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    Default Guess my family dynamic

    Guess how the dynamic in my home plays out based on type and intertype relations.
    Dad- ISTp
    Mom- ESTj

    Brother- ENFp
    Sister- ISTp
    Me- INTp

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    No one puts your dad in his place.
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    Chaotic? If it's anything like work environments, I don't know how the mom and dad are still together unless one has capitulated; the mother must surely have gotten tired of trying to herd cats......

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    Guess how the dynamic in my home plays out based on type and intertype relations.
    Dad- ISTp
    Mom- ESTj

    Brother- ENFp
    Sister- ISTp
    Me- INTp
    Your parents present a united front against the world but don't do much together and probably aren't having sex.

    Your oldest brother is the favorite.

    Your sister is withdrawn but gets along with her dad. She is probably the best adjusted.

    You are fucked. (And are probably carrying massive suppressed anger and are counting the days until you can make your escape.)

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    Overall atmosphere seems so extremely stilted that it would make a good absurd short-lived sitcom. At least repressions are not very strong although you might experience some.
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    Seems rather conservative, very serious/clean and moralistic with the ENFp brother probably providing the party with enough Fe and liveliness to not be complete skeletons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calm View Post
    Guess how the dynamic in my home plays out based on type and intertype relations.
    Dad- ISTp
    Mom- ESTj

    Brother- ENFp
    Sister- ISTp
    Me- INTp
    Dad runs the show because ESTj have to accept the creative Te lifestyle or else SLI will just drift off.

    You sit dumb founded, but acquiesce. Nobody knows the real you.

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    your brother is the family glue in more ways than one. without him you guys would have no point being together.

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    you and your sister are two passing ships, but you can chill out for hours. you leave one another alone for the most part. you and your Mom are the closets parent kid relationship, even though on the surface it seems like she likes your brother more. you understand her the most and she understands that, which is why she relies on you the most out of any of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Finaplex View Post
    you and your sister are two passing ships, but you can chill out for hours. you leave one another alone for the most part. you and your Mom are the closets parent kid relationship, even though on the surface it seems like she likes your brother more. you understand her the most and she understands that, which is why she relies on you the most out of any of them.
    Fucking brilliant lol. Like, spot on.

    Growing up was tough being supervisor to my mom but as I got older I realize she relies on me and trusts me more than anyone. I feel looked up to in a strange way. It's also always been hard for me to ask her for advice. It's like she was relieved when I turned 18. I never got the mother know's best feeling from her. Learning she is my supervisee helped me understand our dynamic more. I'm learning to make her feel more at ease by not nitpicking at her weaknesses.

    Also, I realize my ENFp brother is my mirage partner and everyone else's dual (mom's activity partner). As you guys have guessed, I was always the odd one out, the only Gamma in a Delta Quadra family. I notice that my brother has often fluctuated between being close with me and being close with everyone else. When we're "miraging" as I call it or at our closest, he sees everyone in the house as being annoyingly uptight like I do, but when I leave him alone for awhile he's back to being close with everyone but me. I feel like everyone resents me when I'm "keeping him from them" even though I don't do it intentionally. They desperately need his Ne Fi and He desperately needs their Si Te. It also comes off as me being a bad influence on him bc Ni believes people should do what they want to do (like I do) and so I let him do him when he's around me and Si believes in doing what you should do so he get's structure/ discipline from them. I acknowledge that it's healthier for him to interact with them more, but then will I become the bad guy and look even more Odd/ like a bad influence?

    My question now is can he be involved with/ coexist with mirage and duals healthily or will siding with one mess up the relationship with the other and vice versa? Can we ever really be a close family?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
    Your parents present a united front against the world but don't do much together and probably aren't having sex.

    Your oldest brother is the favorite.

    Your sister is withdrawn but gets along with her dad. She is probably the best adjusted.

    You are fucked. (And are probably carrying massive suppressed anger and are counting the days until you can make your escape.)
    I know I'm fucked, but what makes you say that?

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    This would be a good question on a socionics test to see how well a student socionist comprehends theory before progressing to the next step.

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    at 1st we'd need to guess the real types of those people
    Types examples: video bloggers, actors

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