Quote Originally Posted by FreelancePoliceman View Post
It wasn't my opposite quadra, but I grew up in a fairly Alpha family. I felt there was immense pressure to look presentable in public, and act "normal"; i.e. conventional in every way. It was as if any skepticism toward or different viewpoint from my family's shaky consensus with social expectation was taboo. You could be as dysfunctional as you liked at home, but in public you have to maintain perfectly cut grass and hyperbolically mimic the stereotype of a happy bourgeois family. And there was disapproval of voicing any real thoughts or opinions in public, even to their friends. It was suffocating and I felt like I was always pushing the envelope.

My sister is dating some quite ugly idiot right now, and she and my family are quite pleased because the fellow is from a "respectable" family. I don't think my sister has ever even felt lust or sexual attraction because it isn't presentable in public.
How do you define socially presentable? I think EIIs are much more socially presentable compared to alpha NTs. I also don't like to manifest an image that says everything is fine while everything is dysfunctional. I think alpha is associated with freedom of speech and expression, however, I heard that some other forum members also think that alpha SFs are very strict about being socially presentable. I think this is a misconception, if it is not, maybe someone can enlighten me and explain how and why this association is made and how alpha NTs (especially ILE with polr Fi) acts or wants to act socially presentable?

I think that every IE pair (Fi/Te, Fe/Ti, Se/Ni, Si/Ne) have their own understanding about what is socially acceptable or not. However, I don't think that alpha's (Fe/Ti+Si/Ne) way of doing so is to act normal.