Originally Posted by Number 9 large
Do you have Tourettes Syndrome or something?
Oh wait I get it, you think you are SLE and therefore acting like a real badazzzz.
The only SLEs on the fourm are K4, Nanashi, Faith, and Ananake. Hate to break it to you dude. Se =/= being a prick.
IMO its the other way around.
Originally Posted by ooo
Ne and Si are the types looking for perfection (perfect harmony of the outside state) and frequently deal with bouts of dissatisfaction as they seek all the potentialities of what could and should be better.
There are reasons they say don't marry a Huxely.
I have a pair of pink fluffy handcuffs.
It's probably the most useless of my possessions, although it is fun to have a good laugh at them once in a while. I'm fine with pain if it brings me something, getting in shape is painful but rewarding. This bdsm, power play, or any other kind of abusive things turned into "bedroom fun" is something I find puzzling at best.
I've been thinking that Se/Ni being into rough play might be coming from expectations, aggressor/victim just sounds like plain bdsm, while caregiver sounds more sweet and gentle. Does it have to be? I don't think so, at least I have never seen any trend that led me to believe in it.
For the reccord, I do not value Ne/Si.
well this doesn't contradict what I said, perfection is relative, each one looks for the most suitable perfection -for them-. Ne-Si quality is the ability to find the perfection in everything, Ni-Se quality is more like achieving the perfection. so the first is more "satisfied" with what it has, the latter is about the struggle to be satisfied, which translates into childlike-caregiver and aggressor-victim dichotomies, quite well.
Originally Posted by timber
I have never thought of sex as a dominant/submissive kind of game, I suppose I am rather balanced, but due to the nature of things I have generally been more dominant. I'm fine with it. I think @BandD is on to something when speaking about talking a bigger game than we actually like, at least I can relate to that. But I am too very versatile to my partner's needs. But when "left to my own devices" I am personally very vanilla.