Quote Originally Posted by consentingadult View Post
I don't know if this makes sense, but what drives me crazy and makes me really angry with my female SLI duals, is that they are not willing to go all the way, so to speak, often for obvious and perfectly reasonable reasons. To me it feels like a matter of unfulfilled possibilities, necessities even, a sense of biological injustice. Thing that do not bother us with other types, suddenly become life-and-death issues when it concerns our duals. And then we freak out over trivial matters.

ETA: let me share an anecdote here. I had a female SLI (platonic) friend, who I occasionally went out with (meanwhile I was and still am in a relationship with an SEI woman). One time she cancelled a meeting in order to hang out with other people for a world championship soccer match. I wasn't to happy about that cancellation, but okay, I let it pass. FF a couple of years later, we make an appointment for a meeting two weeks in advance, she texts me one hour before meeting that some friends of her are over from Brasil, and she opts to meet them instead of me. I freak out, angry because she apparently prefers other people over me, realize this friendship is not working for me, so I send her an email message terminating the friendship and wishing her all the best. I got no response by email, but she does post the following video on facebook the next day, only to remove it after two days:

@consentingadult, yes, SLI’s can seem inert. I asked my SLI father why he married my mother, and he said “She forced me into it.”
When I was dating my SLI ex-wife, I tried to undress her in her apartment and she picked me up (I outweighed her by 60 lbs) and she threw me into the hallway and slammed the door. A month later, we slept together.
A few months after that, I asked her to marry me and she said, “No, we should just continue to see each other”, the way we had been doing. I told her that we were either going to get closer or we were going to break up. A couple weeks later, she agreed.
With SLI’s, you have to give them a lot of warning. My father would never do anything at the last minute. And you have to be persistent.

That was my mistake. I was persistent.

Let me tell you, people tell you exactly who they are. You just have to listen and decide if that’s what you want and are willing to live with. Because they are not going to change.