Ive a problem
I notice that in social situation, my strategie for relating to people is to forget my personnal interst and try to harmonize relationship for everyone, when you have situations like ppl want be friend, ppl want to get this girlfriend and stuff.
I noticed this strategy end ALWAYS in gossip no matter why. I end to find idiot behavior into myself and sometime other ppl (wich is perhaps not that healthy).
Anyone relate to that ? this dynamic begin to be annoying.
I can avoid this by LDARing but in this case I do my stuff and there is another problem appearing :
for example I'm doing a project solo (wich is generally my main autist project, music), then try to include some ppl in the project, but this end always to fail because Ill not force ppl to follow my stuff (wich is normal). I would like something like a group wich is okay with everyone and everyone doing their stuff but everyone stay okay with everyone. But this end generally in fight for who have the best ambition and stuff or other ppl just wanting to have their life (Ive understand the two stuff). This is wy I abandonned this for the moment and I just chat with people not concentrating that much into my goals (wich go back to the "finally go to gossiping")
Anyone noticed this problem ? Especially about the "ever ending in gossip even if that was not the first objective"
I lost friend due to this and this begin to be really annoying.
Basically feeling like my personnality is BS