Originally Posted by Emily
hmm... Sx/So may want a "cult of the self?" They do tend to become, perhaps even insidiously, the center of groups, the nexus of a circle, around whom the events happen, someone everyone turns to. But I guess this is too general. I know someone who may want some impact, yet don't we all want to be remembered? Immortalized? Isn't this the cult/stardom of the individual that Western -unhealthy- society has conditioned us to with the illusion-industry of the media? That "leaving a mark" definition needs some more chiseling, imo. If it's only a mental/emotional motivation, then everyone can decide wanting to leave a mark. In fact people selling trashy books, profiting on hamparte "art,"
may as well argue that they had just wanted to manifest their "true self," ya know, as Simon Sienek said about Millenials in the Workplace that they have one thing in common: they don't know what they want but they sure want to "make an impact."
But would these aspirations exist if they had continuously been practiced?
I'm not too concerned with being distinct among people or needing to do something different than what everyone else is doing. It's more important that I'm doing what I was "meant to do," i.e. living according to what I'm best at and is truly me. If that ends up being what other people are doing, so be it, and if it's totally different from them that's fine, too. Of course I enjoy standing out and getting praise for being excellent in some way--like anyone does--but I usually don't feel discouraged if I'm not being "original."
Well, sure, you're not a 4. But as you write that you're worried about your career that you're not truly who you are but a robot when doing it --- it's as if you copied
the exact thing I was relating, the struggle against templates, protocols, roles we take on to survive with(in) the crowd (otherwise, alone there're lesser chances + civilized society offers comforts). It's almost a perfect copy
because whereas in my case there's a definite need to find social support (owed to my "So blind spot"=hatred of socialized people, that which I don't advertise), you don't clearly back up your case, yet you still make it sound like it were the circumstances, not your deliberation, you're just the victim of something (you back it up only with Fe-frustration of a strong Fe user (INFJ), the need to find yourself, your preferences). Whereas if you really were an Sx/So, you should have somehow argued with Sp blind spot as incentivizer for Sx.
For don't we hear this all the time: "I just want to be me," "I want to inspire," "create value," "make an impact" associated with some really trashy "content" aiming for the quick buck? Considering your age and position in life, yours could also be a belated concern (waking up after some years of working at that robotic job, thus an aspiration, instead of a practice) - you didn't depict for me a history of your Sx, like I did. So your case can also be put down to Sx overfocus (of an So/Sp). Because at the end, and going back to hamparte art, if you are not original in any ways (original to the current taboos, not to all history), then who is to tell if what you created was a result of Sx (that is, deep intimacy, something truly from within, particular to you against some cultural taboo/barrier, so in that sense, pioneering, able to turn cultural tides), or you just label it that way (e.g. "based on real life events;" "it comes from the heart") because it is easier to profit by taking the road well traveled, thus perpetuating the templates (that the we all do because of necessary conformity but the So/Sps do it to build, not to change/subvert
). For instance, parleying on the current identity politics trend by "coming out as a transgender" in the form of an autobiographical airport novel - it's an intimate topic, without question, but is that still assertive by breaking any stereotypes, rigid conventions (the ones that constantly barricade some aspects of intimacy) by 2019?
We'll have to agree to disagree on that one. I'm not interested in being typed.
You are being "typed" (sculpted an image of) regardless... by us exchanging views and definitions... but I know what you mean. INFJs need to preserve a leader/authoritative role so if someone proved them their Ni had a too narrow view of whatever they used for judging/leading, then they'll doorslam that person for good (also applies to high range So/Sps). :/