Quote Originally Posted by FarDraft View Post
In general, I'd have to agree with this. But in some circumstances, it can be justified. An ILI, for example, wouldn't talk about things they like for too long since they prefer to look at what's missing (negativism). Thus, someone using the words "I love" excessively is probably not ILI.

It's best to use someone's language as a guide to see which (signed) functions they prefer rather than concluding someone's type based on their language. This works because language is the manifestation of our thought process and our thought process is predominantly governed by our preferred and strong functions; but, at the same time, we speak and think so much in a day that there is bound to be variability, meaning that hard standards would be overly simplistic.
This makes some sense and is different than typing people based on random phrases or a paragraph here and there they have posted online.

When I was in a long term relationship with an ILI the only time I heard him use the word "love" was when he said it to me. I always said it first then he would respond with it. I had to train him to say it back even though I knew he did I still wanted to hear it too. He didn't even say he loved his parents the whole time I knew him. He may have used it in relation to something he studied or one of his hobbies at least once but I can't think of one time. I know he loved his cat because he cried a little when it died. He didn't even cry when his dad died. I don't recall my ILI step dad saying it either except rarely. He said my family said it so much it lost meaning. Not true but in his perception I guess it did. He told me he loved me and was proud of me on his death bed but he didn't have to. I already knew. I am glad he did. It was a beautiful ending to our father/daughter relationship.

If someone is effusive it is probably safe to assume they are not ILI but random phrases people say are often used to type and retype people on this forum. So yeah, I would not rule out ILI for someone online based on using the word "love" to describe an interest or even a relationship they were in but if they were showering me with compliments and being very emo I would consider other types first though. Anyone telling random people they love them or adore them and throwing <3s around I would not consider ILI first. I am more formal in writing than I am in natural conversation so people who have taken a phrase I used and mistyped me with it have annoyed me if they chased me with it so I can feel for some of the self types EII who are chased with INFP typing because they say something an EII would never say (In Russia) I don't have high expectations here anymore, not that I ever really did. I just find it funny when someone who considers themselves an expert on socionics or is seen as one by others consistently mistypes people.

Edit: I want to add I am not butthurt because sol mistypes me since he agrees with my self type. I just like making him work for it. He can be lazy translating his analysis of someone into English.