Can you lovely peoples type me?
Here is a questionnaire:
What do you study or do for a living? How did you come to do that? What do you like or dislike about it?
Psychology and people. I went to undergrad for a psychology degree, and my friend asked me to help him write inspirational, motivational blogs. I donít like the monotony of it, but I like helping reshape peoplesí perspectives. I donít like the narrow scope of it.
What are your values, and why?
I value competency and consistency. I value consistency in values. A person does not have to live with the same values, but they have to be consistent in how they present themselves. I do not like hypocrisy at all. I also value curiosity because I want people to be open to different ideas and things in the world, and not just be stuck in their own bullshit.
What else do you do on a daily basis? What are your interests and hobbies? Why do you do them?
I hate that question. I donít really pay attention to any particular routine, because I donít pay attention to the details, so everything is kind of a blur. I like reading and learning about psychology, technology, different cultures, dogs. And I also like eating out and doing some entertainment things. So, Iím halfway in between a homebody and somebody who likes to go out. I enjoy learning and exploration and I like exploration and having different experiences. I donít like doing things on a weekly basis.
Describe your relations with family and friends. What do you like and dislike about them?
I usually have a lot of internal conflict between myself and others. On the surface, I can get along really well, and I know how to connect with them to get along, but ultimately, I donít feel like they understand the underlying meaning of things that are important to me.
What do you look for in friends? In romantic relationships? For friends, I look for consistency and intensity. I also like it when something sticks out about them, good or bad, that I want to figure out. For romantic relationships, I look for consistency, kindness, intellectual stimulation, passion, curiosity, and reciprocity.
What conflicts have you encountered recently with other people? Why did they happen? Which kinds seem to happen on a regular basis?
I have conflicts with other people for reasons that stem from incompetency and lack of consideration. On a more regular basis, conflict comes from mistakes, stemming from incompetency. Miscommunications also cause conflicts.
How would your friends describe you?
Words that come to mind are: firecracker, demur, behind-the-scenes, ďYou donít know whatís comingĒ, very easy-going, hard-to-read, empathetic, intelligent, analytical, calm, understanding of people, and emotionally fickle. Iíve had people say that Iím basically their translator for interpersonal dynamics.
What do people generally see as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
People generally see me as tenacious and persistent. Iím a skilled writer, and Iím able to put complex ideas into simple terms. Iím easy to get along with. People generally say that Iím courteous and kind.
What are your weaknesses? What criticism do you often face from others? What do you dislike about yourself?
Iím overly analytical. I can be very stubborn and kind of emotionally intense and dismissive. Iím also too hard on myself. Iím kind of resistant to change.
In what areas of life can you manage well on your own? In what areas of your life would you like help?
Iím good at figuring out my emotional life. Iím good at putting together conceptual ideas and Iím a quick learner of ideas. Iím good at synthesizing ideas, which is useful for work. However, Iím not very good with practical details, such as those relating to keeping a calendar and doing admin types of things.
What things do you dislike doing? What things do you enjoy more than others?
I hate doing things that I have to maintain details with. I hate maintaining a schedule and I hate making sure that people donít screw up on details. Iíd rather focus on ideas and concepts and coming up with a plan or solution.
What goals, aspirations, or plans do you have for the future? How did you come to have them?
I want to be financially stable and I want to be successful and not be mediocre. Basically, I donít want to be stuck in my life and I want to move upwards and strive for improvements. I just donít want to be in the same spot a few years from now. Thatís constantly what Iím doing Ė I always want to strive for change.
If you had enough money to live comfortably for the rest of your life without working, what would you do with your time?
I would still try to live frugally and then use my money and then use my money for whatever I felt like doing. Some money would be spent having fun and other money would be for charity. And some of it would go toward extra degrees because I would want to learn and learn from other people, too.
What traits do you find endearing that others might dislike? What traits are considered positive/neutral by others but tend to annoy you?
I donít mind people that are moderately non-PC or have controversial beliefs. The trait that tends to irritate me are those who are too passive in life. I want to be around people who want to strive for more beyond themselves.
What kinds of things do you do to manage and/or beautify your environment (your room, your house, etc.)? What do you think of daily chores?
I try to keep it minimal. Too many things and clutter overwhelm me. Daily chores are necessary, but I drag my feet on doing them.
How do you behave around strangers? I observe them. I have a formal friendliness. I come off as very formal Ė other than that, I disengage
How do you react to conflict? What do you do if somebody insults or attacks you?
I just kind of disengage Ė for the most part. But, if itís bad enough, I will. If someoneís yelling at me, I will detach because I donít want to fuel it. However, if itís a calmer situation, I will engage directly. I donít actively get into conflict, but I donít appease people in that I donít give in to people.
What is one common misconception that people have about things? Explain why it is wrong.
Itís a common misconception that morality is binary, and that what is natural is good, and what is good is natural.
What did you do last Friday?
Had quality time with my SO
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What is your biggest accomplishment?
I think this is a dumb question because it depends on the context and it will change over time, so I really hate it.
What is something you regret?
Who do you admire, and why?
I donít admire anybody because thatís putting people on pedestals, which sets you up for disappointment.
What's been on your mind? Has anything been worrying or concerning you? What problems have you encountered lately?
Relationships, work, and the future.
What are your religious or spiritual beliefs and why do you hold them?
Iím an atheist with a humanist bent. I donít believe in a higher power, but I value peoplesí agency and potential.
What are your political beliefs, and why? To what extent do you care about politics?
I really dislike politics. Iím more of a centrist with a stronger bent on fiscally conservative stances and a touch of socially liberal views.
Would you ever be interested in starting a business? Why or why not? What role would you play in it? What kind of business would it be?
Yes, because it would be a source of financial stability. I would like to do business consulting, using my expertise to help other people. I would like to be in upper management.
What kind of work environment do you prefer? What do you look for in a job?
I like semi-structured with a touch of playfulness and idea sharing. My ideal type of work would be in a think tank, with a variety of tasks with a purpose.
What is or was your favorite school subject and why?
I liked research methods, logic, and statistics because I like how you could apply data to practical applications.
How do you approach responsibility? What do you tend to expect of others?
Naturally, Iím very type A about getting stuff done, and you expect others to follow through, but over the years, Iíve become a procrastinator and I really donít care about what other people do.
Where did you go on your most recent vacation? What did you do there? How did you like it and why?
I recently went to a different state and it was fun because I ate food and spent quality time one-on-one.
What were you like as a kid? How have you changed since you were a child?
I constantly asked questions. I was very stubborn. I was very cautious and hesitant and respectful. Also, very emotionally intense.
What was your high school experience like?
It was a blur because for most of it I was depressed, so I kind of took the role of a class clown, and I would egg people on.
Talk about a significant event from your life.
Why would I want to do that with strangers?
Do you like kids? Why or why not?
Kids are good from afar because Iím afraid Iím going to say something thatís not going to be kid friendly.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
Safety. I would want them to be well-educated and to know a wide variety of things. I would want to know that they are safe and have some common sense in navigating the world and avoiding danger.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
Yes, because I canít figure out something about myself, deep down. Basically, if Iím trying to figure out an answer to something that I just canít put my finger on, I get obsessive and fixated until I come to a resolution.
How do you see other people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
Thereís too much individuality and self-centeredness and itís really hard for people to see out of their own asses.
What do you do if you're not getting what you want? What approach do you use?
I just go look for an alternative, or I give up depending on how bad I really want it. I consider the pros and cons.
Are you comfortable taking leadership roles? In what areas? Why or why not?
No, because I like to control things from behind the scenes. Iíve been called a puppet-master, kind of. I like indirect control.
How often do you get angry? What kinds of things make you angry?
I get angry all the time Ė itís usually related to people and my interactions with them Ė because of peoplesí incompetency and inconsistency.
What is the best thing that happened to you during the past week?
My mom brought me some soup when I was sick.
What is the worst thing that happened to you during the past week?
I got sick.
What is the purpose of life? What do you find personally meaningful in life?
I hate this question because itís so trite.
What is the most interesting place you have been, and why?
I donít know. Everything just kind of blurs together.
How do you dress or manage your appearance?
Iím either really dolled up or very casual. It depends on my mood, basically.
Do you like surprises?