How do you show it and how do you behave?
(Not romantically, it's like the other thread but the opposite)
How do you show it and how do you behave?
(Not romantically, it's like the other thread but the opposite)
Last edited by Faith; 10-28-2018 at 11:56 PM.
I look at the ground
Man grows used to everything, the scoundrel!
-Raskolnikov
Show them deference and respect or try to make other people
I troll them a little bit and apologize if it didn't go over well.
I thought about this for a long time. I don't think in terms of "do I like this person?" Instead, my behavior is more or less instinctive. I can tell how someone feels about me, and I react according to that. If I get the impression that someone likes me, it's easier to just be nice to them.
In other words, my attitude towards a person depends on their attitude towards me. Ofc, this isn't true always. Sometimes I dislike people who like me, but it never happens the other way around.
Give them some more
I'm definitely guilty of this. It is just playful but I have had to apologize. It's like when you are a little kid and like a girl. You pull her hair or pinch her. Annoy her. If I am arguing with you over a period of time I probably like you in some way. It can be like flirting to me.
"And in those days shall men seek death, and shall not find it, and shall desire to die, and death shall flee from them."
Man, I can relate.
I held the elevator door for this ESI whom I've seen before but not talked to, and she got in and thanked me. I told her I didn't want the elevator to have to make two trips.
Later, I saw her in the hall, squinting at her phone and to make conversation, I said "You know, they make bigger phones". She didn't look up, she didn't react, nothing about her changed except she started hating me.
Talk about tough audiences.
When I was a little kid, probably around ten, we went swimming. My family and my sister brought her friend. I'm the big brother so I am too cool for them but my sister's friend doesn't know this. We basically fought all day. She stood up to me. On the way home my mom said, "It's funny how much you like that girl." I was like "What?! I can't stand her." But my mom was right. I didn't know it at the time.
"And in those days shall men seek death, and shall not find it, and shall desire to die, and death shall flee from them."
I show a lot of interest in what they have to say and ask questions in order to prolong the conversation, in contrast to my habitual method of dealing with people which is to maintain polite conversation for only as long as I have to. I smile more, am more relaxed, less formal, but I don't know how perceptible this is.
nothing
I take the map of Siberia out of my pocket and throw dart at it then I move there as pointed by a dart for the next 5 years. Simple as that.
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Oh, I was about to say “grab their cock LOLOL”. Hmm..~
I think I try to be attentive to their needs and fulfill them however I can, if they seem like they might be interested in engaging with me too. I’m just more attentive and responsive, putting more effort into interacting postively with them overall.
I usually get pulled into orbit by their gravitational lure.
It depends on the person. If I like someone, and if I feel like I can tell them, I usually will, if it's a platonic relationship. If they make me feel comfortable, some people I will tell them often how I feel about them, or I might say nicer things to them more than others, and I'll probably tease/joke around with them more. Just really let my hair down around them. Maybe if I feel like they are 'safe' and won't reject me. I'll seek them out in a crowd, tell them things I wouldn't tell others, just able to be more myself. Some people I might like and they make me nervous, maybe I respect them and I'm worried about them thinking I'm an idiot or something, so I wont tell them to protect myself from the rejection. In those cases I usually wait for them to make the first move, admitting they like me. If they don't, I will keep my distance and everything will stay the same. TBH though, I am usually on guard around mercurial people, even if I like them, even if they admit they like me. I could never loosen up very much around them as much as someone who is more open and stable..some people I definitely proceed with caution more than others.
You seem like a very nice person. I do like you. *hugs*....jk....no hugs.
I am called nice by people, but I'm pretty sure it's accidental. I don't try to be mean or harmful, but somehow nice emerges from my actions and treating people how I would like to he treated. Some people call me a jerk or asshole. I can see where they get that, but that is usually from misunderstanding what I said.
Force them to talk to me. Make eye contact. Figure out what I like about them and tell them what it is. Get them to talk about themselves.
LSI: “I still can’t figure out Pinterest.”
Me: “It’s just, like, idea boards.”
LSI: “I don’t have ideas.”
Prank
I'll usually go out of my way to try to talk with them. I think my interest is pretty obvious most of the time, at least that's what I infer, judging by the responses of the people around me who see me do this.
I do not, however, ever tell the person that I like them. I've always been this way, even in friendships. I believe that if the person can't tell how I feel about them by my actions, then there's something seriously wrong. (I've since realized that this is a way to sort Fi users from Fe users.) I might say that I like something that they do, or admire this or that characteristic about them, but I never say that I like them.
Once I've been around a person whom I really like, though, I can get pretty protective of them. As in, defend the person and the relationship against all external threats.
I don't often meet people whom I'd like to have a romantic relationship with. I mostly meet people who are interesting, but that's about as far as it goes. Lunch, Dinner, doing stuff together is all pretty easy, but getting closer is hard for me. The woman has to express some real interest before I start down that path.
When I like someone and I'm not that serious about them, I'll bounce right up to them like a puppy and start talking enthusiastically about nothing. When I really like someone, I'll steel my nerves and talk to them as if they are just another person and try not to let on that I think they are important. My hope is that, by this means, I can get to know them better and minimize my chances of seriously screwing something up or looking like a complete idiot. If they show an interest in return, then I bump it up just a step. If they don't show an interest, I just go on as if nothing happened. We're friends who like each other, social acquaintances and occasional good company, and nothing more serious than that.
When I find a real partner, I let them in all the way.
Make playful sort of jokes and share memes.
I get shy and start observing them for their motives and needs if I can help at all. Then take opportunities to create rapport and more interaction if possible. But sometimes that stage is never hit and I am stuck in admiration mode... Unless there is a falling out that changes everything e.g. respect given not being reciprocated.
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I'm a mix of adoring and volatile. I see so much good and beauty in them. Sometimes I try to contort myself into what I think they need, never show anything bad, to "suffer" for them silently. My brain keeps expecting to be rewarded for having tried so hard. =.=
Outside of immediate family, I've never liked nor disliked people in general and I've never been drawn to particular individuals; this neutral view has served me well in business but I've very few friends and they make most of the effort to keep in contact. I've no problem striking up conversations with strangers but I'm not the one who normally reaches out. Because I wasn't one to automatically notice people, I decided to get into profiling, which gave me better understanding but didn't bring me any closer......
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Ahhhhbsolutely nothing!
Well something happens but it mostly involves thinking about what kind of person they would be in my life and how our marriage might end up and then maybe things we'd talk about.
I actually don't know if I like liking someone and doing something about it. Sometimes I think I would rather just be alone instead and admire people away from me.
I do love talking to people I like when I can, and try to see what sparks them up. Other than that I like to stay out of their life.
I usually do nothing because good opportunities are rare. I am rather emotionally intense in scenarios like these, but I don't think anyone would guess it.
I become more chatty, share more of my normally internal puns, cycles of thought and observations, smile more, react positively to touch and laughing. I still don't initiate conversation most of the time, although i will join more often if they're talking about subjects of interest near me.
Oh I like this one, this is easy.
I flirt by teasing and seeing if they get all my sarcastic jokes. I try and get the person to experience interesting emotions around me constantly making envelope pushing jokes. I also try and hook in a few inside jokes so that there is something between me and them that they do not have with others. My goal is to get them to have so much fun around me that everytime they see me they get a feeling that their day just got more interesting.
I love the feeling when it works and I get that smile from them that they know I am up to something, there is nothing like it. Also surprising, I LOVE to surprise people.
I become very, very shy and also self-conscious
also i might initiate in the very beginning, as in I might go up and talk to them, but won't necessarily keep initiating after that.
I have had issues around liking someone, as in I feel like I am not good enough. I unconsciously - and now as it is surfacing more so, consciously - desired people who play no games and are straightforward. Because I am like that, and I don't want to be hurt by those who aren't. I find that cruel and hard to get over.
If I like someone, I am sincere and I open up to them, and hope they want to do the same as well...that they would want to open up to me as well.
Tbh I have triggers around this so it's kinda hard to talk about. But I hope that answers the question at least somewhat.