Quote Originally Posted by andreasdevig View Post
For example, I think it's possible to want intimacy without being aggressive, and being aggressive without caring much for instimacy.
Agree. In case of sx 4s, they still can be a more aggressive subtype. They may feel and express anger more than sadness and act against their shame (despite feeling underlying shame). Sx 4s can be prideful even!

Yeah, it was a different description of So 4s than I usually hear. This one was more to do with being part of an in crowd, being popular and what not.
So 4s still want to belong. The group in this case would likely be more counter-cultural or elitist as opposed to popular. As Socials they still would like to have a sense of group identity. For 4s, goths for instance.