Maybe I have a knee jerk reaction to throw bolts in this because at 17 years old I was not exactly on the approved list lol but I love my son and he's a great kid.
Some people definitely shouldn't be parents, true, but I wonder if they'd be adequately weeded out with testing (and if potentially good parents would be cut out). I feel like a libertarian, wtf.
2.) And sterilizations are perhaps a step farther than I'd go--which is why I said "Gattica-lite." lol Even though there could be a case made for those who continually push out children without the resources (physically, mentally, financially) to adequately provide for them. But then could potentially put a target on the back of certain (high risk) demographics and then it all becomes far more ethically problematic, even if icily practical and logical if maintaining balance for the "whole" is the aim.
In this hypothetical scenario, I'd also think that before (if we possess the adequate technology) or after a child was born, there would be "how to" guidelines or some rubric tailored to the child's own cognitive/psychological needs. And as long as the parent has all of the required means to sufficiently support a child's development (in the best way for that particular child), then perhaps more people wouldn't be kept from rearing children. Sometimes it's not that the parents are inherently bad in so much as they don't know how to deal with their child as an individual (with different needs, makeup, etc...).
Having said that, I don't think parents are supposed to be perfect because their parents weren't perfect and their parents before them; I honestly believe that most try the best they can but sometimes the best is not good enough. And so there must be check and balances put into place to ensure a certain standard is maintained > don't create people who become societal drains (murderers, con artists, do-nothings, leeches, etc...).
I should add that I think the main reason to not have children nowadays is because IMO western society is slowly collapsing over time due to incompetence and shilling from politicians as well as greedy and power hungry wealthy business interests. As a result of this, each succeeding generation of the vast majority of the population no matter who you are or where you're from and unless you're a part of the ~1% will have increasingly worsening lives with lower financial independence and lower personal freedom. I also consider bad parenting to be merely a symptom of a poor society.
A turbulent and weak society creates bad parents, which creates ill-equipped children who then go on to father and mother their own mal-adjusted children and the vicious cycle continues. The solution to ending this cycle is to fix society, but that will not happen any time in the near future. So the next best solution is to work on yourself if you want to be a parent; become more financially independent and more self aware of your own foibles as a human being that you developed because of your parents and your school environment so you can tamper or end the cycle at least for your own bloodline.
“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” Randy Pausch
It's not something I ever envisioned doing, and I'm aware of many of the disadvantages, but, ultimately, I don't mind raising kids and having a family. I wouldn't want to lead a "traditional" life, though, and I'd much prefer that we had mind-expanding adventures rather than some dull suburban existence.
That said, no wife of mine would ever have to work unless she wanted to — it's easy for me to do the 70 hour work week and whatever else it takes to be a good provider.
Wanting offspring to come of age in this ecosystem is psychotic. As long as the technology that maintains a baseline standard of living for humans has a deleterious effect on the environment they live in, expanding this population at any replacement rate at all for a long enough time will eventually make it inhospitable, and tech-optimism on this issue is foolish naivete. We cannot thrive at a middle-ages style standard of living without also inheriting the plagues of their age like disease and extreme scarcity, and even if we tried, we are far above the carrying capacity of the land for that to be viable anyway. Doing it by accident is forgivable though, it's how it happens most of the time. Still, the sentiment itself of intentionally wanting to make a life against its own will - it just rubs me with this weird megalomania of not being satisfied enough with controlling your own sphere, and preserving your own "mark" into the future even after you're long dead and can't experience it, ugh.
Also I don't want my genes to survive. Not after they made me how I am.
But of course. I'm just not confident it's going to happen to me.
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Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility.
No, I don’t want to have a traditional life at all. I want to be a wanderer. I don’t need a two story house with a white picket fence - I want a decent little apartment and a kick ass roommate. My family will be a good group of friends. I’ll save a lot of money and stress living this way. Kids are great but I don’t have the patience or capability to raise any. Marriage is possible but I don’t know how likely that is. I want a watch the stars on the hood of a car on a cliff over the city at 2 am with a joint life.
And I'm what you desire, like a siren in the night
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If you're not mating, then you're a loser at life in the only natural end that ultimately matters.
“My typology is . . . not in any sense to stick labels on people at first sight. It is not a physiognomy and not an anthropological system, but a critical psychology dealing with the organization and delimitation of psychic processes that can be shown to be typical.” —C.G. Jung
Whether I want to or not, it’s less likely than not. Anything is still possible, but also, the choices that led me to this point probably reflect a preference for a different kind of life anyway.
It’s important, though, that I find one way or another to perpetuate what I’ve learned and empower other lives rather than live my life only for myself.
It's not foreseeable until it happens.