Yesterday I was talking with my LSE friend about befriending people and shortening the distance, and she told me she doesn't like that when people she barely knows suddenly tell her some very private, personal things about themselves (like idk, about their mental health problems for example, like one IEI girl did). She also stated that it's intriguing to her when someone shares some small pieces of information about themselves here and there, some 'tips', it makes her more interested in that person. She said, let me quote it, 'with Fi1 it's like wow, it's some kind of a secret; if I say that, I might push their buttons, but I might as well discover something awesome; damn, should I take the risk or not? I wonder all the time what to say and how, so that I don't alienate that person from me but get a bit of new information.'
And this is where I get to my point: she does like to take things slow, but at the same time it can be frustrating to her when it's too slow, when she wants that person to be close to her already, but the relationship isn't there yet, when they are still keeping their distance and seem to say by that something like, 'maybe I like you, maybe I don't, you have to guess for yourself' - she said it makes her even more excited, but anxious, too, and she doesn't know what to do in such a situation. We were wondering if that's normal for this type or maybe she's like that because she's a Three in enneagram. Any thoughts, any similar experiences that would throw light on the matter?