Put it this way: the leading function is "the" value, it's what everything else is essentially subordinate to.
On the other hand, the vulnerable function is strongly devalued, to the point where we don't (by default) see any place for it in the world, so it's unlikely to be consciously expressed in our values.
It's more ambiguous with other functions. The demonstrative function is prioritized to a degree, often quite a bit, although it "shares space" with the creative function. The suggestive function can be neglected too, to the point where it isn't very visible as a value, at least in our behavior. I don't put a lot of stock in the "conscious/unconscious" interpretation either, it doesn't really hold up IME.
It seems to me what you are really criticizing here is the lack of Ni (and preference for Ti > Te, in the sense of coming to conclusions quickly) rather than the presence of Se -- which did come out before in how you described your values. It isn't outside the realm of possibility for someone to criticize their dual's weaknesses. This is why I prefer to look at how someone's psyche works internally; the IM element relationships are clearer there, in terms of priorities and how you see the world.Another reason for creating another video was that I've had to spend copious amounts of time with who I strongly suspect to be an LSI. While I thought I was Se valuing, her excessive use of Se seems incredibly foolish to me. For example, she works incredibly fast, making many mistakes, but she dislikes going through things slowly and carefully because it's "boring". Secondly, she's very head-strong and immediately conclusive without waiting for more information to be explained. For example, in some of my classes, when a professor makes an assumption without explaining it, she becomes immediately annoyed while my reaction is to wait and see if it's going to be explained. If it isn't, then I'll ask a question. I had a friend in high school who was similar to this, though he made fewer mistakes since he's been trained for a long time to be very detail-oriented.
I find these traits annoying because too many judgements are being made too quickly, meaning that a number of them are likely to be pre-emptive, based on too little information, or down-right false since the user made an error in logic. If the SEE is anything like this, then I can't be certain that they're my dual.



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