Since this is a socionics forum do you want to explain how her responses to you so far are a manifestation of polr or is it just that you think her incapable of understanding you due to polr? If so that is pretty insulting. I believe her to be intelligent enough to understand you and disagree with you at the same time.
As for type of the OP, too soon to tell. If some of what she says is true but exaggerated it sounds a lot like teen rebellion. I went through my own. I am sure my family thought me an ungrateful little monster but I grew out of it. I didn't give the tough girl act while doing it but I did cause my mom and family a lot of grief. We have no idea what has led her to describing herself in this way. My mom had no idea what led me to act out in certain ways until I was an adult. I still haven't told her everything since she would blame herself. Have you never had evil thoughts of ruling the world, crushing your enemies, etc... like some socionics descriptions of your self type suggest?
I am not even sure why I am getting involved other than you tried to use socionics against a forum member in a way that doesn't make sense to me. Incidentally, any ethical type could have responded to OP in the same way you did. Any ethical type could have defended her in the way @
sbbds. There are some things that go beyond socionics type behaviors as you have demonstrated here. If you want to go by the book your actions look more like the actions of an ethical type so maybe take a breath before telling someone their polr will prevent them from understanding your point of view.
She is perfectly capable of understanding you. She just doesn't agree with you.