My mind keeps going back to a particular person
They mightíve been a dual (Iím pretty sure they were)
Regardless even though it was friendship nothing more years and years later mind goes back to that person.
I was wondering if this is related to intertype relations? Itís like they made a lasting impression in my brain like how a ex-drug addict craves about their high
Most Ijs will often revisit information surrounding past decisions; in this case, perhaps an overlooked and or dismissed relationship. This regurgitation obsession seems to be one aspect that contributes to us not making the same mistake twice in future planning - unlike drug addiction. We tend to treat information as transient and disposable except for those occasions when we didn't do so well, which seem to stick out in our minds like rocks in a lake as we canoe by.....
Sometimes the mind idealizes the memory of a person and makes everything look better than it really was
That is called obsession.
right... we always learn more from failures or we remember days when something unusual happened
Originally Posted by Rebelondeck
yea for sure. mind playin tricks on me
Originally Posted by Bento
Originally Posted by Kill4Me
lmao couldn't have said it better myself
"Come! What do I care if you're no longer the one
who kissed me at 4 years old? Today I covet you,
you dressed of time! Today I need
your past! I'll remake you beautiful
as Charlotte, as Gracelyn,
as all the women of my dream!
My dream is fed with abandon,
of regret. I love only the roses
that I didn't catch. I love only the things
that could have been but didn't
happen. I see the houses, here are the roses
of the nice garden of 20 years ago!"
What is it with that person that you keep on remembering? Any specific aspect of his/her that you long for?
@peteronfireee IMO it sounds like something or someone has struck some Fi nerve for you ( as these forms of strongly relating to other people are all Fi-based imo and everyone uses some version of Fi). If this is indeed the case, you will need to give it some explanation to resolve the issue. It could be that you need an explanation as to why you (maybe you were too young? etc) feel you missed a chance or ....i dunno if that's actually the case, but if you attribute even like a very simple explanation to it it will feel better and maybe you will move on.
It might also be that you need to feel it out, so to speak, and then move on (like maybe you didn't realize how attached you felt to this person at the time and now it might be suddenly hitting you?). / 0.2 cents
(PS: yes, they might be dual, you are best placed to know this person's type since you knew them personally.)
ETA: It happens to me to sometimes that if my Fi gets activated my mind goes to unresolved FI concerns.
could be endless amount of reasons why. you need to provide more details.