosophy, and psychology. I've explored vedic astrology, kundalini, and some of the occult. Currently I'm practicing transcendental meditation. I used to not be this open but the more self-aware I've become, the more easy it's been for me to act vulnerable(mainly online or in close relations). Nobody really knows me inrl and I'll often feel outside of myself like an observer looking inside myself and others.
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(as per tcaudilllg)
I think that your mom wants to direct you to goals seems kinda Te, but then it could really be Ni plus you said she's enthusiastic which I'm sure is her Fe. That your dad is sort of the opposite seems atypical of Te, but that could also just be his Si relaxation, or whatever. I didn't read all of it, because obligatory ADHD excuse, but I was very interested and I'll probably come back to it later. 
Originally Posted by Starfall
You seem very intellectual.
