One of my colleagues is a very impulsive and sociable person. I often have to give him advice. For example:
1) When he perceives an injustice he immediately gets mad, loses control and wants to go talking to the (for example) boss with an accusatory tone. I explain to him what will happen if he does that by asking him questions. "Wait a minute. What will happen if you go talking to him NOW? Right. And how will that influence your career? Yes. So wait until your mind is more clear. I'm not saying you don't have to talk to that person, but now it's not the right moment and it's clear. You need a plan".
2) He's always in a hurry and has to share his worry about tasks to other people. Even when we're not at work he always shares his worry with me. I explain him there's no need to hurry, and that it's impossible to be 100% prepared. If something goes wrong it's not the end of life, and often you perform better when you improvise. In fact I prefer spontaneity and relaxation on normal occasions, accepting the problems of future with less judgement but I focus the importance of structure on difficult occasions, while he always tries to do everything in a perfect way, but acts in an unstructured way when the situation escalates.
The other day he even pretty much stated "I needed your calmness" "You had to be there" and kept repeating it in a room full of other colleagues. He just came back from another room where a lot of difficult stuff happened. I reassured him, explaining him he had no responsability (a person wanted to report the entire office and he worried while the only person who needed to worry was the boss, lol). After my reassurance he started stating those sentences.
While I consider him to be a good friend and a funny person, I'm quite certain the intertype relation is more beneficial for him than for me. Reasons:
1) I consider him to be stressful when he starts worrying about every minor issue. I'm an anxious person, but when I'm relaxed (and it's most of the time probably) I hate to perceive anxiety in others
2) He's too pushy. I prefer to observe a lot before acting. He probably thinks I need to be pushed and doesn't understand that my approach is just different, despite me explaining it various times. In some rare occasions I may appreciate the push, but in most of the times it makes me want to beat the hell out of him.